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Would you go out with a short man?

371 replies

Maverick2022 · 06/05/2022 21:54

Not the most PC question, but....

Would you go out with a relatively short man eg I'm just under 5'6" and he's the same.

I've never gone out with a man the same height as me before, the prospect feels a bit odd. He's also v lightly built, which seems to emphasise it.

I've read that men routi eyes lie anoit height on dating sites etc due to mNy women's feelings about this/preferences etc.

How do you feel about it?

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starrynight21 · 07/05/2022 10:08

I'm 5'7". DH is about an inch shorter. He is also lightly built so looks even smaller. Neither of us could care less .

serenghetti2011 · 07/05/2022 10:10

My boyfriend is 5’6 however I’m 5’1 so he’s taller than me. On online dating he was very upfront about his height as so many had been unkind to him about it. I mean he can’t help his height his mum is 4’10. I totally get people prefer tall/slim etc whatever it is that attracts them to a man. But equally just because someone doesn’t fit that they feel being derogatory or cruel is the correct way to deal with it. Just say sorry you’re not my type. He’s a very good looking guy too so their loss is my gain as he’s absolutely lovely.

MrsGHarrison87 · 07/05/2022 10:16

I am 5'1 so obviously I wouldn't date someone shorter than myself. And I do like tall men. My husband is 6'3. However, if I really fancied someone and they were smaller than the average height for a man, it wouldn't be a deal breaker as long as they weren't very petite all over.

emuloc · 07/05/2022 10:17

I would not date a man shorter than myself, I am 5'1, and a bit more, if I take in a deep breath.🙂

emuloc · 07/05/2022 10:21

serenghetti2011 · 07/05/2022 10:10

My boyfriend is 5’6 however I’m 5’1 so he’s taller than me. On online dating he was very upfront about his height as so many had been unkind to him about it. I mean he can’t help his height his mum is 4’10. I totally get people prefer tall/slim etc whatever it is that attracts them to a man. But equally just because someone doesn’t fit that they feel being derogatory or cruel is the correct way to deal with it. Just say sorry you’re not my type. He’s a very good looking guy too so their loss is my gain as he’s absolutely lovely.

Good for you. You are right, there is no need at all to be rude, or hurtful to someone, because of their height.

ParisNoir · 07/05/2022 10:26

emuloc · 07/05/2022 10:21

Good for you. You are right, there is no need at all to be rude, or hurtful to someone, because of their height.

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Yes and the same applies to short men being rude about tall women!!

RedRobyn2021 · 07/05/2022 10:30

I was with someone the same height as me (5'7'') so yeah. He was really good looking and I was deeply attracted to him.

One of my cousins (a woman) her partner is about 4inches shorter and they do look a bit out of place, but then... it doesn't matter does it?? Love doesn't care about height.

accordionhater · 07/05/2022 10:36

Yes. A lot of tall men think 'being tall' is a personality trait. Same with a lot of short women thinking 'being short' is a personality trait. I think a lot of short women who make a big deal of 'oh, I'm so teeny weeny and only ever date huge hulking 6"6 powerlifters' are probably quite insecure in their own womanhood.

I'm sure the things men generally say about overweight women are worse than the things women generally say about short men.

VintageGibbon · 07/05/2022 10:50

accordionhater · 07/05/2022 10:36

Yes. A lot of tall men think 'being tall' is a personality trait. Same with a lot of short women thinking 'being short' is a personality trait. I think a lot of short women who make a big deal of 'oh, I'm so teeny weeny and only ever date huge hulking 6"6 powerlifters' are probably quite insecure in their own womanhood.

I'm sure the things men generally say about overweight women are worse than the things women generally say about short men.

But there is a difference - overweight women can lose weight. Short men can't do anything about their height and they are often really mocked and dismissed. Being rude about someone's height is like being rude about their skin colour or nationality - it's not something they have any control over.

Not that I'm suggesting it's OK to be rude about someone's weight but there is a difference. When I was very overweight I felt down about my looks and how strangers often reacted to me, but I knew deep down that I could do something about it and I have.

SmellyWellyWoo · 07/05/2022 11:02

Being completely honest, I used to rule out anyone below 5'8" even though I'm only 5'5" myself. Then I met and fell for DP who is the same height as me and realised how irrelevant his height actually was. I examined why I had felt the need to date a man who was taller/broader than me and it's fear people thinking I look fat or manly. So all about other people and not me. And as a feminist, I can't reconcile those worries because I woman regardless of how overweight or masculine I may appear.

littleburn · 07/05/2022 11:04

No, I only really like taller guys.

PumpkinsandKittens · 07/05/2022 11:12

Dating isn’t equal opportunities, people can dismiss anyone for whatever reason they like! Plenty of people won’t date out of their race etc, dating is not about being fair it’s about what you are attracted to and sadly most women aren’t attracted to short men, that’s life! But dating isn’t about “being fair”

Hala9 · 07/05/2022 11:13

Taller than me, but then I’m tiny.

In my younger days - ‘tall men only’ - 6ft plus. With many battle scars I met my gem of a man. 5ft 9 - and realised size really doesn’t matter, he is such a great human being!

(Does make me look back and think about other lovely men that I might have missed out on with my rather superficial criteria - and make me wish I’d been as superficial about my bas**rd of a 6ft ExDH 😉😳😂)

Collardgreens · 07/05/2022 11:16

i am tall. For evolution’s sake, I married a short man.

we can’t just keep growing upwards as a species. Look at what happened to the dinosaurs … (closing textbook, satisfied that dinosaurs became extinct when they all got bad backs and couldn’t get out of bed).

webseb · 07/05/2022 11:36

Glad it wasn't just me @Youwiththeglasses

I don't mind a PM but middle of the night message asking to talk about my reply on the 'small man' thread was odd. 😅

webseb · 07/05/2022 11:46

accordionhater · 07/05/2022 10:36

Yes. A lot of tall men think 'being tall' is a personality trait. Same with a lot of short women thinking 'being short' is a personality trait. I think a lot of short women who make a big deal of 'oh, I'm so teeny weeny and only ever date huge hulking 6"6 powerlifters' are probably quite insecure in their own womanhood.

I'm sure the things men generally say about overweight women are worse than the things women generally say about short men.

Agree about some men and women using lack of height as a personally trait. Some insist there are petite trolls on here, and other forums. Though I can't say I know much about that.

Yes, men say far worse about overweight women. I've even seen the same about tall women, where a woman over 5ft 9 was asked if she was 'a bloke' by a drunken short man.

Lockheart · 07/05/2022 11:46

I don't care about height. I'm pushing 5'11" so I'm already taller than the average man (5'10"), it'd be daft for me to set a rule that they must be 6' or over as then I'd be ruling out most of the potential dating pool in one stroke.

I dated a guy for a few months who was 5'6". Incredibly handsome, very charming, and totally broke my heart in the end (nothing sinister, he moved out of the country). I still miss him in a way.

I find it a bit much when women who are only e.g. 5' say they absolutely must have a partner over 6'. My personal rule is not to demand anything you're not bringing to the table yourself though.

webseb · 07/05/2022 11:47

I meant some tall men and very short women!

PumpkinsandKittens · 07/05/2022 11:49

I find it a bit much when women who are only e.g. 5' say they absolutely must have a partner over 6'. My personal rule is not to demand anything you're not bringing to the table yourself though.

sorry but this is funny, most tall men prefer petite women so that’s a bit of a ridiculous comment, unfortunately tall women are generally less attractive to men the same way short men are to women

Lockheart · 07/05/2022 11:57

PumpkinsandKittens · 07/05/2022 11:49

I find it a bit much when women who are only e.g. 5' say they absolutely must have a partner over 6'. My personal rule is not to demand anything you're not bringing to the table yourself though.

sorry but this is funny, most tall men prefer petite women so that’s a bit of a ridiculous comment, unfortunately tall women are generally less attractive to men the same way short men are to women

Ah of course, tall women are unattractive. Whatever makes you feel better about yourself I guess.

webseb · 07/05/2022 11:57

"I find it a bit much when women who are only e.g. 5' say they absolutely must have a partner over 6'. My personal rule is not to demand anything you're not bringing to the table yourself though."

I agree. I really don't believe that the tiny 5ft petite people are preferred by people over 6ft, over taller women, in any case. Much was always made of the 'long legged' women among my male friends, and envied by my female friends.

SmellyWellyWoo · 07/05/2022 12:10

Tall women are unattractive? Supermodels?

PumpkinsandKittens · 07/05/2022 12:12

we Are talking average women not super models! It’s been said on this very thread that tall women struggle more and are referred to as manly by some men! (Did I say that is my opinion 🙄)

VintageGibbon · 07/05/2022 12:15

Most men I've overheard discussing women's bodies talk in rapturous terms about tall women. They love long legs.

webseb · 07/05/2022 12:15

unfortunately tall women are generally less attractive to men the same way short men are to women

Nonsense!

I say that as an average height woman of 5ft 5. And 'model' women are generally admired and they're minimum 5ft 7.