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My AirPods are where I thought they were. My husband isn’t!!

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BadDayForMe · 27/03/2022 02:07

I’ve been reading mumsnet for years but not made an account until now. I can’t talk to anyone in RL and really need some advice please
My DH is on a golfing trip with a work friend in Portugal. I though I would do some housework today and was looking for my AirPods. I couldn’t find them so mentioned to DS that I didn’t want to spend time looking in case I’d left them at work.
He suggested I look on find my iPhone as that would show them. I’ve never used it before but once I reset the Apple ID I got in and saw they were in the house. ( I searched the kitchen and found them behind the pot I drop my keys and stuff in. )
I noticed that this app showed my husbands phone so clicked on it just for a nose
He’s not in Portugal. He’s in Spain!!!!!
Why the fuck would he lie about what country he he’s in unless there is something seriously dodgy going on. I watched him go from a hotel to a
Restaurant, then along the seafront, then back to the same hotel. It can’t be wrong. I can’t sleep. Is he with another woman?
Wtf do I do?????

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TonytheDog · 27/03/2022 10:22

If you know the other wife reasonably well, I'd pop round on the pretext of 'just passing' and see if her husband answers the door. If he's there you havn't shown your hand because they might not even know your husband is away, supposedly with the man at the door. At least then you'd know for certain today whether he's lied a lot who he's gone away with.

Mycatisfabulous · 27/03/2022 10:24

@Lunificent

Is the beer brand written on the beer glass in the photo? E.g. Super Bock or Cruzcampo.
Good one.
Flyinggeese1234 · 27/03/2022 10:24

@herecomesthehotsteppa

Call the Spanish hotel and ask to be put through to his room!
I can’t remember the last time I stayed in a hotel room with a landline. Is it still common to have these in Spain or Portugal?
IncompleteSenten · 27/03/2022 10:25

Friend request his friend's wife and ask her.

ididntevennotice · 27/03/2022 10:26

Can you explain why my iPhone says it's in Birmingham when it's in my house 125 miles away.

Oldest work in IT says it can use the location of the server it's connected through rather than the actual location

But they weren't able to tell you the answer to your above question is your own settings?

DFOD · 27/03/2022 10:26

Don’t ask to be put through to his room because you know he is there - ask to be out through to the mates room - that will tell you all you need to know.

BarbaraofSeville · 27/03/2022 10:27

@Alcemeg

I live in Portugal and think nothing of a 4-hour drive. It's not like driving in the UK, with all the traffic and nonsense.
It makes no sense to fly to Faro if you're staying in Benalmadena for a weekend break, none.

Just about every UK airport has regular cheap flights to Malaga, which is about 30 mins, if that from Benalmadena. On the off chance you can't get to Malaga on the right day, for the right price, your next choice would be Gibraltar, which also has lots of regular cheap flights from UK airports. Then Jerez, Seville, Granada or Almeria airports are all closer than Faro.

StooOrangeyForCrows · 27/03/2022 10:27

It will be interesting tracking him from the hotel to the airport. You will know which flight he is on then and where it took off from.

Ops1 · 27/03/2022 10:27

I genuinely would message the wife of the other man and say "hope your mothers day is ok without husband there to facilitate the breakfast in bed!!! Hope you still get to relax have a nice day" then if her husband IS there then she will soon tell you

supercali77 · 27/03/2022 10:27

Hope its all innocent OP. The photo of the friends wife is a worry. She has the answers really. If it were me I'd probably contact her. Id also turn up at the airport.

supercali77 · 27/03/2022 10:28

Its easier to travel to Spain as well because seemingly its just open borders vis a vis covid checks and restrictions atm

Gosports · 27/03/2022 10:28

For those saying ‘just call and ask’, it’s not that simple, is it? Because even the most dim-witted of men can come up with something on the spot. ‘Oh, did I say faro? I meant Spain!’ or ‘I told you I was going to Spain, you just weren’t listening’ etc. and the OP will still have concerns but not be able to do anything about it.

SouperNoodle · 27/03/2022 10:29

Message his friend's wife.

Gonnagetgoing · 27/03/2022 10:29

Why would he lie about going to another country?!

Littleheart5 · 27/03/2022 10:29

I would just ask him OP, another 24 hours of wondering would be impossible I think

frozendaisy · 27/03/2022 10:29

Ok so the iPhone shows you what hotel.

Call that hotel and ask if you can leave a message for "name of guest" ......record this conversation - then if they say if course, confirming he is staying there, as that is what you need to know say "oh no wait I think he's calling the other phone now thank you sorry" and hang up. That way husband won't know you have called hotel.

Then ask him when he gets home, how was golf? Nice hotel? The hotel was in "place yes" if he still carries on with this then present the iPhone walk along beach telephone confirmation that his lying fat ass was in fact beach walking in Spain.

And await his response.

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Shinyandnew1 · 27/03/2022 10:30
  1. Screenshot his phone being in Spain on find my iPhone as evidence
  2. Message the friend’s wife
Rivermonsters · 27/03/2022 10:31

Any updates OP

Easterbunnyiswindowshopping · 27/03/2022 10:31

Calling him out on the friend not being there will just give him cause to explain that mate couldn't make it so x mate went instead... Photos or airport facts will be necessary imo.

Furbaby2842 · 27/03/2022 10:32

@Ops1

I genuinely would message the wife of the other man and say "hope your mothers day is ok without husband there to facilitate the breakfast in bed!!! Hope you still get to relax have a nice day" then if her husband IS there then she will soon tell you
This is a good idea but only if you're friends with her already on FB
BellePeppa · 27/03/2022 10:33

@nearlyspringyay

My laptop thinks I'm in South Africa, I'm in London. Don't jump to conclusions.
Mine thinks I’m in South Korea!! I’d definitely advise not to jump to conclusions yet, even my house location on google maps (?) is wrong. Keep your cards close to your chest until you get a clearer idea what’s going on, best no knee jerk reactions.
mug2018 · 27/03/2022 10:33

I really hope there is a logical explanation.. holding your hand until you get some answers. Try not to overthink too much in the meantime (easier said than done ) x

Blueberrycreampie · 27/03/2022 10:34

@GrimDamnFanjo

Is it possible he's just a bit of a dope? Thought he was going to Portugal and didn't clock it was actually Spain?
Unlikely as he specifically mentioned Faro airport.
LowlandLucky · 27/03/2022 10:34

Spain and Portugal share a border ! When staying in Spain i have flown to Faro, so he was right he was going to Portugal but he maybe staying in Spain.

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