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Boyfriend cancelled our anniversary meal ...

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pinkblueoh · 12/06/2022 08:52

It's our three year anniversary next Sunday.
We had the day planned
Out for drinks then a meal on the Sunday night.
I had bought a new outfit and was really looking forward to it.
Now he has turned around and said the next day he is going away with work for an awards evening so wants to spend the Sunday just chilling out.
So he has said we can go for the meal on Thursday instead.
Would you be annoyed ? How he gets this work invite and all of a sudden our plans have to change.

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KateMcCallister · 13/06/2022 10:07

Tell me you’re an incel without telling me you’re an incel

Quite!!

Op if you're still around after the shit show that your thread has become then yes, it would annoy me. And yes, I'd bring it up.

LindaEllen · 13/06/2022 10:30

Tbh I wouldn't want to go out for a celebration meal on a Sunday either. It's much better to go on a night where you don't have to worry about getting up early or doing something important the day after, particularly if you want to have a few drinks or stay out late.

AryaStarkWolf · 13/06/2022 11:34

pinkblueoh · 12/06/2022 08:56

I think it's because we would Be having a few drinks and he must want to feel fresh.
It's just frustrating as I always feel like I get the short hand of the stick

It is for work though tbf, why not just do it on the Thursday instead?

LilyMarshall · 15/06/2022 04:47

AryaStarkWolf · 13/06/2022 11:34

It is for work though tbf, why not just do it on the Thursday instead?

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Maybe op works on the friday, like her partner is working on the monday.

SVRT19674 · 15/06/2022 12:58

What would bother me is that he has done it without consulting you when you were making a special effort. I work Monday, in fact I get up at 6 am but next Sunday is my birthday and I am having a birthday celebration lunch with husband and daughter. I prefer it to dinner, but then dinner in spain is a 22.00 h occasion, not 7 pm like Britain, which is manageable.

SandAndSea · 15/06/2022 14:39

OP, could you compromise at all? Could you arrange something special for Sunday which is also chilled?

On the one hand, you could have many anniversaries to come, with all sorts of situations to consider. On the other, I wouldn't want to set a precedent of not really bothering about them. So, I would let him know that it's important to you to celebrate it on or very close to the date, but be flexible about what you do.

YourJessie · 02/11/2022 10:04

Ok I would be really furious, he can't do that! I hope he had a best idea than the dinner that's why he canceled.

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