I asked my bf if he is embarrassed by me this is his response . I don’t know what to make of it.

[Yorkshiregurl1]

So, I asked my bf if he’s embarrassed by me as we never venture out of town for food or on day trips etc . This is his response. No one’s ever said anything like this to me so I don’t know what to make of it ?

Being embarrassed about you.
Well I didn’t want to say this but it is the elephant in the room so it’s being noticed so I suppose I’ll be honest. Imagine every time I came to see you I wore odd mismatching shoes would you sit there quietly? You probably would but you would notice and somewhere deep inside you would think ahh FFS!! In the same way I struggle with your make up application and choices. The amount of times I’ve seen squiggly lines or poor application of make up it’s pretty obvious it’s not your skill. The last time I saw you in my head I was thinking what the hell have you done to your eyes that’s probably the worse make up choice and application I’ve seen. It’s at a point I been searching for make up lessons as a gift! So I don’t need to tell you but now that you asked. It shouldn’t bother me but it’s been getting under my skin to a point where I think you look better without it but no you choose bizarre lipstick colours which don’t match you complexion etc. i can categorically say that some of the artwork you done on your face especially around the eyes is the worst I’ve ever seen. I’m sorry if that’s not what you want to hear but I didn’t want to wake to read this crap aswell.

[quote Unhomme]@SissySpacekAteMyHamster oh I really didn't have the energy to read it all!!![/quote]
There’s a ‘see all’ button for the OP’s posts. You can read those to get the gist of the thread.

Feel lucky OP, he has finally exposed himself as the horrible person he really is. If you stay with him, there is a very high chance that it will be the green light for more of these "opinions" to be shared . He really doesn't sound like a person to spend time on 💐

@Cloudfrost

Sorry I agree that your makeup is way too much for everyday makeup

And you did ask him, so can't blame his for telling you the truth about how he feels. Yes the way he phrased ut was OTT/rude but some people genuinely aren't great with expressing themselves without sounding twatty (I am one of those people lol)

I agree that you aren’t great at expressing yourself without sounding twatty.

What does He look like, apart from being a rubbish nasty individual.

@Inthesameboatatmo

I'm 44 He's 49

@Inthesameboatatmo

Christ that's was blunt. He's entitled to his opinion of you the same as you are if he stank and you would have to tell him . He didn't have to spew such vitriol though ,he could've gone a little easier. Get rid for god sake. How old are you both. You can wear your makeup as you like but heavy makeup really doesn't sit well on anyone over age 25.

That’s your opinion, not incontrovertible fact. It is also not a widely held view.

OP, I would disregard this sort of comment.

[quote Yorkshiregurl1]@Purplepinkred
I’m 44 but I’m blessed that I look much younger . People think I’m in my 20s sometimes![/quote]
Just seen your age. I'm 43 and not many lines at all but I would look like an oap in drag if I wore heavy makeup . Maybe ask a trusted friend or buy a magnifying mirror so you can see if it's cakes and settled into lines or something.

@1forAll74all

He's got that silverfox george clooney vibe

Bin him.
Life is too short to be with someone like this.
I wear what i want. I give no shits.

@GoodnessTruthBeauty

Just read threads where women complain about how their men look and dress. YOu will see what I mean.

Even in this thread people refer to the need to be gentle and polite and to lie because she is a woman.

There is a major difference. Men are not seen as weak, sensitive, and fragile and therefore in need of a gentle, polite approach free of critique or honesty.

I am glad you teach your kids that it should be the same for both. That doesn't change that it isn't the same for both as evidenced by this thread.

After seeing your picture he is talking complet Bollocks. You eye make up is perfect.
This is not about you eye makeup. This is about keeping you in the box he is making for you. At home, cinema, local - he is restricting your life, while he gets to go out and about, far and wide with his friends.
You have a choice. Get back in your box and never complain again, or move on with your life.
You are obviously beautiful, and he is not worth a single second more of your time.

@wheelywheelynice

I see lots of women walking about with awful make-up application and I always wonder why someone hasn't told them, don't they have a husband/boyfriend/mum/sister/best friend to tell them? He could have told you a bit more kindly but I would be inclined to pay for a make up lesson and get a professional opinion.

Are you taking the piss?? OP has posted a pic and her makeup looks great.

@Cloudfrost

Sorry I agree that your makeup is way too much for everyday makeup

And you did ask him, so can't blame his for telling you the truth about how he feels. Yes the way he phrased ut was OTT/rude but some people genuinely aren't great with expressing themselves without sounding twatty (I am one of those people lol)

Ok sure, agree you’ve a problem but it’s not funny?

You have stunning eyes! This can't be about the make up. He is controlling or worried other men will look at you perhaps. Red flag. But once again you are very beautiful and your make up is great

[quote Yorkshiregurl1]@1forAll74all

He's got that silverfox george clooney vibe[/quote]
Is he a bit of a ladies man? Are the friends he goes out with in his home town really just friends? Surely it's more likely that's the real issue with his negging.

He may have the silver fox George Clooney vibe.

But looks can be deceiving.

And if he doesn’t make you feel beautiful then he may as well be a shite with a face painted on it.

That pic looks stunning. If that's your look and you've always looked like that then why on earth is he with you if he doesn't like it?! Bizarre.
Maybe he feels insecure about his own looks and he's reflecting on you?

The fact is, even if it was bad he could easily have said 'I love you and i so lucky to have such an amazing and beautiful partner but I do feel that your daytime makeup is a little heavy and maybe needs toned down a little. Its just a but full on. How about I get you a gift certificate for a make up counter, maybe you could ask those for pointers on a more daytimey look? Get whatever you want from there too, my treat'.

What he did however, was not that. What he did was be a spiteful twat.

Your eyes look beautiful. I don't know what he is thinking to say that to you. I expected to see a photo with really bad make-up but yours is really good!

He sounds cruel. Maybe he needs to go to Specsavers.

The issue isn't your make up it's your boyfriend, sorry but you need to end it, he makes you feel crap, doesn't want to go places with so really what is the point of him?
He clearly was attracted to you enough to be your boyfriend in the first place however he has shown himself to be really very unkind , I'm sure he isn't perfect!
If you stay with him it will undermine your self esteem and confidence - bin him.

Strange. Why did he write it, do you not talk to each other? Cheeky sod. I'd return it to him with his grammar corrected in red.

He's negging you and knows sweet FA about makeup.

There is a lot of sexism in these responses. The idea that women are too weak and fragile to ever hear anything other than that they are amazing, beautiful, fantastic etc. That women can't handle any form of critique and so anyone who ever says anything that isn't praise and positive about a woman is a horrible, terrible, awful person.

Oh, give over. It's not about him being honest with her when asked a question it's that his message drips with contempt and is downright nasty. Of course women can take constructive criticism but I'd bloody well expect someone who professed to love me to approach it gently and with good grace. Instead his message is a long, rambling rant about how awful she looks and how he's embarrassed by her. There's being honest with someone and then there's being a total twat. This guy is the latter.

He won't go out with you, he's being horrible about being asked why, and then proceeds to trash your confidence. No love, this isn't ok.

In terms of aesthetics, love is kind. I know a woman who wears the most 80s shiny bright makeup, badly applied...and her husband loves her and loves her for it. A woman whose husband walks around looking like an extra from highlander, he's a GP. She adores him for his own style.

This guy is waving a Mao style parade of red flags at you. Get away from him. I very much liked the idea someone posted earlier of you writing F*Ck OFf in eyeliner on your forehead while binning him.

My ex started off with little digs about my clothes and face and things. He got worse and worse, controlling. I was properly doing the eggshell dance by the end.

Please run away before you start believing him.

@girlmom21He has got a mixed group of friends but I wouldn't know what happens when he's out and about if I'm 100 % honest.