I have been with my husband for 10 years, married for 6 and we have a 2 year old.
Over the years, he has let himself go. As mean as it sounds saying this, he’s got a huge belly and is now very flabby. I’m just simply not attracted to him anymore.
I want to be, but when I see him naked I just think what on earth has happened. We have sex once a week but I don’t enjoy it and I now fake my orgasms because he does nothing for me anymore and I just want sex to be over and done with.
I have said a few times that we should get back into shape and eat better and exercise more (admittedly, I still have some baby weight I never lost. I was a size 10 and am now a size 12) which has been my way of saying please lose weight, but it lasts 2 days and he’s back to normal. I don’t know what else I can do. I want to be attracted to him and at this point in our marriage in our 30s, I really shouldn’t be having these feelings. I don’t want to be unattracted and turned off by my husband.
Any advice?
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Brickys · 27/06/2022 17:27
thelastshadowpuppet · 27/06/2022 18:32
Well aren't you a peach op.
Imagine if this was posted by a man.
Brickys · 27/06/2022 18:35
I know it’s bad to be so superficial, but I want to still be turned on by my husband. Is that so wrong?
thelastshadowpuppet · 27/06/2022 18:32
Well aren't you a peach op.
Imagine if this was posted by a man.
thelastshadowpuppet · 27/06/2022 18:32
Well aren't you a peach op.
Imagine if this was posted by a man.
doadeer · 27/06/2022 18:59
I think you need to look at the reason he is eating more... Is he stressed? What's going on?
Brickys · 27/06/2022 19:08
I wish I was brave, but he is such a sensitive and gentle man that I know it would hurt him. I know it would destroy him if he knew I felt this way.
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