Dating Thread 231: Summer Lovin

[Dancerinthemoonlight]

The Rules:

The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
Develop a thick skin.
Do not invest emotionally too soon.
It's all BS until it actually happens.
Trust your gut instinct.
People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
Know your worth.
If it's not fun, stop.
Loo update is mandatory.
No dating the thread.
Treat others as you'd like to be treated
Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with
The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future
OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

@Thisisworsethananticpated Mr K may be Mr Unavailable but he is a builder and all his mates are in a trade of some sort.....
Might be worth it😂

Definitely get your threesome organised, everyone should put fantasy into reality😍

Also generally the hottest 👀😍😍

Thanks, she is a glass half full kinds person, bit like me, so seems to work

Hmm, interesting, ( taking notes), I’m a shit plumper but I’m okay at painting and decorating…, & like tea & £50 notes..

And now shit I’m out of luck…

HowlongWillThisTakeNow

given your recent success with your ladies
we’re all watching you 😁

I think that maybe , a tiny bit , this thread has helped you !

and even though I’m a bit miserable and anti dating right now , I do like a success story !

@NervesOfCotton you are a fantastic parent. It's tough, definitely, I hope you get all the good things you deserve in the future💐

Had an awkward saturday night. Past few weekends my ex has been difficult. He turned up at the pub I go to with my current partner a few weekends ago, no actual interaction but awkward as my DD was there too. Last weekend he was supposed to take our large dog to the vet but didnt and left me in a pickle to get her to her appointment and saturday just past he arrived to take 2 bikes from the garage to head off living his best life in his camper. He never has kids or does anything with them. Fair enough but it coincided with a wee spell where my relationship consists atm of me going to his a lot because of work schedules and a local event he was involved in. Stupidly on Saturday night I commented on my ex living his best life while I do the same thing every weekend. Also said I felt we could be getting more out of our relationship in terms of what we do and how we spend our time. Partner took this as me saying I was done, awkward conversation about busy lives ensued. He said hed love us to stay friends and that hopefully I'd miss him and we would get back together. I had had one drink so couldnt drive but we ended up talking all night and going back to his with no chat of ending things. I came home yesterday and sent a wee text to ask how his day was in the evening but no reply, he read late last night. I'm now totally confused but think I will let things sit. This is not easy.

@LuckyLinda3 I don’t understand how your partner thought you were ending things, didn’t the confusion get cleared up?

perhaps he didn’t want to reply late at night in case the notification woke you up

@Stayingstrongish I was taken aback too but I think he possibly put my remark about my ex living his best life and me not being entirely satisfied with mine together in the worst way. His wife left him for another man and he also mentioned how afraid he is to give all of himself to someone again so despite him telling me I am the love of his life I think he has his insecurities too. We are very different but very good together and I sometimes get frustrated with our lack of time/options due to work and family commitments. He handles this much better than i do. I think we cleared the confusion up but really feel we need a bit of quality time together to reconnect, his birthday is next week so I'm thinking a nice wee night away, beach walks, nice bite to eat and a few drinks might be his prezzie sorted.

@Stayingstrongish I forgot to mention I got a morning text from him earlier.

It’s helped me massive, in terms of self worth and self value.
I do realise that my situation is probably different to a lot of others, in that I’m the one with lots of free time and no Ex/ children to deal with, which has its own challenges as those have to be factored in to any potential relationship ( as Ms H showed).

I also think the views on the thread are a bit more “balanced”, I sometimes look at other threads on the forum and there seems to be a default position of the man being at fault or wrong ( which is understandable as most contributions are going to be female), but if you go and take a Reddit it’s completely opposite and women would generally blamed for everything …

One more question, it’s the classic old male paranoid “does size matter”, & I’m not talking shoe size here.,
Ms Show had 2 goes on the bouncy castle so I guess she was happy enough!

Wanker times 2…sounds familiar…maybe we married the same wanker

WEll, glad we are all sort of in the same boat ....Its week 3 of the summer hols and this Signora has taken her tweens on 2 little holidays and had them 24/7 since the end of July, the exh was supposed to come over from said european country, but beacuse he is a twunt, he couldn't be bothered!

Anyway, a ' free' 2 hours window has appeared later this evening so am offski to meet Mr F. Lets see what transpires!! I think it will be pleasant but will lead nowhere... will update later! Casual meetups as and when is all I can offer...

I hear you all on the single dads on OLD, unless they have similar age kids, theres just no point, they will never get it. Most men Ive dated have had older 18 pluses at home, which makes it impossible to relate. #

EXPLICIT
Size matters, firmness matters. In general hard and good size and width. I dated a guy who had a very hard penis the width of my finger. That was very wrong.

@Thisisworsethananticpated and @Mila14 yeah he's probably been called worse 😆 - certainly in the first year of split when he was gaslighting me that there was no affair and claiming I was mental only to have to admit to it all when I was furnished with proof from another party 🤦‍♀️ but karma is a bitch and he's aged a good 10 years and doesn't appear to be happy. We get on fine now but I'll never forgive how he treated me after 2 decades together.

@HowlongWillThisTakeNow I always say size doesn't matter too much, it's what you do with it that counts however I've never experienced a micro 😱 and personally feel too big is a thing 😉🥴

Enjoy Signora …new dates are good !!

@Slothmomma …too big is a thing too…😳🙄

Too big is no good 😂🙈

all about the chemistry anyway IMO that makes way more difference than size/technique!!

I agree I think this thread has been good for him too 😁 haha!!

Amen to that! 💗💗
Everyone on here sounds like a fcking amazing mum 🤍🤍

Jesus that’s so weird hey! X

Whoops sorry it missed a quote to @ibelieveinmirrorballs about MrM and Mr Googley Formula knowing each other

@LuckyLinda3 ah that’s good news! Hope you have a good time together for his birthday