Page 7 | The ick = game over?

Ella28_ · 2022-06-17T16:49:52+00:00

I'm dating this guy and sometimes he says completely innocent words or phrases that make my skin crawl and completely turn me off him and I'm genuinely thinking about ending it. So petty of me but I literally can't get past it. Defo gonna die alone at this rate 😂 Anyone else get the ick over the most minor things?

pastypirate · 18/06/2022 14:26

I'm adding falling asleep in the day. And expecting us the wait around while he woke up. I know that's beyond ick and just being a twat.

barbrahunter · 18/06/2022 14:35

One of the ick things my ex used to do was keep moving his mouth open and shut as he was yawning, making the noise 'o-hey-o'. It seriously pissed me off. Then one day when we were round at his mums, she did the yawn thing too.

Frazzledmummy123 · 18/06/2022 14:43

kardashianklone · 17/06/2022 22:51

This is such a great thread. It reminded me of my own ick experiences I want to add. These are all the same ex bf. Whenever he ate anything, his eyebrows would be raised to the very top of his head, as though he was permanently surprised by what was in his mouth. He also used to take unnecessarily large bites, tilting his head back and as though he could dislocate his jaw like a snake. He had a terrible half moon shaped coin pouch which he would unzip and count pennies from, like some elderly miser. He had an infuriating habit of saying 'it could be worse' about any given situation. We broke up, and he's a lovely man and we still speak and stayed friends, but I will never eat another meal opposite him again.

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Omg this is hilarious 😂😂 😂

Sapphirensteel · 18/06/2022 14:46

Makes me sound horrible but I went on a first date with a man who ordered tea after the meal, then sat back with his legs crossed and held the tea cup in a ….. I don’t know, affected ? effeminate ? way. Completely put me off him. There was no second date.

RevoltingHumanHead · 18/06/2022 14:48

Using words in the wrong way - he once told me he had a “fantasy” about his gran, which wasn’t actually a fantasy once he’d explained it, but when he said this we were in a pretty quiet cafe and literally everyone could hear.

This has tickled me so much.

Cstring · 18/06/2022 14:57

@kardashianklone He had a terrible half moon shaped coin pouch which he would unzip and count pennies from, like some elderly miser.

🤣I got a very strong ick from just reading this. You were entirely justified!

weleasewoderick23 · 18/06/2022 15:17

I had an ex who proudly declared that he would never get married because " I'm not letting some woman take all my money" 😳

He called my vag "she" 🤢

Every time we went out and he paid, he'd run to his bedroom and write down what he spent in a notebook. I've always wondered how much I was worth!

Never really made eye contact during conversations and constantly said "at the end of the day".

What finished me off was when some social housing was built behind his house and he went on and on about single parents and druggies ( I'm a single parent living in social housing)

The ironic thing is that when I finished it he asked me to marry him! I told him that he was married already - to his money 🙄

AdoraBell · 18/06/2022 15:29

I had an ex how ask me to marry him when I dumped him. I pointed out that I had just told him to move out, why the fuck would I marry him?

SlatsandFlaps · 18/06/2022 15:40

autienotnaughty · 18/06/2022 03:49

Things dh does that gives me the ick-
Lost 4 stone and not only weighs less than me but looks tiny !!
When he hears something he doesn't like he says "seriously?" Every time , I'm Like no I'm fucking kidding!!!
Constantly makes me repeat myself -
Me - "do you know where the wipes are?"
Dh - "do I know where the wipes are?"
Me - 😡😡😡😡😡😡

Thing is we are 20 years in and have children. I just try to work past them. But if he had pulled an of this shit in first five years I'd have ran a mile!

The repeating your words I'd start doing it back to him! That'll stop it

ImpartialMongoose · 18/06/2022 16:35

My 'the ick' moments, each line is a different man:
When he ended his message with 'ciao'
When he would tell me what type of shit his dog had done despite me begging him not to.
When he made baby cooing noises as he sucked my nipple
When I noticed one of his ears was much smaller than the other
When he jumped up and down on the spot with glee
When he awkwardly tried be playful in the fountains on the South Bank
When he said "I went in Morrison's the other day and there wasn't a white face in there" (that was less of an ick and more like my face becoming the one on the Edvard Munch painting The Scream)

BOOTS52PollyPrissyPants · 18/06/2022 16:40

Yes I got the ick as he was so tight with money/food. Also his moustache which had too much of a space between it and his top lip and his skinny legs and arms, wonder what the hell I ever saw in him and then he started to remind me of a very annoying politician and that turned me right off and his ed. Sometimes I make stupid decisions so staying single but once you get the ick no going back.

BOOTS52PollyPrissyPants · 18/06/2022 16:45

and his big long monologues that were so boring and he was always right and he always disagreed with what I said. He kept putting me down trying to take away my confidence and would twist things around so in the end I did not know what I was saying. Forgot his porn habit gave me the biggest ick yuk. Some of these are soo funny loving this thread.

Eelicks · 18/06/2022 16:45

TripleSeptic · 17/06/2022 21:50

That is so interesting

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"with paedophilia disorder the parental instict in the brain can get misaligned which changes the parental instict to protect and love children, to a sexual instict. To find children attractive"

Absolute bollocks

ImpartialMongoose · 18/06/2022 16:45

@BOOTS52PollyPrissyPants

Also his moustache which had too much of a space between it and his top lip

😂😆

BOOTS52PollyPrissyPants · 18/06/2022 16:50

replying to Katedan.. sometimes if we are in peri meno or menopause, not sure what age you are, we are less tolerant and lose a lot of the maternal and caring side and put up with less crap so maybe he has always done these things but now you are less able to deal with them. I find now in my early 50's need more time for myself as someone constantly around me does my head in.

BOOTS52PollyPrissyPants · 18/06/2022 16:52

haha Impartialmongoose, reading it back made me laugh, it looked beyond ridiculous .......

pastypirate · 18/06/2022 17:12

ImpartialMongoose · 18/06/2022 16:35

My 'the ick' moments, each line is a different man:
When he ended his message with 'ciao'
When he would tell me what type of shit his dog had done despite me begging him not to.
When he made baby cooing noises as he sucked my nipple
When I noticed one of his ears was much smaller than the other
When he jumped up and down on the spot with glee
When he awkwardly tried be playful in the fountains on the South Bank
When he said "I went in Morrison's the other day and there wasn't a white face in there" (that was less of an ick and more like my face becoming the one on the Edvard Munch painting The Scream)

There's a full house right there!

pastypirate · 18/06/2022 17:15

I also need to mention farting around me even though he knew I can't bear it and lecture my children often about it being very rude and not funny.

pastypirate · 18/06/2022 17:22

The points about peri are likely true for me. Anything which undermines the man's independence and basic taking the initiative put me right off them. Anything perceived as strategic incompetence sets me off.

Also my exp had some beef with apple products and made a song and sands about not knowing how to use them because he 'don't do apple' yes you do. You have a teaching room full of them.

I had a particularly yuck pair of jeans from next that I only wore around the house because they look so naff. They are indigo. Anyway exp would make exaggerated comments about how much he likes me wearing them. That gave me the ick

Hannah8514 · 18/06/2022 18:04

Has anyone ever told someone they gave then the ick and why? Or is it better left unsaid/ghosted? 😂

summersunherewecome · 18/06/2022 18:18

Loving this thread...already posted but got another one. Had a few pleasant dates with a guy and he invited me round for dinner. He had a peculiar hat stand filled with boater style hats....big turn off for me and didn't look back, proper ick for me....a big no from me 🤣

BugEyedBeans · 18/06/2022 23:08

The constant nail biting - I had to avert my eyes
Eating very very slowly so that mealtimes were unbearably drawn out

autienotnaughty · 18/06/2022 23:14

@SlatsandFlaps 😂😂 genius

sadeyedladyofthelowlandsea · 18/06/2022 23:18

It doesn't give me the ick exactly, but I try to avoid saying goodbye to DP on the phone because he does this weird thing of saying 'bahhhhhhye'. I can't quite describe it, but it's completely different to how he normally speaks and I HATE IT. He really draws out the 'buh' sound. Just say 'Bye!' FFS. Not 'bahhhhhhhhye...'

He also called me 'babe' once, and my head went full Linda Blair.

ImprobablePuffin · 18/06/2022 23:33

He would never blow his nose. Instead he sniffed so hard it made that gurgley phlegmey noise followed by a big swallow 🤢
Ick.