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Maverick2022 · 2022-05-06T20:54:50+00:00

Not the most PC question, but.... Would you go out with a relatively short man eg I'm just under 5'6" and he's the same. I've never gone out with a man the same height as me before, the prospect feels a bit odd. He's also v lightly built, which seems to emphasise it. I've read that men routi eyes lie anoit height on dating sites etc due to mNy women's feelings about this/preferences etc. How do you feel about it?

Lockheart · 07/05/2022 13:35

Soffit · 07/05/2022 13:18

Not a chance in hell. There is plenty of choice around so why date somebody who will make you feel like a butch rugby player and attract strange looks and even ridicule whenever you step out together.

I think that the Jonas guy (I cannot remember which) and Tom Holland really don't do any favours to their stunning partners public images. They may care deeply about each other but there is always a set of people you would be equally as compatible with and some will be taller than you.

Yeah who gives a shit if you care deeply about one another? What's important is what ignorant strangers with backwards opinions on the internet think!

accordionhater · 07/05/2022 13:35

Tall men (i.e., not those who are looking for a partner of similar height) who are very vocal about preferring very short women do give off a certain...vibe. A bit check-the-hard-drives and all that.

BiscuitLover3678 · 07/05/2022 13:37

Me! I’ve never understood wanting much taller men. I like a man around my height so I feel like we’re on similar levels, I don’t know. Great body and look.

CloseYourEyesAndSee · 07/05/2022 13:38

Definitely, have done many times, my ex husband was 5'6. BUT I dated a guy who was about that or a bit shorter and also very slim and that was weird. I'm not slim myself and I really felt the fact that I was bigger than him in every way. XH was well built and muscular so it never seemed as though he was a small man.

Hrpuffnstuff1 · 07/05/2022 13:39

accordionhater · 07/05/2022 10:36

Yes. A lot of tall men think 'being tall' is a personality trait. Same with a lot of short women thinking 'being short' is a personality trait. I think a lot of short women who make a big deal of 'oh, I'm so teeny weeny and only ever date huge hulking 6"6 powerlifters' are probably quite insecure in their own womanhood.

I'm sure the things men generally say about overweight women are worse than the things women generally say about short men.

Tall men do actually think tall equal strength and power. They allude to this with their shorter counterparts by either joking or directly insulting other men.

As a man, I've been turned down because of my height, but I'm not fussed, doesn't affect my self-image. I've dated women from 5'2-6 ft.
Dp is 5'8, I'm 5'9.
My brother is 6'2, in fact, I'm the shortest on both sides of the family. Yet I've always had the best-looking dates and partners.🙄😂

Butitsnotfunnyisititsserious · 07/05/2022 13:42

How short is short? Im only 5ft4 so I wouldn't really look to date someone shorter than me tbh. The only short guy I've dated was a right prick, he was so arrogant and making not so nice comments about taller men. I know it wont be the same for all shorter men, but he really put me off.

gunnersgold · 07/05/2022 13:43

I don't find little men attractive especially if they are lightly built ..
I find slim small men a bit boy like and not attractive to me but everyone has a preference don't they .

Anonanonon · 07/05/2022 13:51

gunnersgold · 07/05/2022 13:43

I don't find little men attractive especially if they are lightly built ..
I find slim small men a bit boy like and not attractive to me but everyone has a preference don't they .

I suppose this raises another question: is being slim as much of a dealbreaker in a man as height, given being slighter in build wouldn’t make woman appear smaller/slimmer in comparison?

If so, why is Harry Styles such a sex symbol? Would many women turn him down if he wasn’t famous? Or is that just teenage girls?

TunaSalad · 07/05/2022 13:54

I'm 5ft 2.5 and my DP is 5ft 4 - he hates being so short. It doesn't bother me. I face I prefer it than some of the 6ft + men I have dated.

privacymanechange · 07/05/2022 14:01

accordionhater · 07/05/2022 13:35

Tall men (i.e., not those who are looking for a partner of similar height) who are very vocal about preferring very short women do give off a certain...vibe. A bit check-the-hard-drives and all that.

My 11 year old is average height amongst her peers and is around 5ft. I'd find it strange if this height was an actual preference of tall men. It's much below the average national height of a woman.

AchatAVendre · 07/05/2022 14:03

Anonanonon · 07/05/2022 13:51

I suppose this raises another question: is being slim as much of a dealbreaker in a man as height, given being slighter in build wouldn’t make woman appear smaller/slimmer in comparison?

If so, why is Harry Styles such a sex symbol? Would many women turn him down if he wasn’t famous? Or is that just teenage girls?

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He's short and has star charisma and genuinely seems to be a non-malicious sort of person. Prince too was facially very attractive despite being pint-sized but again also a wealthy pop star. But charisma, personality, decency and good looks can overcome shortness I guess.

Although I have to say when I woke up to what I was doing with my short hypochondriac cheating ex, I realised I was avoiding masculine men and instead going for slightly boyish men. I deliberately made a choice to go for more masculine men and soon found my now DH.

Time2ChangeName · 07/05/2022 14:15

I’m 5’7” I’ve always been heightist and I’m embarrassed that I have passed this onto my 5’10” daughter. Reading comments here I realise this is wrong.

Fuzzyhippo · 07/05/2022 16:47

It depends on their personality. I'm 5'11 and have been with several men under 5'4. Most are actually shorter than me and I've never really thought much about it to be honest

5128gap · 07/05/2022 17:02

No, certainly not. But I'm sure there are some short men who wouldn't want to date me anyway because I have or lack physical traits they don't like.

ParisNoir · 07/05/2022 17:07

I'm a bit unclear why women are being scolded for not fancying short men. Men certainly arent compromising when it comes to their physical preferences in a woman. Just pop on to Tinder if you dont believe me!! Ive never in my life heard a man say "I dont fancy her at all, but she has a lovely personality!". Its well known that men are primarily visual and definitely have certain preferences (eg breast size, butt size, weight etc etc) and they dont get scolded or told off for seeking out the women that they fancy so why should women? Just seems odd.

PumpkinsandKittens · 07/05/2022 17:16

ParisNoir · 07/05/2022 17:07

I'm a bit unclear why women are being scolded for not fancying short men. Men certainly arent compromising when it comes to their physical preferences in a woman. Just pop on to Tinder if you dont believe me!! Ive never in my life heard a man say "I dont fancy her at all, but she has a lovely personality!". Its well known that men are primarily visual and definitely have certain preferences (eg breast size, butt size, weight etc etc) and they dont get scolded or told off for seeking out the women that they fancy so why should women? Just seems odd.

Yep exactly it’s really weird, all this “I feel sorry for short men” nonsense as if men don’t have their own preferences when it comes to dating and in fact men are more into looks than women in general, my sister was on tinder and she use to laugh how many men on there would put “no salad dodgers” “no one over a size 10” she’s very slim and she told me men would often tell her how refreshing it was to see a woman with a full length body picture as far too many fat women Try to hide how big they are by only putting face pics up apparently, so no I don’t feel sorry for short men, men are just as bad and have their own preferences when it comes to women.

5128gap · 07/05/2022 17:20

accordionhater · 07/05/2022 10:36

Yes. A lot of tall men think 'being tall' is a personality trait. Same with a lot of short women thinking 'being short' is a personality trait. I think a lot of short women who make a big deal of 'oh, I'm so teeny weeny and only ever date huge hulking 6"6 powerlifters' are probably quite insecure in their own womanhood.

I'm sure the things men generally say about overweight women are worse than the things women generally say about short men.

What on earth is being 'insecure in your womanhood'? I'd have thought that if anyone was going to feel secure in their womanhood, if it's even a thing, it would be women who fit the stereotype of delicate femininity. Suggesting women who prefer bigger taller men have issues of some sort is surely only something a short man might choose to believe?

ParisNoir · 07/05/2022 17:21

PumpkinsandKittens · 07/05/2022 17:16

Yep exactly it’s really weird, all this “I feel sorry for short men” nonsense as if men don’t have their own preferences when it comes to dating and in fact men are more into looks than women in general, my sister was on tinder and she use to laugh how many men on there would put “no salad dodgers” “no one over a size 10” she’s very slim and she told me men would often tell her how refreshing it was to see a woman with a full length body picture as far too many fat women Try to hide how big they are by only putting face pics up apparently, so no I don’t feel sorry for short men, men are just as bad and have their own preferences when it comes to women.

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Exactly! urgh "no salad dodgers"- how bloody rude. You can express a preference without being offensive.

I would agree with PP that weight is slightly different to height in that its more malleable but the point still remains that MEN have no issue in discounting women for physical appearance reasons alone so this idea that women are somehow obliged to date short men even if they dont find them attractive is really quite disgusting and a massive double standard.

5128gap · 07/05/2022 17:25

ParisNoir · 07/05/2022 17:07

I'm a bit unclear why women are being scolded for not fancying short men. Men certainly arent compromising when it comes to their physical preferences in a woman. Just pop on to Tinder if you dont believe me!! Ive never in my life heard a man say "I dont fancy her at all, but she has a lovely personality!". Its well known that men are primarily visual and definitely have certain preferences (eg breast size, butt size, weight etc etc) and they dont get scolded or told off for seeking out the women that they fancy so why should women? Just seems odd.

Yes, I hate this attitude too. Women are not commodities to be acquired by any man who takes a fancy to them, regardless of the woman's own preference. When women scold other women and try to shame them as superficial for their preferences, they are basically telling them they should be available to any man who wants them. It feels uncomfortable to me.

Anonanonon · 07/05/2022 17:26

they dont get scolded or told off for seeking out the women that they fancy

@ParisNoir I'd suggest a visit to the "Men over 40s" thread - it proves otherwise 😁

Seriously though, me are being called out more on shallow preferences these days (thank goodness). Although, yes, there's still plenty who do place priority on breast size, etc (I don't think it helps that mainstream music - especially hip hop - helps to perpetuate the notion to young men that being a cold-hearted guy who's all about money and treats women like commodities is the most attractive thing, ever). That said, I'm not sure if two wrongs make a right. I'd much rather we had equality through men becoming a bit more emotionally intelligent, than women feeling they should emulate the male middle-life crisis at its worst.

ParisNoir · 07/05/2022 17:32

Anonanonon · 07/05/2022 17:26

they dont get scolded or told off for seeking out the women that they fancy

@ParisNoir I'd suggest a visit to the "Men over 40s" thread - it proves otherwise 😁

Seriously though, me are being called out more on shallow preferences these days (thank goodness). Although, yes, there's still plenty who do place priority on breast size, etc (I don't think it helps that mainstream music - especially hip hop - helps to perpetuate the notion to young men that being a cold-hearted guy who's all about money and treats women like commodities is the most attractive thing, ever). That said, I'm not sure if two wrongs make a right. I'd much rather we had equality through men becoming a bit more emotionally intelligent, than women feeling they should emulate the male middle-life crisis at its worst.

I completely disagree. Old knackered men dating young gorgeous women is still accepted in our culture. Look at the movies- you rarely if ever see an older woman with a much younger toyboy and if you do, comments are made about it. Noone bats an eyelid on the other hand when some aging old male rocker marries a glamour model half his age. I also dont consider it "equality" to be told I should date a man I dont actually fancy thanks.

5128gap · 07/05/2022 17:34

Anonanonon · 07/05/2022 17:26

they dont get scolded or told off for seeking out the women that they fancy

@ParisNoir I'd suggest a visit to the "Men over 40s" thread - it proves otherwise 😁

Seriously though, me are being called out more on shallow preferences these days (thank goodness). Although, yes, there's still plenty who do place priority on breast size, etc (I don't think it helps that mainstream music - especially hip hop - helps to perpetuate the notion to young men that being a cold-hearted guy who's all about money and treats women like commodities is the most attractive thing, ever). That said, I'm not sure if two wrongs make a right. I'd much rather we had equality through men becoming a bit more emotionally intelligent, than women feeling they should emulate the male middle-life crisis at its worst.

The over 40s thread is entirely different. That thread is about old men chasing young women and making young women feel uncomfortable.
If you wanted to make a comparison you'd need to find a thread where a lot of tall men, or short men who used to be tall, were moaning about constantly being harassed by women who they found repellent; and some women arguing that tall men found them irresistible.

Anonanonon · 07/05/2022 17:34

5128gap · 07/05/2022 17:20

What on earth is being 'insecure in your womanhood'? I'd have thought that if anyone was going to feel secure in their womanhood, if it's even a thing, it would be women who fit the stereotype of delicate femininity. Suggesting women who prefer bigger taller men have issues of some sort is surely only something a short man might choose to believe?

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I can only speak for annecdotally, however I've known a few woman who've declared a thing for "tallbois" and when enquired as to why, have said it's because their height "makes them feel more feminine". So I don't think its unfair to say that, requiring a man of a certain size, to feel more like a woman suggests a certain insecurity. Why should they need a man at all - let alone one of above average height - just to feel like a woman? It suggests they're dependant on them, that they're providing validation.

That's not to say there aren't plenty of women who fell in love with tall men, just because they clicked and had chemistry of course. However, we're not talking about those couples here.

Anonanonon · 07/05/2022 17:38

5128gap · 07/05/2022 17:34

The over 40s thread is entirely different. That thread is about old men chasing young women and making young women feel uncomfortable.
If you wanted to make a comparison you'd need to find a thread where a lot of tall men, or short men who used to be tall, were moaning about constantly being harassed by women who they found repellent; and some women arguing that tall men found them irresistible.

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The comment wasn't meant entirely seriously (hence the emoji) however I think we could agree that there are plenty of posts there where men are being "scolded or told off for seeking out the women that they fancy", which is all I really meant (and quite rightly).

5128gap · 07/05/2022 17:43

Anonanonon · 07/05/2022 17:34

I can only speak for annecdotally, however I've known a few woman who've declared a thing for "tallbois" and when enquired as to why, have said it's because their height "makes them feel more feminine". So I don't think its unfair to say that, requiring a man of a certain size, to feel more like a woman suggests a certain insecurity. Why should they need a man at all - let alone one of above average height - just to feel like a woman? It suggests they're dependant on them, that they're providing validation.

That's not to say there aren't plenty of women who fell in love with tall men, just because they clicked and had chemistry of course. However, we're not talking about those couples here.

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Well, if that is the case, it wasn't women who created the idea that they should be small and weak with a big strong man to protect them. Men did that. And if that's turned into a bit of an own goal for the shorter and weaker amongst them, well, that too bad.