My AirPods are where I thought they were. My husband isn’t!!

[BadDayForMe]

I’ve been reading mumsnet for years but not made an account until now. I can’t talk to anyone in RL and really need some advice please
My DH is on a golfing trip with a work friend in Portugal. I though I would do some housework today and was looking for my AirPods. I couldn’t find them so mentioned to DS that I didn’t want to spend time looking in case I’d left them at work.
He suggested I look on find my iPhone as that would show them. I’ve never used it before but once I reset the Apple ID I got in and saw they were in the house. ( I searched the kitchen and found them behind the pot I drop my keys and stuff in. )
I noticed that this app showed my husbands phone so clicked on it just for a nose
He’s not in Portugal. He’s in Spain!!!!!
Why the fuck would he lie about what country he he’s in unless there is something seriously dodgy going on. I watched him go from a hotel to a
Restaurant, then along the seafront, then back to the same hotel. It can’t be wrong. I can’t sleep. Is he with another woman?
Wtf do I do?????

There are some very gullible people on Mumsnet.

@whenwillthemadnessend

Just ring the wife's Number number withheld ask for Mr whatever.

She will
Prob say he is away
Just say your ringing from insurance or similar. Unless she knows your voice really well.

So a strange woman calls unexpectedly asking for the woman's husband while he is (possibly) away.

Why risk putting doubt into the woman's mind?

I'm sure that OP has no intention of dragging a woman enjoying a family Mother's Day into her own situation.

OP, I hope you are enjoying Mother's Day with your own mum and that you soon get answers to your husbands whereabouts.

Entirely possible they haven't travelled together anyway, even if he is with someone he shouldn't be. She could even be Spanish!

People are right - FMP can be a bit off sometimes but if it’s showing hotel, walks etc that stand to reason, it’s probably right. It’s when it puts you in the middle of the sea that it’s got things a bit wrong.

But if he's having an affair, why lie about location? There's no value in that

If someone regularly goes on golfing holidays with Jim to Portugal, what better cover than to say you are going to Portugal to play golf with Jim again?

I really want a holiday now. Either Spain or Portugal would do.

Eh? You are the only person on this thread who thinks the DH is wonderful and the OP should drop it, not question him, not look for further evidence of an affair. And why you’ve singled me out to quiz this is bonkers. I conclude you are the woman he’s having the affair with and now you’ve told him and he knows and has to get his story straight.

@DiamondCushion are you ok? you’re the one who asked me a question so I answered that’s not singling you out.

And I’ve never said he’s wonderful. I said checking the tracker is going to make OP ill and won’t give her any evidence that’s he’s cheating or not.
Not sure how you can conclude I’m the OW from that

@Fernandina

But if he's having an affair, why lie about location? There's no value in that

If someone regularly goes on golfing holidays with Jim to Portugal, what better cover than to say you are going to Portugal to play golf with Jim again?

Sure. But then wouldn't you go with Tina to (the possibly usual hotel in) Portugal? The less lies you tell the easier it is to lie. Apparently.

@TabithaTittlemouse

I really want a holiday now. Either Spain or Portugal would do.

That's what you are getting from this 😳🤦‍♀️

I would be tempted to message the friends wife to say does she have your DH’s flight details as you’ve lost them and DH isn’t picking up the phone atm

It's not a very exciting affair if the OW is spending the weekend on MN

Meet him off the flight tomorrow!

@NeilBuchananisBanksy

Looking at flight radar, there is a flight from Malaga that lands at 12:10. Faro is early morning or really late at night.

It's already been established that there's a flight from pharo arriving at 1pm tomorrow which fits with his intention to be home tomorrow afternoon.

@MissLucyEyelesbarrow What do you mean by that?

@TabithaTittlemouse Congratulations on the most tone deaf post on this thread 🥂

You should do exactly what a PP said.

Save the photo he sent you to your camera roll, then click the i in a circle at the bottom of the photo. It will give you the exact location of where that photo was taken from including a map.

If he was seen at the airport with the mate he said he was golfing with the perhaps "all good". If with a different "male mate" not so much. (I am not trying to be salacious, sadly I have some experience in relation to this scenario, well, not the airport scene, but with a H having an OM rather than an OW).

The whole "go to the airport" idea is not a good one. It would probably be inconclusive and prove nothing.

PS NC for this post for obvious reasons (this is not part of my history that I discuss on MN) but am a very regular poster

@BadDayForMe

Thanks, I don't have iPhone.

Oh my goodness there are far too many people on this thread revelling in this lady's worry. Talk about hysterical drama queens!! 😡

This is someone's life. Her husband has no previous form for not being honest and he's keeping in touch, answering questions in a timely fashion and so many here have him with some type of hareem going and the ink still wet whi their preparing cyberspace divorce papers for her.

OP you know your husband best, what does your deep down gut tell you? Please don't get pulled into the drama that some posters are drumming up. I could see this happening with my husband, I also know that iphone finding can definitely be off even with location services on. Mine frequently has me in Manchester when I'm actually in Scotland.

@MissLucyEyelesbarrow

There are some very gullible people on Mumsnet.

I intimated this quite a few pages back too 🤣🤣

I'm quite surprised by the number of women clutching at straws to defend why a man would lie about what country he was in to his wife.

OP if your posts are an honest representation of what has really happened then I really can't see an innocent explanation can you?

For those saying why would he lie obviously the more 'normal' you make you story the less chance you'll be asked questions. So if wife has never asked too many questions about trips to Portugal with Jim to play golf and has never expected you to video call or tell you the name of the hotel etc then saying you're off to play golf in Portugal with Jim is a safe bet. If you say actually we're going to Spain this time you open the door for questions or potential curiosity.

There's also the possibility that in fact he has never been with Jim to play golf in Portugal or did once and the wife didn't question it so it has become a great way to go off the radar for a few days since. Who knows.

Can't see a decent innocent reason though.

I have nothing useful to add but just a handhold really, I would be going out of my mind if it were me so can imagine how you must be feeling right now

My mates DH went on a golfing trip. Nothing unusual. Got back home, all was fine. Months later she found a ticket stub for the plane, it had a woman's name on it. He denied anything untoward happened, merely a work colleague who tagged along but went off to do her own thing.
Mate had no other evidence. She decided to stay with him but it was/is always in the back of her mind.
So, sit tight OP. Keep tracking him. Take screen shots. See what he has to say about the trip, let him dig himself a nice big hole before you confront him.

@MissLucyEyelesbarrow

There are some very gullible people on Mumsnet.

'Twas ever thus, MissLucy.

Darling, whatever the outcome, sending you a big hug, all of this from wanting to find your AirPods! You must be stressed beyond belief, hoping for the best & so sorry this has consumed your whole weekend