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Husband walked out tonight

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Username2101 · 21/03/2022 23:23

In the past few weeks my steady reliable husband has changed drastically. He went on a works party and basically came back a different person, he's become extremely focused about his weight. He's going out every weekend with "friends" he's never mentioned before, he's coming home later and later from work and making excuses to get out of the house.

I confronted him tonight and asked him very bluntly wtf is going on, I mean all this basically screams other woman. He started going on about him wanting to spend time with his friends and that he's the ONLY person in the whole wide world who has to ask for permission. (He doesn't)

I told him if he wanted his freedom so badly he can pack his bags, piss off and have it permanently. He walked out and went to stay with his friend, the friend who has regular parties with all the local 18 year old girls who think that a 45 year old man with a big house and a swimming pool is exciting.

Now I'm panicking, what on earth do I tell the children in the morning about where their daddy has gone, I have 2 months left of my degree and I'm at bloody placement until May. How am I meant to advise people about their lives when mine is a disaster.

OP posts:
Clarinet1 · 01/04/2022 19:37

Fantastic news! You’re doing so well. Have a lovely weekend. Maybe treat yourself to something as he’s having the DC,

Username2101 · 01/04/2022 19:39

Thank you all so much! I think it's the first genuine smile I've had since all this crap started.

OP posts:
Monstertrucks · 01/04/2022 19:42

Fantastic news! Congratulations! On to bigger and better things x

momtoboys · 01/04/2022 19:46

That is great news!!

comfortablyfrumpy · 01/04/2022 19:46

Well done - that's fantastic news x

MadeForThis · 01/04/2022 19:52

Congratulations 🥳

Onwards and upwards. It's the start of your new future!!!

Mumek · 01/04/2022 20:00

Many many congratulations, the only way is up xxx

ChinstrapBobblehat · 01/04/2022 20:15

You’re awesome, OP, congratulations. Sending hugs to you and your girls. Life sounds unbearably tough for you at the moment, but take heart from the support and shared experiences of all the old vipers on here. There will be happier days ahead. As someone said upthread, you’ve got this x

Herejustforthisone · 01/04/2022 20:17

I’m so very pleased to read your update @Username2101. I’ve been following your thread and am so pleased you have a bit of good news and a boost to your self esteem.

bare · 01/04/2022 20:18

Oh I'm so pleased for you! That's excellent news and gives you a great plan for the future. Have a great weekend and keep putting one foot in front of the other Thanks

Redshoeblueshoe · 01/04/2022 20:25

Congratulations on your new job Flowers

Hala9 · 01/04/2022 21:08

We always need great SW's - well done.

My DH walked out on me and my DC's, the youngest was just turned two. Horrendous times, so bad that I said at the time 'this is so horrendous that I wouldn't even wish it on the OW' - but as a young teacher the thing my profession has given me is independence and a sense of achievement.

Independence gave me choice - choice to not need him, choice to make a better life for me and the kids. Choice to break any control he thought he had.

I didn't need him.

Nannylovesshopping · 01/04/2022 21:08

Excellent news, well done you, the start of good things!

Gnomechange · 01/04/2022 23:03

Amazing news, our social services are so very lucky to have someone like you working for them! Onwards and upwards Smile

Billybagpuss · 02/04/2022 06:20

Amazing news congratulations

KatherineJaneway · 02/04/2022 06:51

Well done Flowers

Thedogscollar · 02/04/2022 08:40

@Username2101
Just great news. Congratulations. You deserve it you've worked hard to get where you are.
Onwards and upwards OP. 🥳🥳👌

Hiddenvoice · 02/04/2022 08:42

Just read your update- congratulations!!
You deserve this!

SecretDoor · 02/04/2022 09:29

Well done on the new job
You are doing so well despite the appalling behaviour of your exDH

JackieQueen · 02/04/2022 09:46
Flowers
Heelancoo · 02/04/2022 09:58

Great news! Congratulations!!

TicTac80 · 02/04/2022 12:22

Brilliant news! Well done! And you managed to ace that interview despite all the shit going on. I hope you feel so proud of yourself! Xxx

Username2101 · 02/04/2022 14:39

@Hala9

We always need great SW's - well done.

My DH walked out on me and my DC's, the youngest was just turned two. Horrendous times, so bad that I said at the time 'this is so horrendous that I wouldn't even wish it on the OW' - but as a young teacher the thing my profession has given me is independence and a sense of achievement.

Independence gave me choice - choice to not need him, choice to make a better life for me and the kids. Choice to break any control he thought he had.

I didn't need him.

I like this, thank you so much for sharing your story, I'm amazed so many people are rooting for me.

The hardest thing for me so far has been the weekends, seeing all those happy families on days out and I'm on my own. Through the week I can pretend it's not happening. It's definitely taking some adjustment.

OP posts:
AnneKipankitoo · 02/04/2022 21:15

Well done @Username2101

BikiniB0tt0m · 03/04/2022 00:05

Well done for getting the job that amazing! Times will be tough but you are doing so well keeping busy and focus on your girls. He is such a loser

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