Partner won't eat fruit or veg!!!!

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Hi ladies. Please help I'm at my wits end!
My partner WONT eat fruits or any type of vegetables. It's driving me insane. I feel like I'm dealing with one of the kids every day.

We have been together under 1 year and now it's really getting me down. He bokes even looking at veg. Both my kids eat a wide range of fruit and veg as do I. Then there's my partner who won't entertain them.
He told me he would make more of an effort and at least try different foods etc.
Tonight for example I put a couple spoons of sweetcorn (which was cooked in butter) on to his plate. He ate a bit and hid the rest under his lasagna and said he was finished. All the sweetcorn was under the leftovers.
It absolutely riles me as I feel like I'm dealing with a child.

It's really starting to make me feel differently about our relationship. It's actually putting me off him a bit if I'm entirely honest.

Any words of wisdom? Thanks

I didn’t want to add to the confusion but yes, it’s cheese on toast for me as well.

@ApolloandDaphne me too

And we don't put bloody onion on it either

😂😂😂

He can do what he wants but I would judge him and find it unattractive. I like cookie and enjoying variously foods so if I couldn’t share that it would limit our relationship. DH hates mushrooms and it still annoys me after 26 years of marriage because he’ll pick them out even if I’ve cut them up really small. Though he must really love me because he’ll chop and cook them for me if he’s making me a cooked breakfast.😍

YANBU- My ex was like this and it's bloody infuriating. It's limits your choice of eating out, you end up cooking to meals to please everyone and it inflates your shopping bill because all that crap doesn't come cheap!!! Don't pander to it, it isn't normal. Also meat isn't cheap right now, there are so many people looking to bulk out meals with veg and pulses. He needs to get over it.

@JanisMoplin I literally said in my post that she either accepts his eating habits or breaks up with him, I did not indicate at all that she had to stay with him.
I was expressing my frustration that many people on pile on those who have issues around food @goodcall101 fully understand my issues at the judgemental comments.
I would hate my children to be judged so harshly for something that is out of their control.

Never thought of putting onion on cheese on toast but I like the idea!

Yes, I call it cheese on toast myself too but my dad's side of the family all call it roasted cheese!

This story made me laugh though:

www.thescottishsun.co.uk/news/3102186/twitter-debate-scotland-grilled-cheese-outsider-roll-and-lorne-dressing-gown/

'Most agreed the first image was either "roasted cheese" or "toasted cheese", with the second widely accepted as "an outsider" or "heel".

However the third image - a favourite Scottish snack - sparked fury among debaters.

One Twitter user said: "Agree with all but lorne, it’s a sausage so call it one"

@ClarkJnr said: "Roasted cheese, outsider, roll n sausage, housecoat"

Grilled cheese indeed.

He can eat what he likes. But I wouldn't have someone eating around my children pulling faces like a toddler.

If you carry on your relationship I wouldn't have him at your house at meal times, and he needs to stop raiding the fridge!

I’m also autistic but people wouldn’t know it, not many people in real life know I’m on the spectrum and it’s not something my children share with others either so when we meet new people or family members who have never met them I have to deal with all their judgemental comments surrounding what they eat.
People should just accept that we all like different things and no one should be forced to eat something they dislike and people should consider if other issues are behind it and not instantly look down on them for it.

Re your update about his mum and not able to use a washing machine, sounds like he hasn’t grown up.

So, do you want to continue a relationship with a man child? If not, get rid.

Me too, but that has a lot of onion tomato, and probably some carrot and celery too, so there’s a decent amount of decent stuff in there.

I guess I do like some vegetables (especially when I've made the effort to roast them/mix in lots of butter!!).

It's more as some other PPs have said, I would just expect adults who care about their health - and their children's - to include fresh, whole fruits and veg in their diet because, well, it's healthy and we should!!

I could quite easily choose ready meals but know that I shouldn't and so don't very often. I don't agree with people who just say, their choice and that's the end of it. Especially when it affects the whole family, and beyond.

All a bit off of point I suppose. Still stand by getting rid in this situation!

Are we talking about Welsh rarebit here?

Still don't see why you're bothered.

If he doesn't like it he's not going to eat it. So don't serve it.

As a mostly reformed fussy eater, it would put me off too because

• he's storing up major health problems for the future
• it is a bad example for the kids
• he is immature and rude about it
• it limits your ability to eat out

And he's a big baby man child who can't do basic household chores.

Like you said, it's like having another child. Big nope from me.

If you don't like it (and mostly, I don't) it doesn't matter how healthy it is, then I won't eat it.

That's my loss, no-one else's

LTB

That part's a problem,certainly

Have him make his own food food. This post reads like its written about a child

Muller Corners aren't healthy options either.

The fact that he is a man-child is the issue. Not his food preferences

Don’t ever let him move in with you.

Don’t cook for him.

Does go for meals out with him.

If the relationship is still rewarding on that basis, fine. If it isn’t, or you want a long term life partner, ditch him.

If you want to stay with him despite his immaturity then I would just let him carry on not eating vegetables - provided he didn't make sick noises or rude comments about vegetables in front of me (you) or the children. Not negotiable. Also - I would expect him to take a regular vitamin tablet to stave off scurvy etc. And I would bung in as much hidden veg into his food as possible. Will he eat food with onions in? If he doesn't notice them? And I would ask him not to eat the non- healthy puddings etc. in front of the children unless they are having them as well, given by you. That way you're not forcing him to 'eat vegetables ' or stopping him from having sweet puddings. And if you cook puddings for the children make them delicious apple crumbles etc. that he won't be able to eat because 'he doesn't eat fruit'.

"We have been together under 1 year ..."
Then I would suggest you ditch him before you reach the 1 year mark. Seriously. He's 35, he is not going to change. He could do dishes, laundry etc properly - he chooses not to. And he will continue making that choice forever.

"It's all just really getting to me now"
Then end it, because he will not change. This is him.

I don't think so. Bread toasted under grill on one side, turned over, slice of cheese or grated cheese placed on untoasted side, back under grill till cheese is bubbling, eat immediately. That's what I mean by toasted cheese.