Would you go out with a short man?

[Maverick2022]

Not the most PC question, but....

Would you go out with a relatively short man eg I'm just under 5'6" and he's the same.

I've never gone out with a man the same height as me before, the prospect feels a bit odd. He's also v lightly built, which seems to emphasise it.

I've read that men routi eyes lie anoit height on dating sites etc due to mNy women's feelings about this/preferences etc.

How do you feel about it?

what a silly girl I was!

For the sake of argument, your partner ended up being a twat, bit that's coincidental. You could just as easily have ended up with a man who wasn't.

Or, for that matter, a different story man who was a twst.n

The twatiness was not dependant on height.😁

(Or, for that matter, a different stort man who was a twat).

A woman I know's younger sister (average to tall height, above average looks) went out with a short, relatively good looking guy from South or Central America ... maybe it was a cultural thing, I don't know but he cheated (and close to home), and generally wrecked her Mh and self esteem by the time she found the strength to end the relationship. He was also verbally abusive.

So ..

Ah sorry I should hsve been more specific with that comment; I meant there is bg really an equivalent re. short stature for women.

You're v right in saying there's negativity in the other direction; which tall men wouldn't experience.

I'm the same height as DH. It doesn't bother me or him. You fall in love with a personality, surely?

If anything, I quite like feeling the Amazonian when I'm in heels. 😁

On a practical level, there's no constant adjusting the car seat/mirrors or shower as we're both the same!

I'm 5'9 and always dated men much taller or I felt like some sort of clumsy heffalump. But I married a couple of years ago to a man who's 5'10 and it's absolutely fine. In heels I'm a touch taller than him, but generally we're about the same height. No issue at all. My sister is 6'1 and her husband is noticeably shorter than her - they've been happy for 20 years so it works for them !

I used to be absolutely no way, to anybody less than 6', but in reality it doesn't really matter. I'm still not sure about someone shorter than me not making me feel big and clumsy, but the same height absolutely fine.

Well, I am only 5ft tall myself, and have a small build. So even short men are huge compared to me! I did always think I would have to reproduce with a tall guy to ensure my children weren't midgets, so my husband is tall and my 15 year old son now towers over me at 6ft2.

But dating/attraction wise its not a factor for me, in my pre husband days I dated guys ranging from 5ft3 to 6ft5. Though really over 6ft is just awkward for someone my size!

Ah yeah, I get you.

A few weeks ago I was in the queue at my local shop and a dishevelled looking guy clutching an 8 pack of beers, about 5'4", said to me with a sneer "You're tall for a woman arent you?" I looked at his grubby appearance and said "and you're short for a man arent you?". Funnily enough, he had nothing to say after that. It just annoys me- I never comment on others appearance, its just so unnecessary and rude.

No but that's more about me than them. I already feel like a clumsy oaf as it is. Dating someone shorter/smaller than me just makes this worse.

My hang up, I realise.

DP is the same height as me - 5'5". I don't wear heels, because I can't walk in them. But chunky boots make me taller. He is just bigger, more solid than me. I feel very comfortable with him.
He has no hang ups about his height.
I have met some men under 6ft, who insist they are taller.
Inner confidence is everything.

"and you're short for a man arent you?

😁

He got what he deserved.

What's with all the handwringing about whether it's shallow or not? Surely we're allowed to make our own decisions based on our own desires about whether we want to date someone or not.

My husband is shorter than me.
It is what it is. Can't bother me that much.

I’m nearly 5’9 and when I met my other half 22 years ago I must admit I thought he was on the shorter side for a man. I cannot stand heels and he’s just a smidge taller than me so no issues whatsoever. If I fell in love with someone a whole head shorter than me or something that would feel a bit odd (if I’m going for honesty). Now that I have a son who seems to take after his dad’s side of the family (they’re all much smaller than me), I must admit I hope he finds love in someone who is a bit smaller so no one passes rude remarks. My niece is 5’3 and her husband is 5’4 - no one ever comments because he’s confident in himself and they look lovely together.
it shouldn’t really be a thing so I’d never voice my internal feelings out loud. I tell my son every day that height doesn’t matter - he’s just right as he is.

I generally need men to be bigger than me in some way to fancy them - generally tall, but heavy build will also do. That said, the person I fancied most in my life was only about 5'8 and very lean - but he had a very deep voice and a beard. Which I guess provided the necessary masculinity??

I do find tall attractive but it’s not essential. I’ve dated a man who was 5’5” and he was really attractive. The height wasn’t the reason it didn’t work out. The only short man I met for a date who I didn’t find attractive went to the gym a lot and was very muscly —and it gave him the unfortunate appearance of being squashed down— 🙈.

Yes I've had this too.

Just bear in mind my experience with a 6'5" partner. DD was almost 10lb and so long, she got wedged inside my pelvis with no way of turning. For her length, she was on the 5th centile for weight.

I wish I'd waited to have a child with DP instead. He's the same height as me.

I wouldn't if he were shorter than me. As long as he's taller its ok. But I'm 5 foot nothing so that's not hard 😂

Couldn't care less really. First serious bf was 5'4 (same as me), never bothered me.

@LadyLothbrook Me too! Swoon! 😍

I'm instinctively attracted to tall men but ended up marrying someone just shorter than me. If I could change that, yes I would because it makes me feel big and hefty in comparison when really I'm not.
However, he's a lovely kind man, my best friend and a brilliant husband and father. So would I swap that for a few extra inches of height? - no.

Absolutely. I'm average height and have dated men taller, similar height and shorter. I only like slim men though, so it's not as though physical attributes don't matter to me.

In fact, when I used to do OLD, I never even bothered to look at the height - it just didn't occur to me.

Just to add- my son is very tall and says women don't go for it because he's TOO tall.

There's always going to be personal preference - I don't find tall attractive at all. I've not studied it scientifically, but when I look back, without meaning to, I've always gone for short to mid-range. Let's face it, the chances of needing a man to fight to protect you are very slim. We're meant to be equal these days - I can look after myself!

All that said, I do completely get that it's nice to feel smaller (and I'm short so most people are taller than me anyway). I wonder how much of that is just what we're told to expect (along with a load of other stereotypes that have no practical meaning).

I used to always have tall partners then I discovered the joy of a 5'8 man - so much better body wise fitting together . 😁

No, I'm 5ft 11". I feel like gigantor at the best of times...