The ick = game over?

[Ella28_]

I'm dating this guy and sometimes he says completely innocent words or phrases that make my skin crawl and completely turn me off him and I'm genuinely thinking about ending it. So petty of me but I literally can't get past it. Defo gonna die alone at this rate 😂

Anyone else get the ick over the most minor things?

Unlikely. Lol. Deeply deeply off-putting though. No concept of personal space. Unbearable.

On further thought, to be fair to him I don't actually think he was abusive just an enormously irritating prat with fixed ideas of what being in a couple meant - which involved being joined at the hip.
I can definitely see why guys who are deemed a bit aloof are more attractive.

I went to therapy years back because I kept rejecting dates because of minor infractions. I really wanted a relationship at the time - my clock was ticking loudly! One prospective left drip marks down the side of his coffee cup when he drank from it. One wore really retro loafers - not in an ironic sockless sense. One was way too attached to his dog. One had frayed cuffs on his shirt. One told me where the gents bathroom was one I asked directions to the ladies - he’d been to the restaurant before. There were so many reasons not to see them again. The therapist said it was natures way of guiding me. Then I met a Mr Right, I told the therapist his work was done. Sadly after a few weeks Mr Right peed on my toilet seat, and kept me waiting when we were due to have lunch. Strikes for me but the therapist had convinced me to keep seeing him a while also convinced me to talk to Mr Right about the icks. I did. We resolved it. He became my DH. Realised I should have followed my gut. He’s my ExH now ….

One thing that makes my skin crawl is someone saying shit like "the ick". Childish nonsense.

if I'm honest, every relationship I've ever had has always ended with my feeling the 'ick' .

I don't know for sure, but I suspect a rather cold and quite crap upbringing. But I also have to say that I can't believe what some people put up with in their partners, men and women.

I was set up by a friend with a guy when I was (very) young and as we walked to the bar a piece of paper fell out of his wallet with my name written on it in capitals. Obviously it was over before it started. Another guy also picked me up with a face badly burnt from spending too long on a sun bed. He had white goggle marks on his eyes. Another's trousers were so tight my Dad cried with laughter. Also over immediately. There were others but I daresay a few good ones got away due to my shallowness.

@katedan I left after 27 years when his laughing teacakes quote got on my nerves so much I cringed and it made me think of other little icks but that teacakes 1 was by far the worst he said it when he heard something funny and said he was laughing teacakes

I think you must be dating my aunt

As I've got older I feel I've reverted back to childhood feelings about boys, nowadays men of course, being 'eeww' This thread only reinforces that for me. Are they all the same.

I'm tempted to give dating a miss if I ever found myself in that position. I have a couple of good male friends, but I don't have to live with them.

@lentiIsoup haha that will be the hormone effect. Not sure of your age but before and after the reproductive years, we don’t need to find them attractive (according to Mother Nature)😉

Entire thread is hilarious!

One guy I met sat cross-legged on the floor of the hotel room then leaned to the side and farted, saying "Better to get it out of the way". If that wasn't ick enough, I actually slept with him and he thought it was the very height of eroticism to rub the top of his bald head around my nether regions. Ick.

Another guy wore red nylon underpants, got on his knees, put his hands in the air and did this weird swaying dance that he thought was sexy. Ick

Another guy I met would purse up his lips before he took a swig of his pint. Every single time. He then went to the loo then came out seconds later saying he was going to have to go to the pub loo over the road because this one didn't have enough toilet paper. Ick on both counts.

Another guy would say continually and at random, "The world is an orange". Fucking ick.

I could go on.

Maybe it's me lol

Oh these threads are available hun

I had a boyfriend who once did a sort of slow toddler stamping this in front of me, fluttering his eyelashes, flapping his hands and saying, "I'm Blue Boy," in a baby voice.

Bleeurgh!! What the fuck was he doing? And he was 6'5" which made it even worse!

*stamping thing

I got the major ick when my boyfriend at the time who fancied himself as an "actor" and a "singer" decided to perform in the uni karaoke competition, and burst into singing Kings of Leon "Sex on Fire" obviously thinking himself very cool and whilst holding intense eye contact with me. I was sitting towards the front row and felt like I was dying inside.

@AlwaysLatte

Your DH has the same idea as me.
I hate shopping & definitely don’t like wasting my time mooching around the shops. In the days before online shopping became so popular I would make a written list of the items I wanted to buy & the specific shops, go into the shop for that item & if it wasn’t available would leave empty handed but not bother to search (mooch) in any other shops for that particular thing.
Since online shopping has really taken off I haven’t even been to my nearest large town which is 10 miles away for probably 6+ years & have done all my big food shop online every 3 weeks for at least 4 years. If/when I need extra groceries I will go to a petrol station with a food shop at the same time as refuelling my car.

@Chloe800 That's a nervous tick

@Feart NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

That's fucking awful. Honestly, he should serve some time for that for assaulting other's people's senses!! Was he mentally unwell? Or just lazy and disgusting??

@Bangolads 'You don't sound very nice'. 😂 Oh, honestly - ZERO fucks given. Some of this thread is ridiculous, petty, but that's kind of the point really - some of these aversions are so strong that it causes a visceral reaction in these women that they don't necessarily need to be coached out of. I object in you partaking in this 'I don't like what you've said because it's touched a nerve, so I'm going to label you as not very nice'.

If you saw the big picture, you would see that many of these women are hyper sensitive to anything that makes their partner either seem like a child or a fussy little old man before their time. That's probably what the stamp collecting did.

@Suma2021 I think I would have had to leave the room if I saw that. The cringe would be unbearable.

@EarthSight
No was definitely just lazy and disgusting, no MH issues🤢😂
Fortunately for me and my nose my new DP is the opposite!

Well said, the whole point of this thread is that some of these things are completely irrational or the final straw.

Can you only get the ick for a romantic partner? I'm estranged from my dad and bumped into him recently and got the major ick, it even shocked me.

I get the ICK if a potential romantic partner does something camp or acts “feminine”
Its the same as the old man/child like thing.
Completely unsexy because it’s out of context. Funny if it’s a gay bloke being camp or it’s a male friend and he’s “a bit old man” but now I’m peri menopausal it’s such a fine line to tread. A bloke appearing asexual/prudish about sex is an instant turn off. I’ve met a few really good looking guys who just have NOTHING ABOUT THEM at all it’s like do you even have a penis?!?

(I’m married so being hypothetical here)

I got the ick when my DH giggled during sex - that was the last time we will ever have sex… 6.5yrs ago! I just can’t…
20 years of marriage and he has also started dressing like Ray Mears…

What happens when you've been married for years and an ice appears from nowhere?

That was a lucky escape......for him.

These are fantastic! Loving this thread.
Here is my contribution (not all the same bloke, but all exes)

saying ‘cheese and bickies’

talking in a peculiar high pitched voice when pissed

pronouncing yoghurt as ‘yo jurt’

tartan shirt

noisy leather jacket

pointed shoes

leaving toilet pan in an indescribable state

hairless chest - completely smooth

skiddy pants and robe (where he’d sat in it with bare bum cheeks spread )

only dating a week or so, but thinking it’s totally fine to break wind loudly in front of me and to tell me that he’d got caught short on a long trip and took a number 2 on the side of the road and wiped himself with a map. Seemingly hilarious 🙄

looking back on these, and reading yours makes me realise that being single for three years isn’t at all bad really!!

Smelt of ham ☹️