Why are women 35+ disliked so much?

[TheP0]

Hi this is not an inflammatory question. i want some perspective. Mean no offence to anyone.

society deems women over 35 as unattractive, not fertile, unwanted women, women who get no male interest etc and men most likely just like younger women cos they are hardwired for it and wont see you or want you the same way. Theres no chance for you if 35+ etc. For men it's not a problem if they 35+

How do women over 35 accept this? Is it just a fad that society promotes or is it real?

Hmm. I think women tend to look after themselves more. I know OLD may not be representative of the general population but men of 45 plus look really haggard.

Not all men of 45 plus are haggard. Some guys take care of themselves as they have the time and money.

And it also doesn't mean they are a shit father as they may have had their child/children young.

Some guys take care of themselves as they have the time and money.

Some do. Those that have the time, money and interest in taking care of themselves are the minority on OLD (which I pointed out may not be representative of the wider population).

Im 43 and my search range is up to 50. I see a lot of mugshots when I'm idly swiping 😬

@RedWingBoots

Was your comment about not being a shit father aimed at another poster?

I don't disagree however my point is that men are often invisible / unattractive to women all their life = no change.

Most women on the other hand go from being extremely attractive to men in their 20s to being attractive to men in the 40s and above. Still attractive but it can feel like you're invisible when comparing it to the attention you received in your 20s.

The vast majority of men are invisible to women on a looks only basis whereas that isn't the case the other way around. The drop off as women hit 35+ feels like a bit change however.

Well I wonder if he is drop dead gorgeous by your description? Maybe he was sad and lonely and just took what was available to him?

"Intelligent ones find empowered, experienced women a huge turn on!"

• Exactly this! 👍

Desperation will drive many to do all sorts, and a lack of real choices. Sex is really easy to find.

not fertile

Excuse me? Since when are women mid thirties infertile? Do you mean mid forties?

I am 42 and never experienced this - am also
overweight too (size 16-18) and still get men fitting with me - I don't care as I am happily married to my DH.

Can't comment on dating but anyone who is rude about your age obviously isn't worth.

Also - who cares what strangers think 🤷🏼‍♀️

Musttryharder - are you saying that men end up with women 35+ out of desperation or lack of choices?

@Musttryharder2021

Are you a man or woman?

Eh? The question is ridiculous, because women over 35 are not disliked. They may not be deemed as fuckable by men on Tinder as younger women, but are you honestly taking that to reflect the attitude of the entire world? I mean, given that over half the global population is female or children or too old to care, why are you deciding that the only important opinion comes from men who are looking for sex?

Bullshit

@xJoyfulCalmWisdomx

what you said:-

*So am I. Online I was so pragmatic. I went for guys just about attractive enough that if they won me over with their personalities there could be attraction.

I was still not valued.
dreadful experience for women.
Men have all the power online. Literally all they need to do is ask out women their own age or ask out women who being honest they might have q chance with in real life.
I literally couldn't have dated down any more than I did*

^ 💯 per cent agree with you. My experience also. I have no idea why exactly. Maybe OLD attracts the worst men. I honestly no idea the reason. Real life isn’t great, but still much better. Even as an older woman. The whole Online Dating thing is a confidence-knock for any women of a sensitive nature, I would say. Unless you are absolutely assured of who you are and what you want - and probably the most sensitive will be a bit vague on that perhaps - I think it’s a pretty awful experience. Also be careful of the Personality Disordered, and various normal-seeming weirdos!! OLD crawling with them both.

I kinda I’d get what you mean op. I do think some people assume older women (though I’d say it’s more 50+ than 35+) are boring/motherly/a Karen. Like the stereo types of older women seem particularly bland and harsh.

I don’t think it’s at all true tho. The last few years I’ve met some amazing vibrant and confident women 50-70.

Im turning 38 and I think my life is getting better, more interesting and I am getting more confident as I get older. I also particularly like a verbal smack down of a younger arrogant male too to give them perspective (partly a joke).

What a nasty thing to say. Why are you needling at people?

@TwinklingFairyLightz

This thread and others on OLD are very negative, so I was making the point all types of people go on OLD.

I'm 42, divorced. I feel sad to say i actually agree a bit with OP. I can't imagine finding love again ( been single now for 5 years ). I don't know anyone in real life who i could date and men online generally just seem awful ( sorry for the sweeping generalisation). Feel destined to be on my own now forever 😞

I met mostly really nice, normal, successful men on OLD. I was around 50 at the time. If you turn into a matronly overweight 50 year old then your choices aren't the same as if you stay fit, slim, active etc.

Being attractive to wankers is really not that high on my dream board

snap 😂

Maybe he was sad and lonely and just took what was available to him?

Don’t be a green eyed killjoy musty

This.

Ok, I haven't got as far as that.

My anecdotal point was that, from what I can see, men on OLD start to look haggard after 45. I don't see female profiles though, so can only compare with my rl friends - most of whom I know via sport. So, my opinion of women in their 40s is fit and healthy. I'm not seeing many fit and healthy men on OLD. Like I said, I'm only commenting on OLD, so may not be representative of the general population.