Dating thread 229: Traversing the world of dating

[SortingItOut]

The Rules:

The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

Develop a thick skin.

Do not invest emotionally too soon.

It's all BS until it actually happens.

Trust your gut instinct.

People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.

Know your worth.

If it's not fun, stop.

Loo update is mandatory.

No dating the thread.

Treat others as you'd like to be treated

Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with

The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future

OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

@cravingthelook noooooo

@cravingthelook Can you look at why you always go back to him despite knowing how he treats you/his behaviour/red flags?

Is it the challenge?
We know it's linked to more than the challenge- can you explore this in therapy?

@SortingItOut … he attended a cocktail event before meeting me. He really initially wanted to meet Friday but I sort of pushed for late dinner Monday. I’m seeing him now for lunch after a normal early office meetings day so I will watch out. I think going for a country side walk is a good way to see him normal too. He says he drunk too much yesterday too

Checking in

@Mila14 @Daydreamscometrue umm.. define "small".. asking for a friend..😶😏

@Shunter350 … I will be blunt … 5” or less 😳

No. My ex was a great big ex rugga bugga man with long hands and feet. Not very big. Mr Favourite Place - very average hands, big ole wotsit. Small hands = small gloves. Small feet = small shoes. I don't believe you can deduce anything else.

I think I need therapy. I could do with exploring why I never connect with anyone on any meaningful level. Fear of intimacy bla bla. How do you find one? Do you just go on BACP and pick someone you like the sound of? Sounds a bit like OLD...

😂😂😂😂😎

I think we will end up needing a therapist to be honest … especially all of us with divorce behind and kids …
update on mr C. He took me for lunch and was a lot shyer but good fun. A complete gentleman. No alcohol for lunch
we will do something on Friday and Saturday. I don’t want any pressure in any way. I gave him a kiss but stopped when he got a bit ardent. I want to take my time to know him. He’s extraordinarily posh but still very humble chap… I like this

@Mila14 so she is not London based. I found her recommended by a few people on a Facebook group.

I’ll go against the grain here and say I think there’s a strong correlation but not a definitive determination 😬

In my experience, most of the time big hands (and chunky fingers ahem) does mean more than just big gloves. But not always…

@ibelieveinmirrorballs …long fingers in my experience…deliver long wotsits…😈…excuse me but I think size does matter…
@lesgalettes …does she do zoom calls??? If so, DM me please 🙏

Mila14

wow ! So you like him
and it’s moving fast hey
stay happy 😊
he may have drank as nervous (I have done that )
but watch out , and a walking date is a good idea

Hey lovelies checking in! I missed the thread! Just got to the end of the last one and have to RTFT here but im back after holiday and feeling a bit lost after an amazing time and now got holiday blues… didn't pull at all 😥🥺 but oh my god spanish waiters are beautiful, I was having a lot of inappropriate thoughts about threesomes in most places we went out for dinner😂😂🙈🫢
hope everyone's good, going to catch up now!

@ButterflyOfShay I can't stop thinking about threesomes! I don't know what's got into me at the moment and I want to flirt/sext with men online but worry it may send out the wrong message 😅

I've not noticed any particular correlation. Some notable examples are my super tall, brawny ex who was short but girthy down below, and a quite short ex with average hands and feet who was seriously packing. Other men have varied.

@WeWantTheFinestWines I went on BACP and filtered by area and then read all the bios of therapists in my area and then picked the one with the kindest face.
Bit like OLD😂

My therapist is great so I picked well.

@Thisisworsethananticpated hope you’re ok lovely, it must sting about Balkan ☹️💐
@hotnakedgelato glad your daughter’s ok!!

Dunno, I don’t to see many “ahems”, but I take a Large glove and size 10 boots, all that really means is I bigish hands & feet, I long thin fingers,…

@ButterflyOfShay welcome back from hols! Sorry you didn't manage a shag, but you seem to have enjoyed some eye candy at least!

@Thisisworsethananticpated it's really a shame, but it sounds like it will be positive to cut Balkan loose

Evening just found this thread! Wonderful 🤩

I’m trying OLD but get nowhere. Get likes and even start chats but nothing moves to a meeting.

I guess I don’t massively feel it with any of them, and the ones I do tend to disappear 🤷🏻‍♀️ It’s all so frustrating!

Any tips for how to keep them engaged? Wanting to respond??

Thank you, I'll have a butcher's.

Nope.

Welcome to the thread though 💐

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