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What attracts men to come on mumsnet?

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BlueStarOnGrey · 21/04/2022 00:07

There seems to be a certain type of man that comes on here, usually sulking because their partner has done something wrong or won't have sex on demand.

Why Mumsnet? It seems a really strange place to post.

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LightSnowLight · 21/04/2022 01:09

Aquamarine1209s comment is as distasteful as it is unhinged. I think a lot of the posters should take a close up look in the mirror before they start castigating others in this crass way.

LightSnowLight · 21/04/2022 01:10

Aquamarine1209s comment is as distasteful as it is unhinged. I think a lot of the posters should take a close up look in the mirror before they start castigating others in this crass way.

LightSnowLight · 21/04/2022 01:11

Aquamarine1209s comment is as distasteful as it is unhinged. I think a lot of the posters should take a close up look in the mirror before they start castigating others in this crass way.

WeDontShutUpAboutBruno · 21/04/2022 01:19

LightSnowLight · 21/04/2022 01:10

Aquamarine1209s comment is as distasteful as it is unhinged. I think a lot of the posters should take a close up look in the mirror before they start castigating others in this crass way.

Why is it unhinged?

Plenty of guys have used MN as wank fodder.

One guy recently let slip he was a man, posters searched him and he had been telling women they sounded busty (when talking about funeral attire) and asking for people to exchange details for some adult chats, among other innappropriate things.

Other men write very specific threads because they know their ex is on here and it's another way to get at her.

Other things have included offering 'massages', men writing, what is essentially, a dating profile and wanting meet ups.

Some guys write posts and they very clearly get off on the humiliation.

Other have wanted single mums to have sex with them....

The list goes on and on.

There are some great guys around, but a lot of them aren't at all.

AnnesBrokenSlate · 21/04/2022 01:19

Oh I forgot - to derail; to castigate us for not being caring/kind/welcoming enough; to give us the worst insults possible ie call us men haters Wink

Did the update give us a grey rock emoji? 🪨

Palmfrond · 21/04/2022 01:22

Oh, definitely threads on here started by men as wank fodder. There was a thread about it a while back. Quite alarming.

1000yellowdaisies · 21/04/2022 01:23

AHungryCaterpillar · 21/04/2022 00:59

Oh right thought it was “MUMSnet” 🙄 it’s a parenting website, men are parents too you know and it’s no more stranger than the childfree woman posting on here

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Mumsnet is a forum aimed at women.
Mainly mothers yes but there are plenty of non parenting talk topics and there is a big difference between childless women wanting to post on a female focused site than a man posting here, even if he is a parent.
As previously mentioned there are parenting sites that cater for men.

Everything has to be seen to be open to everyone nowadays, why cant women have a place where they can talk freely that isnt encroached on by men.

AnnesBrokenSlate · 21/04/2022 01:41

I think I prefer the ones who announce they're men than the ones who pretend they're women and then give deliberately awful advice.

OnlyClothes · 21/04/2022 02:05

Why shouldn’t they post here?

Lately I’ve noticed such rudeness in some places on this website, I don’t really understand why. It seems to be a new thing, or at least I’ve only noticed it in the last few months or so.

Grumpyoldpersonwithcats · 21/04/2022 02:36

Nowhere on mumsnet does it state that this is a female only site.
I was introduced to MN by a female work colleague. Prior to joining I confess that I assumed it was a site purely for ranting harridans. I'm delighted to have been proved wrong.
I mainly post in the 'litter tray'. It's a nice friendly part of the site where we talk about cats. I don't believe anyone there cares that I am a man.

Littlebylittlelittle · 21/04/2022 02:53

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why would ‘men’ have more right to post here than childless women ?
many men arnt parents

RantyAunty · 21/04/2022 04:11

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YRGAM · 21/04/2022 07:01

I have a young son and the parenting advice on Mumsnet is second to none. The posters on the parenting board have helped me greatly with a couple of things I haven't been sure about

GettinPiggyWithIt · 21/04/2022 07:08

Hope none of your sons ever need any advice when they’re older. Mind you they could just fuck off to Pistonheads - sure that will do it.

ShowOfHands · 21/04/2022 07:10

I haven't seen any of them contribute anything

I bet you have, you just don't realise they're men. There are a few male posters who almost never mention their biological sex. I know one of them really well irl. He's been posting on here for 15yrs. I doubt 95% of people realise. He only mentions it if it's relevant.

And of course there are men posting on here for nefarious reasons. There's one who likes talking about female masturbation who crops up regularly.

sjxoxo · 21/04/2022 07:12

I don’t know but I do find it strange tbh! Wonder how many of them really are men. X

Beefcurtains79 · 21/04/2022 07:30

One male poster decided to harass women for swearing on the feminism boards a few days ago. You couldn’t make it up.

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Vikinga · 21/04/2022 07:36

I don't mind having men here as it is anonymous anyway. But every time there is a post about a man concerned about his relationship - usually that he's not getting enough sex, he usually says that he does his fair share or more of childcare, housework, is romantic etc. Which I find highly suspicious and makes me think what is the point? Why ask for advice if you're not going to be honest because you won't solve your issue.

Some threads where they've asked for men's perspective in things are interesting though.

ShowOfHands · 21/04/2022 07:44

All of you Pick Me’s need to sit down and respect that other women can identify these wayward good guy simps for what they are

Blimey. There's some heavy duty irony in this post. Telling women to sit down and shut up because they disagree with you?

GodspeedJune · 21/04/2022 07:45

If a post starts ‘man here’ I don’t read any further and scroll on by. It’s like a man in a women’s changing room. It would be nice to have a space that’s just for women.

It’s different for childless women, who have in common and face the same issues as all women covered in many of the boards.

SoupDragon · 21/04/2022 07:49

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With so many male dominated forums online to choose from, I don't know why they would come here.

How many male parenting sites are there? How many male sites like Mumsnet? Perhaps they value female opinions.

I wonder why they come here given the appalling double standards with replies though.

pictish · 21/04/2022 07:52

I haven’t seen very many thread from sulky men who aren’t getting sex here…and I’ve been here for years. Where are these posts?

LeftieLucy · 21/04/2022 07:56

I much rather a ‘man, here’ than an ‘I just asked my husband and he said…’

Giggorata · 21/04/2022 08:06

“Mumsnet is a forum aimed at women.
Mainly mothers yes but there are plenty of non parenting talk topics and there is a big difference between childless women wanting to post on a female focused site than a man posting here, even if he is a parent.
As previously mentioned there are parenting sites that cater for men.

Everything has to be seen to be open to everyone nowadays, why cant women have a place where they can talk freely that isnt encroached on by men.”

This is what I think about it, too.