Have you ever had mind-blowing sex?

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And did it effect how others compared?

Yes, with a couple of people. In both cases, I REALLY, REALLY fancied the other person and the sex had taken a few weeks to come about, as it were, so there was a slow build up, involving lingering glances, a frisson when you accidentally touch the other person’s hand etc, such that when you actually get down to it, you’ve already been fantasising about it for weeks.

For me, the difference between ‘good’ and ‘mind blowing’ is (as other posters described) an almost out of body experience, and then spending large portions of the following day having flashbacks to the ‘best bits’. Really not being able to stop thinking about it.

Yes and yes

It was with an Aussie barman who was spending a year in the UK. I fancied him like mad and we ended up seeing each other for a few weeks before he went back to Australia.

I've just had mind blowing sex with an Aussie who was working over here. I'm 43 though 😂. We were seeing each other for a couple of months but he's just gone back. It was absolute tonic after splitting up with lazy in bed ex last year. The Aussie just really enjoyed sex and my body and he really wanted me to enjoy it too. I miss him 😢

Yes. With a long term relationship many years ago. I just hit a milestone birthday and have been thinking back over my life. That relationship ended but I am very grateful that I had that experience. Some people go their whole life and don’t experience it.

Same with mine. So passionate and knew just what to do. And so well hung. I was shocked it could be so good. I'd been having sex since I was 15 and always thought sex was meh until my night with him. It was an awakening that led to me having the confidence to know what I like in bed. The next amazing shagger I met I married 😊

Agree with others that I'm having better sex now in my 40s with DH than we ever had when we were younger.

The most mind blowing time was fairly recently and I'm not joking in that he was barely touching me. The whole thing was just an exquisite building to an incredible earth shattering orgasm.

DH was a bit baffled by it, haven't managed to recreate it since.

Oh, yes, I savour the memory! Very unmumsnetty but the one time I went to a swingers club - nothing has come close since (if you'll pardon the pun!).

Yes. I waited until I was 36 to lose my virginity to the man I went on to marry. 36 years of pent up desire is a lot of desire. We did it 6 times that day. He's a great lover.

No 😭
Im not even sure I’ve ever had great sex. I think I’m just too self conscious and worry I will never have it.
Only ever slept with one person who is now dh.

Yes! And happily on more than one occasion. With my husband of several years, and with strangers I barely knew.

and like @Furrbabymama87 I had an Aussie bartender once, & I think I’ll fantasise about that weekend for the rest of my days!

Yes, at various times, always in slightly iffy relationships not when married.
Crying and laughing can happen - to both of us - and it all gets very intense.

this is like that bit in Friends where Rachel is mortified that Ross kept track of how many times they’d had sex and called him a loser. Can’t have been that mind blowing if you were keeping tally

I would have agreed with you until I met this man in my 30s and understood the mind blowing thing. Truly indescribable in a way I didn’t think was possible until I met him!

I thought it was my ex-h til I had a FWB. My God it was truly mind blowing. He was also hung like a horse 🙂

Haha. I think I'll be fantasising about my Aussie for the rest of my days too.

Anyone fancy a holiday to Australia 😂

It’s not really to do with orgasms or technique etc….it’s about amazing chemistry and physical attraction and just feeling like you’re desperate for them all the time. Then daydreaming about it the whole time you’re not with them. It’s happened with two men, including my last boyfriend who I was mad about for six years. It won’t happen for me again because men my age aren’t attractive to me.

Yes. I married him. It's still great sex. Sometimes I can't even speak or move afterwards. Mind blowing.

I went for decades thinking the hot stuff in steamy books was made up drivel. Turns out it's not, I was just with the wrong person.

Mind blowing twice - once in my twenties but the relationship didn’t take off because we had nothing in common, and once with dh randomly one afternoon. Both times it was euphoric, raw lust that is very hard to put into words.

DH and I have brilliant sex, better the longer we’ve been together with no shortage of orgasms. But those two occasions stand apart.

Yes and never quite managed to recreate it (it was a one night stand)

My GF and I regularly have mind blowing sex (same sex relationship). Once we start we can’t stop.

Yes. After years of little or no sex with ex H I had an affair with a guy who just knew how to get to you - the messages leading up to it , the sheer amount of attention he gave you - every time it was a different approach, he knew how to use his tongue, his sheer desire for me, his ability to last and he had a huge dick which allowed any position at all. Other than that he was a knob though - yes I think of him now and again but it hasn't affected the sex I have with my H.

Yes. Regularly. Sadly it blinded me to the issues until I had an awakening shall we say.

Yeah, after taking ecstasy! Way too tired these days to think about taking drugs again, but I remember writing a diary entry about it and being mind blown.

Yes.

For me it's not about orgasms, which come really easily for me. But it's about connection. Not love, or romance, but something really primal that speaks to something in the other person. Like we're being drawn together by an unstoppable force, destined to entwine. Our bodies like corresponding parts of a jigsaw, fitting together perfectly.

Good sex can be perfunctory; all the right moves, in the right order, producing the desired outcome. Mind blowing sex requires something more. Something intangible.

and this!

And yes, subsequent sex was married in comparison if I'm honest.