Would it be two-timing? Help!!

[greeneyedgirl]

Ok so I have been "seeing" a guy I suppose. Been on 3 dates in quick succession and we have been pretty intimate, but have not had sex, not going to yet either. We seem to get on fine and he is nice, but there have been no declarations or relationship discussions.

But have been talking to a guy online (met both on a dating site) who really wants to meet me and he also seems really nice. I would like to just meet up for a drink just to see how we get on, but feeling a bit weird, do you think I would be "cheating"?

I don't feel like I am going out with the guy I am seeing, he is nice, but it all seems to be quite sexual, which although is enjoyable, I am really not sure about and want to pull back a little.

So what do you think I should do? All opinions welcome!

you are funny, that was such a great post until you had to put yourself down at the end!!!

Too right, you cannot please all the people all the time and you cannot avoid hurting people all the time too.

You are on a very positive journey and seeing a counsellor is a great thing to be doing.

You are no flake, just a nice person and you are trying to find your way - just like everyone else out there.

well as my friends keep saying to me as long as you get yours don't worry about him lol.

either way with whomever it doesn't hurt to keep your options open, just remember to be safe and meet in a public place/tell lots of people where you will be/give them his name/no etc

Haha, that's a good one DTM, I will stick to that philosophy, yes we are meeting in a pub/restaraunt parents know etc.

Thanks PAL, I am actually starting to believe that I am a fairly nice person...and pretty cool too !

good positive thinking, greeneyedgirl!

Cheers. You're full of helpful advice PAL, you should be a professional...er advice giver!

lol. doesn't mean I believe it - mr man my end keeps trying it on but so far I can't seem to give in I wonder he he.

have fun - when are you meeting him?

ah yes our pal is good for manly advice - bit like hub used to be.

Tonight, hopefully will be good. I am just about to start a new thread as my hubby is an aresehole!

ooh my second fave topic! lol. go right ahead.

have a nice night

go on the date

i have one tomorrow and one on sunday if ds1 gets better (he has been sick today)

make the most of it

ooh lou - met the man we were talking about b4 last w/e when he moved into town - oohhhhh lala will forgive the 'hun' word! he he.

greenie - learn from lou, she gives good dating advice!

by greeneyedgirl on Fri 11-Jan-08 10:00:35
Ok...slight setback here. Talking to a male friend last night who was slightly disapproving on my intentions to go on a date. He reckons that by doing intimate "stuff" with the current guy I will have automatically given him the impression that I am dating him exclusively.

But I spoke to the other guy last night and really like him. Back to bloody square one now!

your mate is talking bollocks

oh how did it go?!

this is the thread

started off well on sun after/monday loads of texting again, then only 1 or 2 since then (he texted me on mon, me tues him weds me yesterday so waiting for today.)

I WILL NOT CAVE! lol. am moving back next week home, so we shall see, did arrange another date for sunday but xh wants me back here by 2pm so no good as he won't be in town till about 4ish again ah well will play it by ear and see what happens. still have another erm 3 on the go as backups

(1 or 2 a day I mean)

DTM, I think I will make you my role model...4 blokes! You are fab!

lol. am not! I only really like 1 of them the others I talk to when i'm not talking to him - such a hussy!

dtm, i posted on your thread, and now i am going to run away and hide

get back there woman! lol.

Right, an update! Went on the date last night (managed to make myself look like a prat lol, but that's another thread altogether).

He was very nice, very attractive, possibly slightly quiet (but he did warm up as the date went on). I really enjoyed myself, he is pretty opposite to the other guy who is very talkative and jokey. I wasn't sure whether i had made much of an impression (I always talk too much when I am nervous). But at the end of the date he made it very clear that I had, although he is quiet, he is very direct and I liked it.

Now what do I do? Bollocks...help! I do like him rather alot!

good on you girl, are you going to let him contact you now? (I would I think! lol)

Well, he already asked me out again last night before we went home, and wants to talk to me online tonight. I did tell him that I had been on some dates with the other guy (pretty brave for me) and he asked me outright "are you going to see him again"? So I am presuming he was pretty interested.

I may have pissed the other guy off cos he sent 2 texts last night, which I couldn't answer (no bleeding signal). He is supposed to be coming round here tonight, but I need to put him off as this is tricky!

I have never been in a situation before when I have 2 guys who are very keen on me, flattering but a bit nerve wracking.

I like both, but my instinct is that guy 2 is more attractive to me, pretty convinced that even though there seems to be sexual chemistry between me and guy 1, that it probably won't be a long term thing.

Good lord, I need advice!

go out with the second guy again, tell the first guy he cant come round as one of your kids is sick

Well, that is what I am thinking , as it will just complicate things, but he'll probably know something's up cos I am pulling back pretty sharply. But hey, I can't worry about that at the moment.

It's a pity I couldn't be friends with guy 1, he is pretty cool and we have alot in common...but there are some reservations I have about him in the relationship sense, so I guess I have to be strict with myself!

people get sick suddenly

you dont have to make a final decision til you have seen the other guy and got to know him a bit more

agree with Lou.