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Husband walked out tonight

687 replies

Username2101 · 21/03/2022 23:23

In the past few weeks my steady reliable husband has changed drastically. He went on a works party and basically came back a different person, he's become extremely focused about his weight. He's going out every weekend with "friends" he's never mentioned before, he's coming home later and later from work and making excuses to get out of the house.

I confronted him tonight and asked him very bluntly wtf is going on, I mean all this basically screams other woman. He started going on about him wanting to spend time with his friends and that he's the ONLY person in the whole wide world who has to ask for permission. (He doesn't)

I told him if he wanted his freedom so badly he can pack his bags, piss off and have it permanently. He walked out and went to stay with his friend, the friend who has regular parties with all the local 18 year old girls who think that a 45 year old man with a big house and a swimming pool is exciting.

Now I'm panicking, what on earth do I tell the children in the morning about where their daddy has gone, I have 2 months left of my degree and I'm at bloody placement until May. How am I meant to advise people about their lives when mine is a disaster.

OP posts:
Nannylovesshopping · 30/03/2022 16:05

Also thinking of you and your family, come on lovely girl, you can do this, shoulders back and head held high, there is a good life ahead of you🌸🌺🌹🌻🌼💐

Nearlyshitmypantsthere · 30/03/2022 16:27

@Username2101💐 Ive been thinking of you, you've got this 💪Good luck for tomorrow 🤞

comfortablyfrumpy · 30/03/2022 16:31

Good luck for your interview x

Thedogscollar · 30/03/2022 16:35

@Username2101
Good days bad days indeed. Let's hope more good days to come.
Good luck for your interview. I'm hoping this is the beginning of great things for you and your girls. 🤞🤞

Username2101 · 30/03/2022 16:41

[quote Thedogscollar]@Username2101
Good days bad days indeed. Let's hope more good days to come.
Good luck for your interview. I'm hoping this is the beginning of great things for you and your girls. 🤞🤞[/quote]
Thank you, I will keep you all updated on how it goes.

The support from you all has been incredible and it has literally kept me together the past few days. Thanks

OP posts:
MuchuseasaChocolateTeapot · 30/03/2022 16:45

Very best of luck tomorrow. They’ll be lucky to have you x

LoisLane66 · 30/03/2022 16:56

Make sure you get his National Insurance number before he takes all his paperwork. That way he can have CM and other money taken out at source before his wages/salary is paid. He may be saying he'll pay but he may change his mind in the future and if he moves without giving his forwarding address at any time, he can always be found via his NI number.

Iusedtoliveinsanfrancisco · 30/03/2022 17:02

Wishing you all the best for your interview

dexterslockedintheshedagain · 30/03/2022 17:04

The way you're dealing with all this just shows what an awesome woman you are, OP.
Wishing you all the luck in the world tomorrow xxThanks

Star81 · 30/03/2022 18:22

Good luck tomorrow x

LoisLane66 · 30/03/2022 18:45

Yes, I second all the good wishes for your job interview and the first sentence in @dexterslockedintheshedagain post above.

Ruralbliss · 30/03/2022 20:56

Have just come across this thread and wanted to offer you my thoughts too.

A very similar thing happened to me with my husband of 20 years four years ago after he met someone else but denied it.
How these men can, as you say, follow their penis to pastures new without little thought for the chaos they leave behind is beyond me.

In my case the man I thought was my soulmate and my forever love actually had been a moody emotionally abusive bastard but it took him leaving us for me to see it.

Four years later on I'm grand. Doing well in my career and have moved into a house which holds no memory of our times together.

I wish you well. You sound very strong and well supported.

DasAlteLeid · 30/03/2022 21:37

You sound fantastic and extremely brave OP. He’s a fool to have left you. Fuck him! X

StartupRepair · 30/03/2022 21:54

Good luck with the interview

Heelancoo · 30/03/2022 23:19

Good luck for tomorrow! X

KatherineJaneway · 31/03/2022 05:34

Good luck for your interview Flowers

bouncydog · 31/03/2022 06:48

Good luck with the interview. x

Weenurse · 31/03/2022 10:55

How did it go?

momtoboys · 31/03/2022 17:54

Thinking of you and admiring your strength.

Soffana · 01/04/2022 08:19

How did it go on the interview?

Username2101 · 01/04/2022 18:57

Hey everyone, just an update. I got the Job!

I can't start until my placement is over, but I'm so excited. At least I have one thing going right.
A new chapter for me and my babies Smile

OP posts:
ImAvingOops · 01/04/2022 19:00

That's wonderful news. Well done x

Pantsinthewash · 01/04/2022 19:11

Congratulations on the new job OP, a fantastic boost for you, well done!

DomesticatedZombie · 01/04/2022 19:15

Whoop whoop! Fantastic, so happy for you!

RoundGlass · 01/04/2022 19:28

Well done OP. Been in the business 26 years and still love it every day.

Good luck

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