Why are women 35+ disliked so much?

[TheP0]

Hi this is not an inflammatory question. i want some perspective. Mean no offence to anyone.

society deems women over 35 as unattractive, not fertile, unwanted women, women who get no male interest etc and men most likely just like younger women cos they are hardwired for it and wont see you or want you the same way. Theres no chance for you if 35+ etc. For men it's not a problem if they 35+

How do women over 35 accept this? Is it just a fad that society promotes or is it real?

@PeterEssex That thing about vaginas just isn't true. It's just a plain factual inaccuracy. Muscles don't become loose from use (and even if they did, why on earth would different partners make a difference to that?). Why would you even think for one minute that that patently untrue thing might be real?

And thinking it's "icky" makes a man sound like an immature child, not a desirable partner anyway, so no loss whatsoever to these "used" women.

@Thereisnolight Agreed. I feel so bad for women just starting out in adulthood who might read this nonsense on the internet and feel bad about themselves. And the way some men need to bring women down by assuring them they'll become grotesque hags at 25, 30, 35, or whatever age they haven't reached yet.

That"s not true. I went for guys who were good looking enough not to be described as ugly but as I wasn't gorgeous and young I didn't even count as a woman!! "All women go for the top 20% of men..".
No. They don't. It is men who do this.

I keep hearing this and about invisible older women, but I'm 52, never been particularly attractive IMO, but I get "interest" from men c. 45-60.

I'm not particularly interested in them, other than as friends, but they're definitely about!

It's just amateur psychology, but I wonder if it's women who've always relied on their looks who find this most?

@PeterEssex Can you explain the biological processes which would make it true? And I'm not talking about childbirth, only this idea that sex (and, for some reason, particularly sex with different partners) wears out and permanently loosens a vagina. How could it happen?

If you believe ANY of the things you posted in your original comment, then your personality is enough reason for no women on dating apps to pick you.

So am I. Online I was so pragmatic. I went for guys just about attractive enough that if they won me over with their personalities there could be attraction.
I was still not valued.
dreadful experience for women.
Men have all the power online. Literally all they need to do is ask out women their own age or ask out women who being honest they might have q chance with in real life.
I literally couldn't have dated down any more than I did.

@PeterEssex But you're the person who came on here and stated something obviously untrue about women's bodies TO WOMEN, and have not only not provided any evidence but are also not even attempting an explanation? And I'm the unreasonable one for objecting to you talking rubbish? Riiiight. Yeah, those dating app women don't know what they're missing out on.

Women have a sweetshop mentality!!
Omg you troll!

Oh your back🙄

@vodkaredbullgirl Oh no, is he a recurring troll? I always take the bait. Although there are plenty of men who really do seem to believe that stuff.

He was under a different name, same Peter with something else after it.

But you've just said you would be turned off by a woman who has a past.

Is it "the data" or is it your Madonna/ where complex that has you single?

Whereas the men would sleep with 80% of these women then brand her a jaded icky whore with a worn out fanny later?

Neither do I . Men sense it and treat me better too .

See men dating younger women, see it in news, social media, YouTube etc

The only older men dating younger women are the men who have kept themselves in shape and are wealthy.

OLD is full of overweight 50 year old men in minimum wage jobs looking for younger women. The younger women have no interest in them.

That is horrific.

I would've gone and asked to speak to their boss and the people running the site.

What they want and what they get are two different things .

@cheekychatta

Yes and also what they've seen in the media. They don't grasp that they aren't George Clooney though 😂

Or have his money !

I don’t think this is true. Women over 35 tend to be better off, more settled, have established family and friends. They are the glue of families and tend to be busy and productive. If you mean the “Karen” stereotype it doesn’t really apply in the UK as women are either icily sarcastic or cold rather than screaming abuse. They just don’t.

I think women only feel they become unattractive or overlooked as they age due to comparing themselves to when they were in their twenties. In reality they're still very attractive and have a lot to offer but just not at the artificial heights of when they were in their twenties.

Men on the other hand tend to go from being pretty undervalued in their twenties to more average once 35+. Men don't have such a big change and therefore it impacts them less.