I've NC for this as it's embarrassing.
So my partner works nights in a manual labour job and always has done. Tonight before he left he bent down to give our DD a kiss goodnight and I noticed he was wearing certain underwear.
He only ever wears that underwear when sex is on the cards. He bought it entirely for my benefit or so I thought. It doesn't do much for me to be honest as I'm not particularly into extravagant pants but there we go.
They're not 'everyday' boxers and definitely not the sort of thing you'd want on display to your colleagues which would definitely be the case as there's alot of bending and lifting in his job. Think moving boxes etc.
It took me by surprise so I asked him why he was wearing his "sexy" underwear to work. He said "I'm not" to which I replied that I'd just seen them.
He was tripping over himself to explain how its because they're comfortable and airy. He sweats alot at work and gets hot. He then went on to say that he had put a towel in his bag aswell to use to wipe his head and face when he gets too hot.
Based on my OP alone would you find it suspicious?
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Why would he be wearing his 'sexy' underwear to work?
Excuses5000 · 04/08/2022 22:14
Coffeepot72 · 06/08/2022 13:56
OP, hoping you’re ok? Is there an update?
EverydayIsPJday · 05/08/2022 20:32
@speakout 🤣🤣🤣🤣 just spat my drink out, thanks for that
lemmein · 08/08/2022 02:04
I really hope the OP left this thread a long time ago. The far fetched and completely foundationless fantasy scenarios (his “lover” might have bought “The Pants” ?!!?) that people are putting out there seem almost deliberately cruel.
This thread really is Mumsnet at its lowest.
Abso-fuckin-lutely! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
This is the most bizarre thread I've read in a long time!
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Excuses5000 · 10/08/2022 09:56
His behaviour wasn't under a microscope until the other day, now I'm on guard and analysing anything that seems out of the ordinary which I told myself I would do for a while so I can either confirm my previous suspicions or put it to bed.
It doesn't fill me with confidence that not a week later he's coming home from work late, it doesn't look good does it?
I did ask him and he went on a mini rant (not at me, about his managers) about how they moved him from one task to another half way through the night and left him with loads to do that took him well past his finishing time.
That part alone wouldn't have concerned me, but coupled with the last thing and then everything in the past it does make me wonder.
I don't think he's done any reading on the impact of infidelity at all. He doesn't like reading and isn't the sort of person to do that.
I've had solo counselling and really did feel that I'd put it in the past so I'm taken aback by how suspicious I'm being lately which isn't me at all.
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