I've NC for this as it's embarrassing.
So my partner works nights in a manual labour job and always has done. Tonight before he left he bent down to give our DD a kiss goodnight and I noticed he was wearing certain underwear.
He only ever wears that underwear when sex is on the cards. He bought it entirely for my benefit or so I thought. It doesn't do much for me to be honest as I'm not particularly into extravagant pants but there we go.
They're not 'everyday' boxers and definitely not the sort of thing you'd want on display to your colleagues which would definitely be the case as there's alot of bending and lifting in his job. Think moving boxes etc.
It took me by surprise so I asked him why he was wearing his "sexy" underwear to work. He said "I'm not" to which I replied that I'd just seen them.
He was tripping over himself to explain how its because they're comfortable and airy. He sweats alot at work and gets hot. He then went on to say that he had put a towel in his bag aswell to use to wipe his head and face when he gets too hot.
Based on my OP alone would you find it suspicious?
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Why would he be wearing his 'sexy' underwear to work?
Excuses5000 · 04/08/2022 22:14
Mango101 · 04/08/2022 22:45
Surely men and women cheat to the same extent or the maths doesn't work :)
geojellyfish · 04/08/2022 23:26
Who does the laundry in your household? If he's been wearing the same style all week, presumably the pants are in the laundry basket or been washed?
MaxOverTheMoon · 04/08/2022 23:26
Did he put them on to feel nice about himself and then felt like he couldn't tell you that and dug himself into a hole?
If a bloke mentioned to me that I was wearing my favourite confidence boosting pants and got suspicious over it I wouldn't be very impressed.
925XX · 04/08/2022 23:25
Does he normally text you with "Hey Beautiful" when asking if you want some baby milk picking up?
TiredYorkshireMam · 04/08/2022 23:28
I'm so sorry. It doesn't look good.
The fact he asked if you want him to bring back baby milk / nappies when he doesn't usually rang alarm bells for me.
He wants to bring them back as they are "proof" that he's been at work.
geojellyfish · 04/08/2022 23:26
Who does the laundry in your household? If he's been wearing the same style all week, presumably the pants are in the laundry basket or been washed?
geojellyfish · 04/08/2022 23:26
Who does the laundry in your household? If he's been wearing the same style all week, presumably the pants are in the laundry basket or been washed?
TiredYorkshireMam · 04/08/2022 23:28
I'm so sorry. It doesn't look good.
The fact he asked if you want him to bring back baby milk / nappies when he doesn't usually rang alarm bells for me.
He wants to bring them back as they are "proof" that he's been at work.
Aquamarine1029 · 04/08/2022 22:21
Suspicious as fuck and he's panicking that you caught him out.
I doubt he went to work tonight.
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MaxOverTheMoon · 04/08/2022 23:34
Sometimes I like wearing my favourite pants for no other reason than they bring my a little joy. They don't boost my confidence but I feel nice putting them on.
OP everyone is telling you your dh is cheating. Imagine if he just felt like wearing his favourite pants and you've had all this drama and been fed a ton more by MN for no reason. Either you trust him or you don't. Don't let MN feed this further, posters forget it's a real marriage when they get excited on threads like this, it isn't a who dunnit, it's your relationship. Don't get caught up when there really could be an innocent explanation.
ExplodingCarrots · 04/08/2022 22:50
@Decidualcast I didn't know they were a thing either until I saw another thread on here . If my DH appeared wearing them my nethers would glue shut .
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