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Much younger woman staying with us...

478 replies

Idontknowwhattothink · 02/08/2022 22:36

I cannot believe I am typing this.

Myself, my partner and our small child are living together. I am early forties, he is early fifties.

We have a woman in her early twenties staying with us from another country. She is very good looking and is scantily dressed most of the time. This is not me being jealous, this is a factual observation. There is no way he has not noticed she is very attractive looking.

My partner is handsome, likeable, warm, engaging. But... He's not George Clooney and he's old.

This is the weird thing. If it wasn't so ridiculous I would be sure she had a giant crush on him. She really seems to always want to spend time alone with him, gazes at him constantly and seems somewhat besotted.

But surely surely not?

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Idontknowwhattothink · 03/08/2022 22:54

It's not up to us to find her anywhere else, her employer can do that or he can take her in himself if his wife does not object.

No I'm nothing like Emma Thompson in Love Actually. (Thankfully DH is not like her husband either.) When I randomly get compared to famous people, Kelly Brooke and Liz Hurley are the most frequent.

I guess I will never know if DH had his head turned but she's leaving in a few days anyway. He came up to bed with me (usually stays down to watch sport) i assume to not be sitting downstairs with her after our conversation.

I am glad we talked earlier. I am going to spend less time at work, it's been all consuming and we are going to schedule date time without our daughter.

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Meraas · 03/08/2022 23:17

When I randomly get compared to famous people, Kelly Brooke and Liz Hurley are the most frequent.

😂

oh OP. Bless you.

Badtasteflump · 03/08/2022 23:25

But Kelly Brooke and Liz Hurley look completely different 🫤.

I realise I'm completely missing the point of the thread 🙂.

U2HasTheEdge · 03/08/2022 23:38

Idontknowwhattothink · 03/08/2022 22:54

It's not up to us to find her anywhere else, her employer can do that or he can take her in himself if his wife does not object.

No I'm nothing like Emma Thompson in Love Actually. (Thankfully DH is not like her husband either.) When I randomly get compared to famous people, Kelly Brooke and Liz Hurley are the most frequent.

I guess I will never know if DH had his head turned but she's leaving in a few days anyway. He came up to bed with me (usually stays down to watch sport) i assume to not be sitting downstairs with her after our conversation.

I am glad we talked earlier. I am going to spend less time at work, it's been all consuming and we are going to schedule date time without our daughter.

You over-egged it there!

Aikko · 03/08/2022 23:54

“She has turned down lifts from me and hung around inconveniently on the street to wait for a lift from him. I've noticed a couple of times she changed into something very revealing when the two of them were going somewhere, changed out of it then was back in it later again after I'd been out at work.”

red flag

Catlover1970 · 04/08/2022 00:16

I suggest you spend more time with your husband and daughter and less time writing reams about a made up woman

LightDrizzle · 04/08/2022 00:39

I’ve read all your posts and you sound like a lovely couple. You don’t come across as a jealous type at all; noting she’s incredibly attractive is just factual and possibly material.

It is so nice to read about a married man in his 50’s batting off the affections of this siren, flattering as it must be. I wonder if his avoidance has perhaps made it a challenge she doesn’t want to fail! I’m pleased you aren’t extending her stay, I reckon you’ll feel even more relief than you anticipate.

U2HasTheEdge · 04/08/2022 02:26

Catlover1970 · 04/08/2022 00:16

I suggest you spend more time with your husband and daughter and less time writing reams about a made up woman

Indeed.

KarlWrenbury · 04/08/2022 02:29

kelly Brooke fgs

CambsAlways · 04/08/2022 06:38

Totally agree with catlover1970, she’s very attractive, I’m very attractive, I get compared with liz Hurley and Kelly Brooke, who incidentally look vastly different, 🤣 she sits next to my husband he moves,sounds like a lot of musical chairs going on! But has not said anything to her concerning her weird behaviour, she follows him scantily dressed, half term isn’t it! Enough said!

Mississipi71 · 04/08/2022 06:42

...and then you woke up, OP.

Mississipi71 · 04/08/2022 06:43

WhimsicalGubbins · 03/08/2022 17:48

Why is it ridiculous? I’m the wrong side of 39 and I wouldn’t kick Gabriel Byrne or Al Pacino out of bed-they’re ANCIENT! But show me two men with more charisma…

Gabriel Byrne in the Assassin ...very nice indeed.

Lanibanani · 04/08/2022 06:49

My partner is 54, very handsome and I would def be asking the woman to move out .

Nesbo · 04/08/2022 06:50

At 43 posts you can’t say the OP hasn’t put the time and effort in on this one.

KarlWrenbury · 04/08/2022 07:07

When I randomly get compared to famous people, Kelly Brooke and Liz Hurley are the most frequent.

Much younger woman staying with us...
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Idontknowwhattothink · 04/08/2022 08:05

😂😂😂
The outrage!!! I have no control over what random inebriated strangers or well-intentioned friends say to me. They're two same-era brunettes that occasionally still appear in trashy magazines. (Catherine Zeta Jones, Wonder Woman and Jennifer Connelly sometimes get mentioned too but not as often.)

Emma Thompson in Love Actually... never until till this thread. Great to see the picture that forms in people's minds as soon as they hear a woman is 40+.

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Maireas · 04/08/2022 08:13

I'm imagining you as Kelly Brook in the Wonder Woman outfit, and the husband as Al Pacino. No wonder the young overseas scanty clad person is overwhelmed.....

Festoonlights · 04/08/2022 08:16

You certainly have confidence ok.
One might even dare to say over confidence.

Whilst your friends are gushing about your likeness to Liz Hurley (who in real life in the cold light of day looks every bit as old as the rest of us! She lives close to us and I see her regularly) You husband is slowly being seduced in open view by someone who can’t even be bothered to hide her overt attentions!

Perhaps your guest thinks she is doing you a favour as your indifference is palpable or maybe she wants to obliterate your super confidence as it annoys her….meanwhile your dh is what moving away from her until you go to bed.

Festoonlights · 04/08/2022 08:18

This kind of reminds me of Riviera. Could you add in an Italian villa?

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Idontknowwhattothink · 04/08/2022 08:22

Did I say Liz Hurley didn't look her age or I was in anyway pleased with the comparisons? I said in real life this is what people have said semi-regularly.

But here on this thread, when I've said nothing whatsoever about my appearance beyond being 40+ people assume I look like the dowdy academic Emma Thompson plays in Love Actually.

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ScarlettnotOHara · 04/08/2022 08:36

This is all getting over the top ! tell her it’s not working and ask her to leave ASAP . I just hope they haven’t exchanged numbers ! Why on earth would any woman put temptation on a plate for their husband ? So many times I have heard “my husband wouldn’t look at another woman “, then he leaves !

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Idontknowwhattothink · 04/08/2022 08:37

DH is also nothing like Gabriel Byrne or Al Pacino. Much younger for a start and he's not white.

The cliches are coming thick and strong though.

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Maireas · 04/08/2022 08:40

Festoonlights · 04/08/2022 08:18

This kind of reminds me of Riviera. Could you add in an Italian villa?

It was reminding me of a book as well - is that the one where it turns out that the woman was having an affair all along?

Maireas · 04/08/2022 08:40

Idontknowwhattothink · 04/08/2022 08:37

DH is also nothing like Gabriel Byrne or Al Pacino. Much younger for a start and he's not white.

The cliches are coming thick and strong though.

What does the young woman look like?

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Idontknowwhattothink · 04/08/2022 08:43

ScarlettnotOHara · 04/08/2022 08:36

This is all getting over the top ! tell her it’s not working and ask her to leave ASAP . I just hope they haven’t exchanged numbers ! Why on earth would any woman put temptation on a plate for their husband ? So many times I have heard “my husband wouldn’t look at another woman “, then he leaves !

She's going in a few days. I'm honouring the original arrangement but not letting her stay beyond that.

I'm still completely and utterly unsure if anything strange was happening so I don't want to overreact.

Regardless it's stressing me out beyond the money I'm making on it so I'll be glad to say goodbye to her.

I think when she's gone I'll have a clearer perspective. One good thing is that it's opened up a conversation between DH and I.

I also do think that men and women can stray. Nothing in life is guaranteed.

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