My girlfriends wants money after two months

[gfwantsmoney]

That is really. I have been seeing this woman for a couple of months. We have seen each other every couple of weeks since January and everything is fantastic. We talk almost every day. She is beautiful, interesting and I really like her. I could see a future for us after being single for a long time. The only problem is that she just told me she needs 500 pounds a month to pay her rent each month. She is not from the UK so she said in her country it is normal for a boyfriend to pay for things for his girlfriend. Is she taking me for a ride? I can afford the 500 pounds.

@Calphurnia88

This thread in a nutshell.

OP: A woman I have been dating for 2 months, but consider my GF and see long-term potential with, has recently asked me to pay her £500/month rent bill ongoing. She says this is custom in her home country, but I am unsure as I am new to dating. Is this normal?

Majority of replies: No this is not normal, and probably a scam.

Oppy: Have you considered paying her for sex?

No. I haven't. For the replies, I understand it is not socially acceptable. She has lived in the UK for 15 years so I can get my own conclusions.

It’s your decision but open your eyes as to what she is.

Run. Fast. Then watch the ‘Tindler Swindler’ on Netflix.

Oh i am sorry OP. I am glad you are not falling for it and hope you find a decent relationship in time.

OP you sound kind and lovely. You deserve someone who values you not your wallet .

Closetbeanmuncher

No-one can be this naive surely???

I am not naive. I am very successful. I have had a very good time with this lady and I wanted to make sure I was not being unfair. When she asked me for money I was disappointed. Whenever I don't know something, I ask. I haven't handed any money and I won't.

@Oppy

I’m not trying to be cool thank you, it’s my opinion. Don’t see how I was defending her particularly either. What makes you think “prostitutes” are any more honest than this woman, everyone is different. Calling a spade a spade doesn’t work because what a spade is is a subjective matter of opinion. I do know she is a human being. And anyway as far as I know women who are paid for sex prefer to be referred to as sex workers, isn’t their an alliance called something like that.. I will admit I don’t know for sure and maybe some women who are paid for sex prefer to be called prostitutes, but you don’t know they want to be names prostitutes either. And to use your logic, if he offers to pay her per meet then he is taking control and making it an more honest transaction

Actually women who get paid for sex would prefer to not do that.

Think about calling it sex work, getting it mainstream.
Think about in 10 years sex work is legit and they pay tax, you ok with your daughter doing sex work, your mum, your sister?
You ok with your daughter servicing your male relatives? Because it's just a job.
Why am I only mentioning women doing sex work? Which sex is trafficked for prostitution?

Aw op seems lovely, what a shame!
I hope you're not too sad, you'll meet someone worthy of your kind heart soon! 💔💐

I don't think you're naive, I think you're thorough, careful, with the good sense to look for an external sounding board. She might be a scammer, she might just be very entitled. Either way, I'm sure you can do better.

@Monzeitia

My guess is that she is from Philippines or Thailand as it quite common for the ladies to find a sugar daddy from abroad and the expectation is for the man to pay for things, I’m from Europe with a lot of friends in different European countries, we don’t ask men to pay for our rent’s, bills and no way after a couple of months

Stereotyping much? OP has clarified the girlfriend is from Europe

Tell you can’t afford it. If she says how much can you afford then you know she’s on the take. Sadly, your probably not the only one she’s trying this old trick on. Just get up and walk away.

😂😂😂. You’re dating someone 15 years (?) younger and you’re surprised she wants more than just your company? Sorry OP but are you really that naive? I’m actually sat here drinking my tea and shaking my head in disbelief.

If you date much younger as a wealthier person, please don’t think they’re with you because of your amazing personality. Or because they prefer ‘men’ instead of ‘boys’. You’re much older and you have money. Wake up.

Have you ever seen or met her in person? You could be chatting to a bloke in a call centre for all you know.

OP She wants a sugar daddy [or2!]. You've been taken for a great big ride. You might be successful but you're also a bit stupid, sorry.

I think this happens a lot with wealthy older (middle aged) men and younger foreign women. Basically she wants you for your money and for security. She gets her rent paid and you get a young pretty lady on your arm. She doesn’t have feeling for you, not in the way you want anyway. Of course if you want a pretty lady on your arm that doesn’t love you then go ahead. She will probably get pregnant and ask for more money so she doesn’t take the child away from you.

You do sound naive if you believe this woman wants you for you and not your money. She’s basically a prostitute, you pay her rent and she will be your girlfriend.

Tell her you need 1000 pounds to pay your rent off her...does she mind awfully?

😂😂😂. You’re dating someone 15 years (?) younger and you’re surprised she wants more than just your company? Sorry OP but are you really that naive? I’m actually sat here drinking my tea and shaking my head in disbelief.

If you date much younger as a wealthier person, please don’t think they’re with you because of your amazing personality. Or because they prefer ‘men’ instead of ‘boys’. You’re much older and you have money. Wake up.

What a bitter reply

Admittedly it is a risk, so care is needed & the OP obviously understands that, but it is not guaranteed that a younger woman with an older man is only after money, I know several couples who've been happy for decades & with similar age gaps. You also have no idea what the OP looks like, we have a 63 yo friend who is classically handsome in a very cool way & has no problem meeting girls half his age & he isn't rich & is known to be a tight assed git he's had several LTRs over the years & could easily be married to anyone of them, if he wasn't such a playboy

Life isn't black & white, people have different tastes to you

It may be normal in her country but it isn't in this country. In this country it's known as being a mug and taken for a ride.

As an FYI Virtually no 20 something year old women are falling overthemselves to date an old man

This is true for both genders. Some women fall for a young man and assume its true love, reality is its a trade "youth for financial backing"

Less women fall for this however and it does seem many men over estimate their attractiveness - especially as they get older. If your success in life is monetary then you might need to consider how you "sell" yourself on dating sites.

You will have learned from this and hopefully had a good time. Don't be bitter or angry as I imagine she assumed you knew the trade off.

Rarely would much younger women go for much older men. Choose women around your own age if you are looking for a more equal relationship.

Mate.

You win some, you lose some. Glad you found out before losing your money and your heart. Best of luck with the dating game.

Yes, I think I would let dates know that you have enough, not more than enough but enough. A woman who is sorted won't want to look after you. But ask yourself if youth is the only thing you're looking for.

As a 51 year old woman who's still slim and attractive, I've given up on internet dating as although I have a strong sense of myself, my own house, income, pension, that is not what men my age value in a woman! They value youth above all else. Sometimes it works for them. Sometimes it ends in an empty bank account.

Whatever the age gap was between you and this woman, halve it as your maximum age gap. That way you have a chance of meeting somebody who sees you as her genuine equal.

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Closetbeanmuncher

No-one can be this naive surely???

I am not naive. I am very successful. I have had a very good time with this lady and I wanted to make sure I was not being unfair. When she asked me for money I was disappointed. Whenever I don't know something, I ask. I haven't handed any money and I won't.

@gfwantsmoney please don’t think we’re insulting you by using the word naïve, my oh is ridiculously successful but he literally doesn’t process feelings and people too well. I believe he’s autistic tbh. He’s been hit twice by women with agendas, the last one was AWFUL, everyone could see it except him. He believes that if you’re kind to people, they’ll be kind to you.

Well now he knows that if you’re kind to people who are kind, they’ll be kind because they’re kind.

I realised the same in my previous relationships but I wasn’t ever wealthy, just bog standard successful, money would have made things worse. I see how money brings out all kinds of insects, it’s so disappointing

Don’t beat yourself up, you barely know this woman, what you saw was fake, what she wanted you to see, so that she could get what she wanted. Money. It’s not personal for her, you’re just a mark. She will have to now start all over again and find someone else to groom.

She’ll be angry, my ex was angry when I stood up to his abusive ways. They have to pretend to be something they’re not and when you rumble them they have ‘wasted’ all that effort of being nice

Block her number, delete her as a contact.

You’ve done nothing wrong other to trust someone who was a very skilled and accomplished liar.

You only lost 8 weeks.

I lost years to my abusive ex. My oh lost years and huge ££££ to his exes.

Makes me think how many other boyfriends are 'giving' her money every month

Were any of you you planning to move to be closer to each other? Seems like a very new relationship but I am trying not to judge! @gfwantsmoney