This is abusive and the behaviour of a rapist. If you don't consent to anal and he is trying to go there, it is attempted rape and rape. Simple as. It doesn't matter if you enjoy anal play or have done it before, if you don't give him permission and have said no then he is the one who is in the wrong when he attepmts it or tries to pressure you.
You are questioning your ability as a love maker? There doesn't sound like any love involved here. He is treating you like a sex doll and an object. He is the one who is useless in bed since he fails to understand that good sex is pleasurable for both parties and takes into account the needs and wants of both people equally. He is gaslighting you and using abusive, negative laguage to attack your self esteem.
Most worryingly you say that he doesn't want you on any other form of contraception....why? That is cohersive and controlling. What business of his is it? It is your body! If you don't want more kids right now and you want to take steps to prevent that then that is your choice and your right. Speak to your GP ASAP about an IUD or Naxplanon, the matchstick in your arm. These are contraceptives that are in your body and unlike the pill he can't mess with or take it away.
He sounds like a a selfish, sexist pig with no concept of boundaries or the fact that you are an independent person.
He insults you and sulks like a child when he doesn't get his own way. That is the very definition of unappealing in any way shape or form, never mind how abusive it is. What sort of self absorbed man child is he?
Every woman likes anal?
LIE!
Porn is not real life. The idiot. Anal when not done properly (think the anal snails mantra: safe, communicate, slow and lubed)is painful and can even be outright physically damaging. Even when it is done properly some women do not find any pleasure in it...at all. Some occassionally find pleasure if in the 'right' mental place and properly aroused. Even if you did find pleasure in it, its not a blanket fact that you will always find it pleasant, and his assumptions otherwise prove he is a dull witted and ignorant fool.
Please ditch this man. Contact family or womens aid. You can do better and be much safer away from this misoginistic abuser.