Why are women 35+ disliked so much?

[TheP0]

Hi this is not an inflammatory question. i want some perspective. Mean no offence to anyone.

society deems women over 35 as unattractive, not fertile, unwanted women, women who get no male interest etc and men most likely just like younger women cos they are hardwired for it and wont see you or want you the same way. Theres no chance for you if 35+ etc. For men it's not a problem if they 35+

How do women over 35 accept this? Is it just a fad that society promotes or is it real?

Why would it?

I'm 38 (and fat) and dating a 28yo who seems to think I'm the most beautiful woman ever
I think he needs an eye test but I'm not objecting!

No I don't think this is true have you made it up yourself

Loss of libido, vaginal atrophy etc

I know a handful of men who only like dating and being in relationships with women 10+ years older than themselves.

One is a good friend and he's complained that some women seem to have self-esteem problems for not understanding they are attractive.

Not all women suffer from that.

I lodged with a woman who was nearly 50 and had reached the menopause before 40. She kept dating and having relationships with much younger men.

I'm curious, why do they seek out older women in particular?

yes, I am suspicious, but I immediately think it's about money.

Maybe they can't do better within their own age range?

Because people don’t like what they can’t understand.

generally women over 35 are comfortable in their own skin, take less bullshit from everyone, don’t care about how others feel about them and just live their life as their authentic self and Men can’t wrap their heads around that. How dare women have their own mind and thoughts ey!

and I think for a lot of younger women, it’s similar.. for me in my 20’s i found women in their 40’s very intimidating but i realise I was probably just in awe of how comfortable they were in themselves.

look at the term ‘karen’.. its to put these exact women in their place because how dare they use their voice about anything.

I do think society is harsher on older women than men, for definite.

However, the flip side is as I've hit my late 40's I've stopped giving a fuck what men or 'society' thinks of me. It's actually wonderfully liberating....

I'm not sure it's proactive dislike. It's just a other facet of insidious misogyny.

Being attractive to wankers is really not that high on my dream board.

This is the best quote ever! @MrsTerryPratchett

Love @MrsTerryPratchett reply.

Are they?

I'm older than 35 and didn't realise society didn't like me.

What stupidity is this. I thought we did away with this trope long ago.

I'm 43 and bloody brilliant. I've come into my own in my 40's . I'm confident , attractive (to myself and my DP, couldn't care less if I'm attractive to others ). I'm taken far more seriously now.

I wear what I want to and frankly I get far more compliments than I did at 25 when I slavishly tried to look like others. Lovely but again I don't care.

The other fantastic benefit is no, the morons , usually men but the odd silly pick me women, have started to ignore me. Excellent, not only am I happier, more confidant and more successful but the vapid robots ignore me. A bit win win if you ask me. I no longer need to summon the energy to laugh at them.

The only time this is ever an issue is if people are too hung up on how others view them or seek the approval of people that they really shouldn't. That's an issue for therapy not the rest of the world.

Have you been listening to that silly little boy Andrew tate ? He won't be around long. He will crash and burn embarrassingly like they all do.

This isn't at all true, especially not today! Maybe in like the 1950s when by 35 women would probably have already been married for 15 years and had their children the decade earlier, maybe it would be seen as an age when people were a bit older and 'less fertile' because of this? Absolutely not today, definitely not in the UK.

35 is seen as an age where things are sort of starting for a woman these days! An age for getting their dream job, or for finally deciding to settle down and have a baby, or for getting married. I'd say that in popular culture the twenties are the more fun, wild, free, years, where people seem to spend a lot of time enjoying like - travelling, studying, partying! 30s is the age where it the big parts of life sort of begin.

Some of the biggest celebrities of today are well over 35! I mean, all of the Kardashian sisters are for a start, and they're making millions from their successful businesses, so many men fancy them, so many young girls copying their style and following their fashions! (I don't personally like their style but can't deny that they look bloody amazing.)

I don't think you're right about this at all.

I didn't peak until I was in my 40s 😂😂

I know what you're referring to but there are many many other ways of looking at women.

There might be numerous other reasons so I'm curious to hear from that poster if her friend has said why.

Wait ... my vagina is going to evaporate @Musttryharder2021 ?
Shit. 😳

I’m mid 40s and can’t say I’ve noticed but I take no notice of people who don’t take any notice of me if that makes sense. For example I go to the gym and do my workout and go home. Maybe if I was younger I’d have blokes hitting on me 🤷🏻‍♀️ But I don’t notice the lack of it and don’t care anyway. I’m busy with my own life and friends

I admit though I’m happily married so not looking for dates. Saying that a good friend in her 50s was hit on at the gym and they’ve been together for 2 years now. He’s a little older than her but not much.

I was 40 when I met my DP who is 12 yrs younger than me. We are still together now, some 26 yrs later! At 40 I was far more confident and therefore attractive than I ever was in my younger days.

I will also add that my libido and various bits have not 'atrophied' and I am post-meno and not on HRT!

All your examples hinge on a woman's worth being dependent on her attractiveness to men. Do you actually believe that?

I didn't have that experience until I was about 50 in terms of male attention, and my career is still going at 59.

It takes a bit of effort to maintain fitness and pace to a standard I'm happy with but I've never felt under-valued.

Don't let one or two negative comments put you down, it's because they are ignorant and rude, not because of how you are.