Partner won't eat fruit or veg!!!!

[user12312]

Hi ladies. Please help I'm at my wits end!
My partner WONT eat fruits or any type of vegetables. It's driving me insane. I feel like I'm dealing with one of the kids every day.

We have been together under 1 year and now it's really getting me down. He bokes even looking at veg. Both my kids eat a wide range of fruit and veg as do I. Then there's my partner who won't entertain them.
He told me he would make more of an effort and at least try different foods etc.
Tonight for example I put a couple spoons of sweetcorn (which was cooked in butter) on to his plate. He ate a bit and hid the rest under his lasagna and said he was finished. All the sweetcorn was under the leftovers.
It absolutely riles me as I feel like I'm dealing with a child.

It's really starting to make me feel differently about our relationship. It's actually putting me off him a bit if I'm entirely honest.

Any words of wisdom? Thanks

Yeah I merely needed to vent and to ask if anyone else has the same issues with there partners.
No one had the right to ask me why my children are around my boyfriend of nearly a year

I wouldn't have a long term relationship with someone like that, they will have all kinds of self inflicted diseases as they get older. Life is hard enough with the diseases you can't do anything about.
Won't he even drink smoothies? Or eat soup?

Why so rude and defensive, OP?
You asked for words of wisdom, you're getting them.
You're being asked reasonable and relevant questions, answer them.
If you want a different partner, make different choices.

what? because they agree with you?

There is a lot of vile nasty people on this platform. Why was it relevant to ask why my children are even around my partner of nearly one year.

Reading your updates WTF - there is no way I'd be dating a mummys boy who can't even wash up - I'd lose respect for him in 321 - there it's gone.
You need to find a real man, this one is no good.

@iCorvidae no not because they agree with me but because they aren't coming across as nasty. To many of you have to much time on you're hands. Instead of a support group it's becoming more like a hate group!

I'm this partner 😭.
However I have huge issues around food and will only eat certain foods.

Got to say as I've got older, I have got better and I will hit veg that's hidden in stuff. So lasagne or a shepherds pie.

Got to say, it's never crossed my mind that my husband wouldn't be happy with my eating habits.

No won't drink smoothies or eat home made soup. The only soup he will eat is Heinz tomato soup

Why was it relevant to ask why my children are even around my partner of nearly one year.

Get defensive all you want OP. Under a year is very soon to be even introducing your partner to them, let alone anything else.

If you want to mouth off at me like you have at other posters who have pointed this out, feel free but it's not a good look for you.

user12312 · Yesterday 19:06
thelastshadowpuppet
You sound unhinged and I think it's him who should be running for hills!
@thelastshadowpuppet do one 🙄

But you're hardly setting a good example

Most people are agreeing with you that he is a bit of a dick - but why doesnt he like fruit or veg? You say he is a 'mummys boy' but you've put up with it for a year, assuming you dont have dc together you can get rid of him for any reason you like.

Everyone has there own views on how soon to introduce there kids to a new partner. It's not exactly one size fits all is it?
I will absolutely defend myself against trolls who want to put me down regarding decisions I make in my personal life regarding my kids.
Do one 👍🏼

Don't patronise me @KettrickenSmiled and come on my post asking me why my partner is around my kids after nearly 1 year.
You're asking a question here which is none of you're business so back off.

No.

You have put a man into your house who is modelling an eating disorder to your children, & stealing their treat food.
You refuse to answer PP who are concerned about whether he actually lives with you, & if so, what he contributes to the household.
Leaving people to assume he is cocklodging off you at the expense of your kids.
You run around after him like you are his housemaid & nanny.
Now you're posting here about how can you mummy him into eating his vegetables nicely.

Why don't you focus on your children, & dump this loser?

That's absolutely fine. Although if you had been sensible and actually got to know him properly first, complete with these very valid annoyances, when you inevitably split up it wouldn't cause unnecessary disruption to your children's lives. I'm not sure why your knee-jerk reaction is always aggression.

Just to pre-empt future heartache, getting pregnant with this man will not magically turn him into a competent adult who shoulders his share of responsibilities for the family and home. He'll just be a terrible father as well as a cocklodging partner and fussy eater. So don't be careless with contraception, OP.

Modelling an easing disorder to my kids?
Wow that escalated fast. Hardly an eating disorder not eating fruit/veg.
I was asking for tips and if anyone has found themselves in a similar situation with there partners. Did I ask advice on my personal life around my kids meeting my partner etc. no I didn't do that should be irrelevant and crossing the boundaries.
Seriously bolt. I bet yous are the same women that preach about 'always be kind' bla bla bla.
Get a life OP

Can you clarify what exactly he brings to this relationship or is that classified information?

The best way to do cheese on toast is to put mayonnaise & chutney under the cheese. Not cheddar - too greasy - Comte is best. Just saying.

I couldn't put up with a partner with very different eating habits to myself - cooking & eating are major sources of pleasure to me, especially when shared with someone.

Love veg too - so many interesting ways of cooking veg than the usual British "boiling all the goodness out in a lot of water" method.

You posted as if this was a fruit and veg problem when it’s clearly a partner problem.

Yes, it’s entirely reasonable to be extremely put off by his attitude. But it turns out fruit and veg is the least of it. His attitude to chores etc is far worse.

So you’re not BU to dump him over all this.

If posters are asking why you’ve already introduced him to your kids, it’s because if you had dated him longer in private you could have weeded him out before he met your kids.

I think #BeKind is reactionary bullshit designed to shut women down, so you've taken a wrong punt there OP. And I have a delightful life thanks, which I spend wisely, by allowing men to do their own domestic chores.

When somebody pulls disgusted faces & makes 'boak' noises on sight of a vegetable, & that somebody is over 10 years old, I think it's pretty safe to posit that they suffer from disordered eating.

But you're clearly so desperate to have a man in your life that you've moved one in within months of meeting, & are Handmaidening around cleaning up after him & washing his pants.

How's the weather over there in Gilead?

😂😂😂
How DARE you @JanisMoplin?
OP only posted about vegetables on a public forum, how NASTY & MEAN of you to show some concern about her life & happiness!

I think if he just said 'no thank you' to something he didn't want to eat, well that's up to him. However, if he makes faces and pretends to be sick at the food you've put in front of him, then that's another issue. It's rude and childish. And I know you don't want to discuss the other matter here, but you do seem to be looking after him as if he was an extra child and not a grown man.

I agree with you OP that this is setting a really bad example to your kids. The childish reactions to food, and the way he reacts to the ordinary domestic tasks that a healthy household shares.

Some people sure do enjoy getting their kicks by being aggressive and rude to people asking advice on here.

Of course they do, they have the right to ask you anything they want.

The while setup seems weird.