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My girlfriends wants money after two months

290 replies

gfwantsmoney · 16/03/2022 21:23

That is really. I have been seeing this woman for a couple of months. We have seen each other every couple of weeks since January and everything is fantastic. We talk almost every day. She is beautiful, interesting and I really like her. I could see a future for us after being single for a long time. The only problem is that she just told me she needs 500 pounds a month to pay her rent each month. She is not from the UK so she said in her country it is normal for a boyfriend to pay for things for his girlfriend. Is she taking me for a ride? I can afford the 500 pounds.

OP posts:
MrsMinge · 17/03/2022 11:26

Hope you are ok @gfwantsmoney , it's horrible when people try and take advantage

MzHz · 17/03/2022 11:29

@gfwantsmoney

For those interested, she didn't reply at all. She used to reply immediately. There is so much good advice here. Nothing lost. I had a good time. She had some good wine and dine nights out. We even went to Wales. I had a few nice dates with a nice lady. I will leave it like that. Next time, I will ask MN after the first date :)
Well done! Nothing lost at all, just a little dent on a crumple zone :D

Good for you though to spot this as a red flag, and to ask for help/another perspective.

PinkGinBigGrin · 17/03/2022 11:33

For those interested, she didn't reply at all. She used to reply immediately. There is so much good advice here. Nothing lost. I had a good time. She had some good wine and dine nights out. We even went to Wales. I had a few nice dates with a nice lady. I will leave it like that. Next time, I will ask MN after the first date

Yep, check with us first love - we'll set you straight!

Seems she was reeling you in and then went for the kill! Cheeky cow.

katepilar · 17/03/2022 12:03

OP, you are more than OK to come here and ask what other people think about your situation. Sorry some people are having a go at you.

CoastalWave · 17/03/2022 12:07

Ohhh OP you sound lovely!

There's some horrid people out there. I'm glad you can look at it in the way you are doing. Nothing majorly lost, you also had fun. But she's shown her true colours now.

karma will get her!

Lambkin689 · 17/03/2022 12:13

Well done, OP! You did the right thing.

Pennox · 17/03/2022 12:14

Nobody is having a go at him what are you talking about? He'd already spotted the red flags and was asking other people to give him objective advise about what he already knew - which everbody did.

He now knows she was a scammer and/or prostitute as she hasnt replied when he said he couldnt pay for her. Everyone commended him for spotting it and wished him luck finding a genuine relationship going forward, because he seems like a genuine guy. How is any of that 'having a go' ?

DeepDown12 · 17/03/2022 12:14

@gfwantsmoney - I am East European and it is an absolute lie that in any East European country there is an expectation for boyfriend to pay anything other than an occasional drink/dinner on a night out (in which case, next time is on gf). We even have a name for women like her - 'Sponzorusa' which means 'Sponsored/Kept woman' or gold-digger.

It is women like that that create the vile image of 'mail ordered' brides from Eastern Europe and gold diggers. Vast majority of women from the region would be aghast and deeply offended by her misrepresentation.

MotherofAutism · 17/03/2022 12:18

@AlisonDonut

Pounds? Are you sure you have even met her?
Does it really matter what words he used?????? 🙄
Chickychickydodah · 17/03/2022 12:38

Don’t send it. Dump and move on .

ToughLove77 · 17/03/2022 12:38

£500 was just the start OP. She'd have been pressing to be written into your will in a few years if you'd not have woken up and smelled the coffee.

grapewines · 17/03/2022 12:40

Glad you got rid. That's so cheeky of her.

TreatTrimTame · 17/03/2022 12:43

@gfwantsmoney maybe you should get checked out, as i doubt you were the only man she was doing this to. health comes first. Flowers

NowEvenBetter · 17/03/2022 12:47

You’ve met her SIX TIMES 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
She must’ve thought very lowly of you, to think anyone on earth would be stupid enough to pay £500 a month to a stranger.

Hoplesscynic · 17/03/2022 12:56

OP, write it off as a bitter experience. Very disappointing for you, but good you are looking out for yourself and not letting her get you sucked into £500 monthly payments! Definitely a chancer and a user.
I just came along to say that I know many East Europeans and that is definitely NOT NORMAL in their countries (a boyfriend paying girlfriend's rent regularly). She was just spinning a lie to make it look like a cultural thing.

Ikeptgoing · 17/03/2022 13:00

Wow. She was intending to scam you £500 a month for the cost of her giving you attention when she saw you. 6 times over 2 months = every 10 days. That's £166 a night of her company.

It isn't normal to ask for money or expect rent to be paid by a new bf. She's lived in U.K. for 15 years so it's irrelevant if at home in Poland she says that boyfriends after two months... pay for "their women" like this.

She wasn't interested in you, you were a job for her - she probably has a number of 'sugar daddies' set up to fund her lifestyle.

grapewines · 17/03/2022 14:03

@NowEvenBetter

You’ve met her SIX TIMES 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 She must’ve thought very lowly of you, to think anyone on earth would be stupid enough to pay £500 a month to a stranger.
I mean, some people take loans of thousands to pay people they meet online and have met a few times or not at all in person. OP isn't exactly alone. Case in point: Tinder Swindler.
grapewines · 17/03/2022 14:04

At least OP didn't fall for it.

oakleaffy · 17/03/2022 14:23

@gfwantsmoney

For those interested, she didn't reply at all. She used to reply immediately. There is so much good advice here. Nothing lost. I had a good time. She had some good wine and dine nights out. We even went to Wales. I had a few nice dates with a nice lady. I will leave it like that. Next time, I will ask MN after the first date :)
Good Luck, Op Wise decision.
NowEvenBetter · 17/03/2022 14:59

Tinder swindler women were exquisitely stupid, paying for cock because they thought he was rich. Really, really not ‘easily done’ 😄

Lena007 · 17/03/2022 15:04

@PeacefulPrune

Is she taking me for a ride?

Yes

Agree with this. Not worth your time
grapewines · 17/03/2022 15:20

@NowEvenBetter

Tinder swindler women were exquisitely stupid, paying for cock because they thought he was rich. Really, really not ‘easily done’ 😄
I agree. I'm just saying it happens.
2bazookas · 17/03/2022 15:26

she's taking you for a ride.

What country does she claim where men pay the rent for new female friends? Other than pimps and prostitutes . I hope you're not being set up.

TyrannosaurusRegina · 17/03/2022 15:35

She's taking the piss. "She's beautiful and interesting"...anyone can put on an act and pretend to be lovely and interesting if it gets them 500 quid a month...

UKRAINEwearewithyou · 17/03/2022 16:23

She is not a future or present partner. You are a money pot to her. Some women and men see potential others as a means to pay for things, rent, cars, presents, clothing, whatever. They are there for the money and what they can get.

Rich individuals have people attracted to them for their money. People without wealth also are seen as attractive by others that use them for their money or what that gives them.

DUMP AND RUN unless you are happy with this arrangement. It's a bit like prostitution but posing as a relationship. It's not equal though.

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