I asked my bf if he is embarrassed by me this is his response . I don’t know what to make of it.

[Yorkshiregurl1]

So, I asked my bf if he’s embarrassed by me as we never venture out of town for food or on day trips etc . This is his response. No one’s ever said anything like this to me so I don’t know what to make of it ?

Being embarrassed about you.
Well I didn’t want to say this but it is the elephant in the room so it’s being noticed so I suppose I’ll be honest. Imagine every time I came to see you I wore odd mismatching shoes would you sit there quietly? You probably would but you would notice and somewhere deep inside you would think ahh FFS!! In the same way I struggle with your make up application and choices. The amount of times I’ve seen squiggly lines or poor application of make up it’s pretty obvious it’s not your skill. The last time I saw you in my head I was thinking what the hell have you done to your eyes that’s probably the worse make up choice and application I’ve seen. It’s at a point I been searching for make up lessons as a gift! So I don’t need to tell you but now that you asked. It shouldn’t bother me but it’s been getting under my skin to a point where I think you look better without it but no you choose bizarre lipstick colours which don’t match you complexion etc. i can categorically say that some of the artwork you done on your face especially around the eyes is the worst I’ve ever seen. I’m sorry if that’s not what you want to hear but I didn’t want to wake to read this crap aswell.

Part of me thinks you asked him and he’s told you. I’d also be interested to read exactly what you sent him first.

The better answer though is probably that the relationship needs to end. It doesn’t sound like either of you are thriving in it.

As an aside, I interviewed someone recently and honestly I nearly gasped out loud when she walked in, she had so much make up on and it was so bright (neon orange all round her eyes and electric blue eyeliner) I thought it was a costume. Honestly I couldn’t concentrate on anything! So it might be that he has a point, but either way it just doesn’t sound like the relationship for you.

Have you heard from him since?

I thought he sounds gay. If your make up annoys him why hasnt he told you before? And "waking up to this crap" sounds like he really loves hissself. Do you do your eyewings like Amy Winehouse Did? I bet not. I believe you are better off without him because you will always wonder if you look perfect enough for his highness. You should not have to put up with this selfish git.

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I assume you were wearing makeup when you met him? You can do your makeup however you like. He doesn't get to choose. He can get in the bin.

So if he’s known you for 3 years and your make up hasn’t changed presumably he’s always disliked it. So he thought he could change you? Or that he’d get used to it? Don’t really understand why he dated you.

Don’t post your pic on this thread. It doesn’t matter how you do your make up at all. He was horrible towards you and used you.
I absolutely agree with what’s @JustLyra said.

@Yorkshiregurl1 is that you or an example of eye make up you do?

Both the person in the picture and the eye make up are stunning!

He's a cunt, tell him to do one.

He could have handled this much more gracefully, and you still need to dump him for being a twat, but I agree about the make-up, sorry. Far, far too heavy and artificial looking imo.

He needs to fuck right off.

@Yorkshiregurl1 your BF sounds like a horrible man to say such awful things to you... please tell me that you're going to dumb the idiot... he's verbally abusive to you which often escalates over time to physical abuse etc... also he's controlling you in a coercive way (more gradual subtle abuse) by saying he'd thought of buying you makeup lessons or saying your lipstick choice doesn't match your complexion... this is when men like him start telling you what you can or can't wear, they'll choose your make up, clothes, hairstyle and when you can go out and isolate you from your friends... just get rid of him now before you loose all your confidence...

What a grade A cunt.
I hope he's flawless after that message.

LTB. Either he really feels like this, or he's negging you - neither is worth your time.

You’ve got lovely eyes. Makeup looks good to me.

It doesn't matter what your make up looks like. It's mysteriously enough of a problem for him to be utterly rude about, right now, yet somehow wasn't a year ago.

You're a convenient shag. He's insisting that you know your place. Don't try to justify yourself to us (you don't need to) and don't contort yourself to try to please him (you can't).

Get rid, before he destroys you.

@HellToTheNope

He could have handled this much more gracefully, and you still need to dump him for being a twat, but I agree about the make-up, sorry. Far, far too heavy and artificial looking imo.

Really? I think op looks beautiful. It's the fashion atm.

Don't change your makeup OP, it's lovely.

The makeup is fab, sounds like a nasty cunt trying to put a confident woman down.
Too many men don't like a woman who is confident and sure of herself, so they try and drag you down.
Fuck him right off.

He's a twat.
For anyone questioning OP's make up choices; OP could wear carpet slippers, stained jogging bottoms, overly tight Lycra top showing armpit wigs and greasy stains, green teeth and birds nest hair and hit the town, It's her prerogative. And his prerogative to say 'this isn't working for me anymore'.
What's not okay is for him too lambast the person he's meant to love.
You don't need this arse in your life op.
If that's you in the photo your are beautiful.

Is that your everyday make up eyes or going for a night out?

Your eyes look fabulous. Bin him.

It doesn't matter if your make up if perfect or looks like it's been drawn on my a clown. It's completely irrelevant.

The problem is how he has spoken to you and the way he has insulted you. It's very easy for him to say something nice like "I must prefer when you do your make up more naturally. You are so pretty you don't need it etc. rather than the personal attack he just delivered.

It's nasty and mean to reduce your self esteem. It's not considerate, immature, supportive or loving.

I would have him dumped the minute I read that message. Do you not think that you deserve better than to be spoken to like that?

To not too...I'm so cross on OPs behalf I can't even spell correctly.

Either way, I think it’s over between them, if the op doesn’t end it, he will, as he has the ick. He’s looking at her and thinking she looks a state, there is no way back from that and she shouldn’t change for him.

But after that, if she does wear bad make up and look bad, then her friends not telling her and saying oh your make up looks great you look so much younger isn’t ok and is just encouraging her. It’s the shit people say, to be fair, when someone’s look is out there, but the issue is it can encourage someone to look worse as they believe it.

He’s a nasty prick. Tell him to get to fuck.

Your makeup is no different to many women. I think make up is a waste of womens time, money and energy but that’s irrelevant. The fact that you are clearly beautiful is also irrelevant.

He’s got some nerve! Why on earth did he not say sooner things like ‘I love your more natural look’ or subtly hint he is not really into full makeup on girls. He didn’t and instead hides you away.

I bet it’s not even that, he probably couldn’t be arsed taking you out and got all defensive so hit you with something that is not even really true for him. Because he didn’t like you calling him out.

Please come and do my eye makeup