Dating Thread 231: Summer Lovin

[Dancerinthemoonlight]

The Rules:

The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
Develop a thick skin.
Do not invest emotionally too soon.
It's all BS until it actually happens.
Trust your gut instinct.
People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
Know your worth.
If it's not fun, stop.
Loo update is mandatory.
No dating the thread.
Treat others as you'd like to be treated
Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with
The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future
OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

Oh that completely sucks @NervesOfCotton - I’m so sorry. What a disappointment, and a lucky escape for you. What a dick to let you walk home alone like that. Here’s to a much better man just around the corner.

Disappointed a bit here too - had such a lovely evening with the artist but he’s not come near me and it’s clear he’s not ready for anything / doesn’t want anything with me. He’s staying over and we’re in separate rooms. I still really enjoy his company, so hopefully we’ll keep a friendship.

NervesOfCotton

oh no 🙈
what a disappointment
well , know
what a disappointment

Levithecat

and another one . Is the other one still on the scene ?
why is he gravitating to you ? Friendship
what’s his motive ?

TobyEsterhase

that’s a good date and sounds like an even better second date coming your way !

I’m in a very funny headspace
kids away
mums in hospital
change !

it’s also weird managing a a FWB when kids away as I kind of expect boyfriend behaviour as I’m FREE . But we aren’t boyfriend and girlfriend and probably never will be

and they will be back in 5 weeks

and I’ve joined a gym instead to use my extra free time !

thanks god I’ve got a girls holiday next weekend

@Thisisworsethananticpated what were you hoping for and he’s not suggested? Or were you just hoping to see him?

@NervesOfCotton hello 👋💕so good to see you! can NOT believe after all of that waiting mr SR’s turned out like this!! Noooo 💔 had he been drinking?? Not that its any excuse but people can really turn when they’re drunk??

ive not been on the thread much as no irons, no dates and absolute nothing to report on love life but general life all cool… @SortingItOut hope you’re doing ok.. x

Thanks Levithecat. & Thisisworsethananticipated. He sat on the other sofa 'So you can have your space' (& I'm thinking 'I don't want my space, I've had space for 3 years'. He got me a drink but didn't get himself one (even though I took a big bottle of coke with me, which I left) I said I was going, put my glass in the kitchen (all in one living/kitchen) & he didn't even get up! I was stood there for what felt like 5 minutes, looking at the back of his head thinking 'Should I just go? Is he not even going to see me out?!' then suddenly he got up.

And the homophobic comments... He won't wear/or let his son wear anything rainbow because he doesn't want him to look like he supports 'them'.
And he won't watch the new Buzz lightyear movie coz there's a lesbian kiss in it.

Levithecat Sorry you were disappointed too. I don't know the backstory but is looks like it's friendship or nothing?

Hi Butterfly[smiles]
I feel like an idiot for liking him for all that time now... I guess you get to see the 'real them' in their home environment. 99% sure he hadn't been drinking. He was his usual self really, just more disappointing!

ButterflyOfShay

i don’t know and I’m in a very strange headspace right now so I’m mulling and musing

I suppose the starkness of a FWB situation shows up when I don’t have kids around if that makes sense

and - I came into the summer saying ‘manage boundaries , and don’t expect it to morph’ as I know what he’s like and 80% of the time I’m happy as it suits me !

you have been quiet , how’s morale overall ?

NervesOfCotton

he didn’t really pull the stop out did he !
but sometimes having a crush is very fun and motivating regardless

so I’m assuming no flirting at all ?
flipping homophone that he is

@NervesOfCotton urgh he sounds like an utter loser. Reaaaally hope his son is gay and fabulous 😆😆

@Thisisworsethananticpated maybe its just not enough for you and sometimes you just want more support or a bit of comfort?? Which is normal you’re not a robot after all!!!

yeah im fine just been quite busy in life so haven’t been on here much 🙂

ButterflyOfShay

spot on . The italy travel and then mums surgery really bought home to me how damm single I am !!! Many advantages , mostly happy

but sometimes I want a man to look after me

and busy is good 😊

Butterfly I know! Me too
He also hates China (They've given us every disease EVER & are still 'After us') don't you know... I've got a 'Support Ukraine' badge on my handbag & a I half expected him to have a problem with that too!

Anyway. I had a little cry (I know. Idiot) & I'm done with him now.

Thisisworsethananticipated No. Nothing. The texts were full of 'winky faces' before I went, & I was sooo hoping for a snog, but he didn't even move. Told me every single second of his life story though.

I get you @Thisisworsethananticpated … Sometimes you just wish for a bit of support 😟 at least when you’re 100% single you can’t feel any resentment for seeing someone who’s not providing it! It sounds like things are tough for you 😕 are you going somewhere nice with the girls?? That will help hey 🥳🤩 xx

NervesOfCotton

jesus ! So not only a bigot but an oversharer

have a cry , it’s a disappointment
and one day you will laugh ruefully about this x

@NervesOfCotton i was thinking if he’s a homophobe he’s probly racist, misogynistic and all the other lovely traits too …. Maybe best left in the gutter sweetie! The trash took itself out there!! It’s ok to have a cry…. @Thisisworsethananticpated who is LOVELY said to me every ending can feel sad and I think about that when I feel it myself! 💗

ButterflyOfShay

you are spot on ! You are very right xxx
greece next weekend

my friend said to me I need to not drink as by midnight I’ll be wrapped around a 22 year old with a mummy fetish

let’s see !!!

Thisisworsethananticipated It was the excitement of being able to stop doing OLD too, I've just logged back in with a heavy heart... Somebody on there thinks I'm 'Absolutely stunning' & wants to marry me this morning so there is that
(Utter nonsense but you know, just sometimes, it's nice to hear it!)

Sorry things have been tough for you too. I totally hear you.

NervesOfCotton

don’t log in with a heavy heart ! It’s no fun when it’s that way I firmly beleive

but great you have a new potential husband 😏😂

things are no harder for me than anyone else just had a very arduous few weeks xx

ButterflyOfShay

ahh you remember that ! It’s true though and I stand by it xx

Thisisworsethananticipated Thanks for the support. I'm glad I posted now
& Fingers crossed things are looking up for you soon.x

It just sucks being single sometimes doesn't it but it's far better than being with somebody like that...

@TobyEsterhase great job 🍻, go Yorkshire !

@NervesOfCotton blimey he sounds like a right dick, close escape I would say

@Levithecat could have been a tad more forward, gone in for a kiss or handhold ?

Howlong Absolutely. You think you know someone & then they show you the real them...