Would you go out with a short man?

[Maverick2022]

Not the most PC question, but....

Would you go out with a relatively short man eg I'm just under 5'6" and he's the same.

I've never gone out with a man the same height as me before, the prospect feels a bit odd. He's also v lightly built, which seems to emphasise it.

I've read that men routi eyes lie anoit height on dating sites etc due to mNy women's feelings about this/preferences etc.

How do you feel about it?

YES! exactly. This orignated from men, they created this- hence all the corset usage from years ago to make women look more tiny and the idea that women were too "feeble" to vote or express political opinions or be educated or able to manage their own finances.

@ParisNoir
I also dont consider it "equality" to be told I should date a man I dont actually fancy thanks.

shrug You're free to fancy who you fancy. However, I do find it sad when something superficial becomes such an absolute dealbreaker, whatever your gender. That shallow qualities like height or breast size - and these are shallow qualities, since shallow means "not very deep" and these are, by their nature, surface details - become of such great import that every other quality becomes meaningless in comparison.

That's what I mean: that I'd rather have equality where men stop putting such importance on looks and youth, rather than they carte blanche to carry on such behaviour because, hey, now women can too!

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That's what I mean: that I'd rather have equality where men stop putting such importance on looks and youth, rather than they carte blanche to carry on such behaviour because, hey, now women can too

But they havent, have they? so how on earth is it helping anyone to tell women they cannot do it?

Sorry, missed it was tongue in cheek. I just get irritated with this endless angst over anything that makes men's position any less than ideal and it makes me snippy.

Well, okay. Maybe that's the case. Doesn't change the observation its still an insecurity experienced by some women, which is what PP was talking about though, does it?

Could anyone actually quote where anyone has said "you must date a man you don't fancy"?

Because that's the usual shite that gets trotted out whenever anyone points out that someone is being shallow, and to date I've yet to see it.

You can set whatever dating standards you want. And others can think it's shallow.

But they havent, have they? so how on earth is it helping anyone to tell women they cannot do it?

I'm not personally suggesting anyone can't do it. Just that if you find it pathetic behaviour in men, it doesn't edify the behaviour any better just because you're doing it yourself. You're kind of stooping to their level.

If you think their behaviour is fine and dandy, mind, then knock yourself out!

You're free to fancy who you fancy. However, I do find it sad when something superficial becomes such an absolute dealbreaker, whatever your gender

I posted earlier that I have actually dated men shorter than me (I am 5'10") and even though I never mentioned their height once, I got nothing but grief from them regarding my height in comments like "DONT wear heels, you look too tall", "you're SO tall" etc and it got very tiring and made me feel like shit after a while. After that, I decided only to date tall men and now I am married to one. So, even though tall men are my physical preference I have tried dating shorter men and they were the ones with the height hang up, not me!

To be fair, I think its more likely to be an insecurity for women who don't fit the stereotype. The same with tall men, they're not insecure about their height/masculinity in the way some short slight men are.

I had a boyfriend exactly the same height/ size as me. We used to get dressed in each other's clothes for fun. We were in love and he was gorgeous.

@PumpkinsandKittens my point was that models are usually all very tall and are deemed to be the most beautiful in society, so female height must be seen as a desirable asset.

Something doesn't have to be directly said for it to be implied. Calling people shallow is intended to shame them for having preferences for certain physical traits, and implies that not having preferences is a sign of greater depth of character/superiority. Based on your own last paragraph, it appears women have a choice of being thought shallow or...well...dating men they don't fancy.

I have gone out with short men, but my husband is six four.

Well the whole dating thing is shallow, isn't it? Doesn't matter if your male or female, we all have to fancy someone in some way if we're going to sleep with them. I like skinny blokes - I can't help it, I just do. So obviously I'm not going to approach a more butch looking one. That's just life.

I’ve always gone for taller men. Older than me too. Then I met dp who is about the same height when I’m in flats, and a couple of years younger. On paper, it would bother me I suppose, but in reality it doesn’t, as we’re a brilliant fit in every other way.

You’re welcome to judge people for having particular preferences in their sexual partners, just as we can feel sorry for women who feel like they have to settle.

Exactly! spot on

Who said anything about having to settle? And why do you think women who don't mind short men are "settling"?

@Lockheart You are saying that we shouldn’t have physical preferences, because that’s shallow. I’m telling you that you can have a physical preference as well as other other preferences. Being sexually attracted to someone is just as important. Ignoring that side of things would be settling not shallow.

I have loved short men before but met them in real life, not OLD. On OLD where you meet someone with no context unfortunately I just feel huge next to a short, slight man without having got to know him and felt comfortable with him and no, I don't like that feeling.

I was criticised heavily for my build, weight and even shoe size as a child so I know it's a 'me' problem. I haven't even ended up a remarkable size- 5'6" and 12-14 but I can't shake off those early comments that have made me feel like I'm twice everyone else's size and that is a big failing.

I didn't say you shouldn't have physical preferences. (My personal physical preference is Henry Cavill.)

I do think it's shallow to disregard someone totally because of their height. (Or because they're not Henry Cavill.)

You still haven't explained why settling comes into it or why someone dating a short(er) man (or someone who isn't Henry Cavill) is settling.

I dont find shorter men attractive - never have, probably never will. I really dont care if someone online thinks I am shallow. Its completely laughable that I'd change my dating preferences just because some random stranger online thinks I am "shallow" lol

I am 6ft so never really had much choice!! My husband is about 5'10' but you wouldn't really notice he was that much shorter than me unless I wear heels. My ex was about 6'1 ish and it was quite nice to feel small for a change but I dont mind being taller

I preferred my man to be my height (5'6) or taller. My husband is 1m 84cm/6 Ft

I met some couples where men were not very tall but had great personalities and were very happily married and made their wives very happy.