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Would you go out with a short man?

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Maverick2022 · 06/05/2022 21:54

Not the most PC question, but....

Would you go out with a relatively short man eg I'm just under 5'6" and he's the same.

I've never gone out with a man the same height as me before, the prospect feels a bit odd. He's also v lightly built, which seems to emphasise it.

I've read that men routi eyes lie anoit height on dating sites etc due to mNy women's feelings about this/preferences etc.

How do you feel about it?

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Ponderingwindow · 07/05/2022 02:24

Height has never been an issue for me. I’m taller than the average woman by a bit. I’ve dated men who were taller and shorter. It never even occurred to me to think anything of that. The first time I even encountered the concept was a message board.

i have other requirements though.

windmillandcoffee · 07/05/2022 02:26

6' absolute minimum - can't be doing with short men!

ShandaLear · 07/05/2022 03:09

Height is the least interesting thing about a man. I wouldn’t date a man who was mean or rude or a bit of a dick, but I don’t care about his height.

Autienotnaughtie · 07/05/2022 03:20

My dh is about 5.7 and I'm 5,5. All previous partners were around 6ft but I loved being closer in height, I ditched the heels and embraced the no neck strain. However over lock down dh has gone v healthy and has lost about 3 stone. He was quite a solid looking man before now he's skin and bone. I coincidentally have hit middle age age and 1.5 stone has appeared from nowhere mostly around my stomach. I feel huge next to him. (He's always been a good 3-4 stone heavier than me now he weighs less than me) I hate it and I think his height emphasises his skinniness.

Fadeout83 · 07/05/2022 03:37

DP is 5ft7 and I’m 5ft4. He’s also pretty slight and lean. Doesn’t bother me, we look good together. I can see how taller women would have an issue feeling feminine around short slight men though. It’s fine, everyone has preferences. We have two sons though and both will be short like dad so I do feel a bit sad for their dating futures lol

Sunnytwobridges · 07/05/2022 03:37

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 06/05/2022 21:56

Im 5ft 8. Short lightly built men just made me feel like a giantess. So no l wouldn’t, I’d feel really uncomfortable.

This. I’m 5’6.5 and built like a brick wall and my ex was my height and small framed and skinny. I always felt weird around him. He was about 50 pounds lighter than I was and I think if he was heavier and built I would’ve been fine with it.

Marty13 · 07/05/2022 03:50

Haven't rtft but I'm really surprised by the first answers. Height is a pretty shallow criterium to pick a partner. I'd rather go out with a short man/woman than a dumb one. 5'6 isn't even that short.

I'd date Tyrion Lannister so yeah, I'd go out with someone shorter than me. I'm way more interested in them having good conversation and making me laugh than in them being tall.

Besttobe8001 · 07/05/2022 04:22

It's sad to hear that people feel massive or less feminine next to a short man.

The way I feel about myself isn't pinned on who is around me.

timestheyarechanging · 07/05/2022 04:25

My current partner is about 5 6. Shortest I've ever been with. Ex H is 5 11. Ex P is 6 1. I'm only 5 ft though. I love the bones of him. Weird that my teenage son towers over him though!

StarlightLady · 07/05/2022 07:03

It's all the same on the horizontal.

Eesha · 07/05/2022 07:21

A mutual friend of mine must be 5ft 10 and her husband around 5ft 5. They do look a bit strange at first but so so happy with two children as well. I often think I'd love what they have, regardless of the height thing!

UseOfWeapons · 07/05/2022 07:30

My 1st husband was half and inch shorter than me, I’m 5’8”. Also been out with a few blokes who were around 5’6”, and women who were 5’4”. It’s never mattered to me, once you have a lovely snog, as PPs have said, height is simply not an issue!

mycatisannoying · 07/05/2022 07:32

No, sorry. I'm 5'4 and he must be taller than me.

ParisNoir · 07/05/2022 07:32

Nope. I'm 5'10" and have been out with men shorter than me and every single one wouldnt stop going on about my height. Eg. "dont wear heels", "I dont want you to look taller than me- you're SO tall" etc etc They made me feel really insecure about a feature of myself that I have no control over. So, now I only go out with men taller than me and will never ever date a short man ever again.

Perfectlystill · 07/05/2022 07:36

There's something very off-putting for me about men under 5' 10". I do know some lovely short men but I wouldn't want to sleep with any of them.

Skelligsfeathers · 07/05/2022 07:40

I want them taller than me but as i am 5' 11" that means over 6 foot.
I have been out with shorter men- went on a date with a bloke who 5'4" and very sexy once but i felt like a freak next to him.

LaburnumAlpine · 07/05/2022 07:54

One of my most memorable and fun relationships was with a guy much shorter than me, I am rather tall though.
He had a smile that promised adventure and charisma that just swept you along.
Quite a character, so glad I had him in my life!

backtothestarting · 07/05/2022 08:00

Nope I'm Tom the same height as you op and I find anything under 5"9 is a no go, it's just really puts me off, I like to be able to wear heels without towering over a man,

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Maverick2022 · 07/05/2022 08:05

@latetothefisting

On a random, side note ... love your username, I still laugh when I think a kid that thread

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Maverick2022 · 07/05/2022 08:07

(Think about).

Well thought seems to be panning out at roughly 50-50.

Or perhaps only 50 - 50 if the man is solidly built, not light framed as it were.

Probably should have gone aibu with voting.

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Maverick2022 · 07/05/2022 08:11

*Funny how a thread regarding attraction to fat women would have everyone in an uproar. But perfectly fine to admit that people don’t like short men.

Wonder how the tall women fare too?*

I've seen threads on those subjects on a male dominated forum; they didn't spare anyone's feelings or pull any puncges. Posters were being a lot less tactful than they'd ve on here. I'd say men are often less tactful in general

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EdgeOfSeventeenAndThreeQuarter · 07/05/2022 08:11

A 5’2” man took me out on a fabulous date - and I was young, immature and stupid and refused to take it further because of his height.

i know social media doesn’t always paint an honest picture - but from what I see 20+ years on, he’s a solid, loyal, devoted father and man.

meanwhile the man I went on to marry was an absolute twat.

what a silly girl I was!

im not a fan of “dainty hands” though. I’m built to carry sacks of peat up a mountain like a pit-pony.

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Maverick2022 · 07/05/2022 08:14

Like I say, not judging, or suggesting anyone should date people they aren't attracted to for whatever reason. It's just an observation, that I do think shorter men have it tough when it comes to dating.

Definitely.

And there isnt really an equivalent re height for women.

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Maverick2022 · 07/05/2022 08:18

from what I see 20+ years on, he’s a solid, loyal, devoted father and man..

Apparently shorter men are actually more likely to have long marriages... but perceived or actual lack of opportunities with alternative partners might be a factor 😬

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ParisNoir · 07/05/2022 08:20

Maverick2022 · 07/05/2022 08:14

Like I say, not judging, or suggesting anyone should date people they aren't attracted to for whatever reason. It's just an observation, that I do think shorter men have it tough when it comes to dating.

Definitely.

And there isnt really an equivalent re height for women.

I'm 5'10" and have had my fair share of rude comments from men- but ALWAYS men shorter than me I've noticed. I never comment on men's heights and yet I still get comments to me. It only serves to convince me that "short man syndrome" is indeed alive and well and is a real thing.