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My AirPods are where I thought they were. My husband isn’t!!

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BadDayForMe · 27/03/2022 02:07

I’ve been reading mumsnet for years but not made an account until now. I can’t talk to anyone in RL and really need some advice please
My DH is on a golfing trip with a work friend in Portugal. I though I would do some housework today and was looking for my AirPods. I couldn’t find them so mentioned to DS that I didn’t want to spend time looking in case I’d left them at work.
He suggested I look on find my iPhone as that would show them. I’ve never used it before but once I reset the Apple ID I got in and saw they were in the house. ( I searched the kitchen and found them behind the pot I drop my keys and stuff in. )
I noticed that this app showed my husbands phone so clicked on it just for a nose
He’s not in Portugal. He’s in Spain!!!!!
Why the fuck would he lie about what country he he’s in unless there is something seriously dodgy going on. I watched him go from a hotel to a
Restaurant, then along the seafront, then back to the same hotel. It can’t be wrong. I can’t sleep. Is he with another woman?
Wtf do I do?????

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Stomacharmeleon · 27/03/2022 12:06

I am so sorry.... it doesn't look great.

Easterbunnyiswindowshopping · 27/03/2022 12:08

Why not message the friends dw with a casual 'lucky you getting breakfast in bed even when the dh's are away..' .

Sunnydays78 · 27/03/2022 12:09

I would go to the airport too. Will it definitely be Bristol airport or will he have lied about that too?

CellophaneFlower · 27/03/2022 12:10

Could it be that it's a lad's holiday and he thought you'd be more accepting of his normal golf trip? Obviously it's still terrible that he's lied... but it might not be there's another woman.

CornishGem1975 · 27/03/2022 12:12

@BadDayForMe

My parents have arrived to spend the day with us, so not had a chance to read all of your comments yet, but your support is holding me up. He has replied to my message. I asked how’s it going in sunny Portugal and he said there’s no danger of getting burnt. No mention of being in fucking Spain!
Well, that definitely says there is something amiss then.
FinallyHere · 27/03/2022 12:14

If I've made the arrangements myself, I don't think I would make a mistake. However, it is entirely possible if someone else makes the arrangements.

Quite likely if they usually go to Portugal and this time the friend has made different arrangements, that he would still think of it as the Portugal trip coz that what they usually do. Or the weather is shit so they are doing other things

I regularly worked away in Brussels. One time, we were in Amsterdam instead and were booked into the newly opened "Swisshotel". The lift had a big poster "Welcome to Switzerland".

None of us could reliably answer the question 'where are you".

I would t be jumping to the conclusion that he is cheating on you. I'd wait til he is home and just ask. Hope it works out

SpikyJugs · 27/03/2022 12:14

Could you ask him for his flight number? Tell him you or DS have got into FlightRadar and would enjoy watching his flight arrive.

Or ask him for some pics of his hotel, or name of hotel so you can visualise where he is

CornishGem1975 · 27/03/2022 12:14

Yes @AutumnWinterWardrobe IPhone can pinpoint you to an exact building so it won't confuse Spain and Portugal.

Hawkins001 · 27/03/2022 12:15

@BadDayForMe

My parents have arrived to spend the day with us, so not had a chance to read all of your comments yet, but your support is holding me up. He has replied to my message. I asked how’s it going in sunny Portugal and he said there’s no danger of getting burnt. No mention of being in fucking Spain!
All the best op
DrSbaitso · 27/03/2022 12:15

I'm sorry, OP. It does look suspicious.

If there is any way of contacting the friend or the wife to see where the friend is, I'd do it.

Chewbecca · 27/03/2022 12:15

I think I would surprise him and welcome him home by meeting him at the airport.

Araisaris · 27/03/2022 12:16

Could you “surprise” him at the airport when he arrives back?

LondonQueen · 27/03/2022 12:16

Go to the airport and welcome him home! The OW (if there is one) may be there too.

CornishGem1975 · 27/03/2022 12:16

@FinallyHere

If I've made the arrangements myself, I don't think I would make a mistake. However, it is entirely possible if someone else makes the arrangements.

Quite likely if they usually go to Portugal and this time the friend has made different arrangements, that he would still think of it as the Portugal trip coz that what they usually do. Or the weather is shit so they are doing other things

I regularly worked away in Brussels. One time, we were in Amsterdam instead and were booked into the newly opened "Swisshotel". The lift had a big poster "Welcome to Switzerland".

None of us could reliably answer the question 'where are you".

I would t be jumping to the conclusion that he is cheating on you. I'd wait til he is home and just ask. Hope it works out

But the fact that the OP has referenced Portugal in a text - that says enough to me! That was his opportunity to say he's in Spain not Portugal.
CharityShopChic · 27/03/2022 12:16

@Cockenspiel

Just under 8h drive, not 4h - according to Google Maps.

I’ve also never had any problems with Find My iPhone, unless I’ve had some location services switched off.

This is total nonsense. Having done the drive several times. Cross the border at Ayamonte - motorway to Seville, on to Malaga, south to coastal resorts.

8 hours going the backroads and stopping several times for tapas perhaps.

BlueOverYellow · 27/03/2022 12:16

Just tell him you checked the return flight from Faro, because your parents have taken the little ones, so you're going to meet him at the airport when his flight lands and go out for a meal with him.

Araisaris · 27/03/2022 12:17

Great minds @Chewbecca Grin

BobLemon · 27/03/2022 12:18

Would you post the picture of the beer and the pool? There are some pretty good internet sleuths around!

HowIsItMarchAlready · 27/03/2022 12:19

Please remember that there may be an innocent explanation so try not to get too wound up. It may be bad but it may not.

NOTANUM · 27/03/2022 12:19

The friend’s wife photo is very strange too. No one other than a DH is likely to facilitate breakfast in bed with two tinies for Mother’s Day.
I will say that there are many golf resorts in that part of Spain!
I would say precisely nothing, let him show up and ask how Portugal was in detail. He might come clean and say it was a stag party in Spain instead. But I wouldn’t lower myself to turn up at the airport.

Rainallnight · 27/03/2022 12:20

I’ve not RTFT, but I don’t see how saying he’s in Portugal benefits him if he’s having an affair? Why not just say he’s going to Spain with his mate?

AnneNoKneeMouse · 27/03/2022 12:20

iPhones use GPS
..., cellular triangulation and wifi Access Points/routers.

FuckPutin · 27/03/2022 12:20

Apologies if this has been said before now...I've not read the full thread Confused but if he has sent you photographs while he is away, on an iPhone, there will be a time, location and date stamp attached if you swipe up. The location information can be disabled however it's unlikely he's disabled it considering he's active on find my phone.

TheSandgroper · 27/03/2022 12:21

I haven't read the full thread, just the OP.

Just to say that it has been raining in the area. Due to the Sahara dust storm, I have fb photos from family of the mud that has been raining down. Thick mud is coating everything.

When he says "no chance of sunburn", he likely means it. I don't know what a golf course would be like with a mud bath raining on it so perhaps the group have found alternative occupation.

Amybelle88 · 27/03/2022 12:21

I feel like I'm on another planet reading this.

I know it's important to rationalise but honestly?!

He's telling her he's in Portugal. He's not correcting her that he's in Spain. It's fucking not right! This is her husband - would yours not correct you if he was in a different country than you thought?! Of course he would!

Also, a 4 hour drive- let's be honest, he hasn't done this. If he had, she would know about it via conversation.

Unless they live completely separate lives, there is zero reason why I husband wouldn't tell his wife what country he was in, especially if she thought it was the wrong one to where he actually was.

Try and see the location on the pictures - I wouldn't call the hotel and give him any hint of you knowing. I'd be sitting in arrivals in that airport waiting to see him come through the doors 100%

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