Dating thread 230: Summer shenanigans!

[ButterflyOfShay]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.
10. No dating the thread.
11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated
12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with
13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future
14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

@TSwizzlescat another for the Mutt camp here! He sounds sweet as!

@ibelieveinmirrorballs where you off to on holiday lovely, you going abroad? That will he bliss 💖

@HowlongWillThisTakeNow hope you ignored Ms H.. you should have said hello to a lady in the pub garden! Bet there were some singles there hoping to meet someone! 😁

hi @BelladiMamma @ICrunchCrispsNotNumbers 💓💓

Sounds like he’s hoping you’ll message him, it’s lazy though isn’t it, he can message you if he wants to talk!!

@ButterflyOfShay there were lots of lovely ladies ( and lots of cleavage), but I’m far too reserved too approach anyone.
I did help out, Ms H, it was just picking up something she had ordered that wouldn’t fit in her little car, she did invite me in for a cuppa, but I politely declined.

will drop of this thread now as have given on dating & women really, I think I would better off with a dog really.

HowlongWillThisTakeNow

well if you want to drop off you have 100% free will
but not everyone is dating here !
some are in love (we rarely see them )
some dip in and out
some are not dating
some have given up
some have paused
some most certainly are dating
some want to date but can’t

my Urine is fine ! My sons toilet however is like the worst toilet in the worst bus station in the world

ButterflyOfShay
thanks ! Finally at nearly (ish ) 50
im starting to own my tricky
relationship with alcohol
better late than never hey

@Thisisworsethananticpated
good luck with the drink, I have been (almost), dry for about 20 years now, best decision ever, thinking about becoming a veggie as well ( but I do like a bacon roll .. )

Some (me!) wish they could date but no one is EVER interested 😭

Right there with you lady you can do this! It’s a bloody tricky relationship for sure. When I look back it actually freaks me out how involved in my existence it’s been. Feels good leaving it well behind.

If anyone wants a good laugh, here is my sunburn 🥵

Some (me!) wish they could date but no one is EVER interested 😭
This is me at the moment too, I have had a ton of likes but only one message and that was from someone who doesn’t have a profile picture and a crap profile. I have just dramatically changed my profile making it more simple and basically saying ‘looking for fun times and see where it goes’, added new photos (of cleavage) and changed to ‘not looking for anything serious’. I just want some fun dates and some great s#x but I can’t even get any messages,

Wow good luck @Lovemusic33 let us know the reaction 😁😁

HowlongWillThisTakeNow
jaysus
put some sudocrem on that

Lovemusic33
of you don’t get hits with that
well I despair !

ButterflyOfShay
well tonight we have a meal out after a school thing
so I can for the first time EVER get a soft drink
when socialising
let’s see !!

I just want some fun dates and some great s#x but I can’t even get any messages,

I would settle for average sex, but I have low standards..
Ms No Show has been in touch

@HowlongWillThisTakeNow Love the sun burn, did your trousers ride up slightly😂

What does Ms No Show have to say for herself?

Yes, to be fair any sex would be good but great sex would be ideal 🤣

I have had a few messages so far but nothing that great. Though I had one message in Tinder offering FWB and I’m very tempted (you get reasonably fit guy and local) Going to wait and see if I get any other messages and maybe reply later.

Oh and I came across a old iron that I met up with before lockdown, I kind of thought he was out of my league and I stopped messaging him a while ago. He has gained some weight and a beard over lockdown, I might message him and see how he is.

Morning all, dipping in again for some advice. Things have been going great since and we are both very happy. Have wedding this weekend and I was starting to eventually look forward to it, I think I mentioned before that he is super close to his work colleagues. Turns out he is the only male attending from work and he is going suit shopping with work colleagues today. He had asked me initially but is going with them now. He also mentioned that he is giving 2 of them a lift on the day and we will go for lunch together between the church and reception. I know I sound insecure and childish and I have every intention of enjoying the day and mixing with all his friends but I must admit I do have a little anxiety about it too.

What’s the anxiety over, @LuckyLinda3 What’s the plan re arrangements with you? Social events like this are so hard when you don’t know the others and it feels like everyone else is thick as thieves. Can you talk to him about it and get some reassurance?

Crikey - come on, you can’t leave us hanging.. what did she say?!

(Another recommendation for Sudocrem - ouchie)

Date three with MrNice last night.. Can’t see each other till I’m back from hols now but his cycling 20 miles to come here last night and turning up with a punnet of strawberries… and just generally being lovely.. will keep me going till then I hope!

For the sunburn, it was 2 days of riding in Wales, there must have been a little gap between the bottom on my armoured jeans and top of my bike boots, ouch, lots of aftersun.

as for Ms No Show, well she texted late last night to say that she tested positive for Covid on Sunday morning ( yes - okay that’s fair enough ), but had lost her phone and didn’t find it until last night, not sure if that’s real or just a brush off,
she has offered another meeting once she has tested negative 🤔

in other news, Ms H has been in contact again with a more apologetic tone.

@ibelieveinmirrorballs my anxiety stems mostly from a night out a few months ago when one of his work mates and her husband were out in the pub we often go to at weekends. Really from the minute he saw them he focused on them to the point that if I'd disappeared it would have taken him a while to notice. I bought drinks, chatted and danced with them but felt very much out of the loop. I dont believe it was intentional on his part but it has been a concern since and as the wedding approaches it been in my mind.

@Thisisworsethananticpated you can do it i know you can!!

@Lovemusic33 I’m so sorry but I’m completely invested to know if you get any tempting offers haha!!

@HowlongWillThisTakeNow at least you heard back, you said you knew her already so hopefully not a lie??

HowlongWillThisTakeNow
i knew Mrs H would come back
I think her apologetic tone needs to be very
do you like her enough to re engage and talk
or hard no ?

LuckyLinda3

oh I wouldn’t like that
I’m very jealous that said ….
but that would majorly hack me off

I’d be tempted to say ‘given you totally ignored me last time we went out with your work friends can you reassure me this won’t happen again
as if this is the case , I’ll probably bail