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Original poster

My girlfriends wants money after two months

290 replies

gfwantsmoney · 16/03/2022 21:23

That is really. I have been seeing this woman for a couple of months. We have seen each other every couple of weeks since January and everything is fantastic. We talk almost every day. She is beautiful, interesting and I really like her. I could see a future for us after being single for a long time. The only problem is that she just told me she needs 500 pounds a month to pay her rent each month. She is not from the UK so she said in her country it is normal for a boyfriend to pay for things for his girlfriend. Is she taking me for a ride? I can afford the 500 pounds.

OP posts:
Thoosa · 17/03/2022 01:50

How did you meet a girlfriend in another country while travel is still awkward? International dating site? Those are gold digger hunting grounds. Red bunting everywhere.

expat101 · 17/03/2022 03:48

If on the odd chance she weezels her way into your life again, and the customs of her former home land come up, involving you paying her money, I would outright say to her that she obviously moved to the UK? For a better way of life than in her former homeland, and that comes with many changes all round and She can’t pick and choose (well she could try) what customs she is going to impose on you or anyone else from somewhere she no longer resides.

Stay well clear of that one. You will end up supporting her whole family next if she is genuine.

Totalwasteofpaper · 17/03/2022 04:45

@gfwantsmoney

I just asked if we are still ok but no answer. Thanks for your help. I think it was a scam after all as she always replies super fast. I would just leave it like that and move on.
It's not a "scam" per se. My guess is she is a good 20 years younger and is after a sugar daddy / seeking an arrangement type stuff. You aren't keen... that's fine.

I wouldn't enter into am arrangement like that (on either end) myself... however, several men are fine with this as they like the "prestige" of a young attractive girlfriend and to pretend they don't pay women for sex.

As an FYI Virtually no 20 something year old women are falling overthemselves to date an old man.

Agree with others block and go non contact as she'll likely be back with a random excuse looking for cash.

1forAll74 · 17/03/2022 05:01

No, don't do this.. she will probably be asking for more and more money later too.

Kuachui · 17/03/2022 05:14

even if she wasn't, i wouldnt want to date someone who vouldnt even afford there rent. she needs to make some better choices doesnt she. like get a job, get a better job or stop buying crap

TacCat49 · 17/03/2022 05:27

Some girls just love a guy with a big bulge in their pants. It's called the wallet.

Frollop · 17/03/2022 05:28

@gfwantsmoney yes sadly she wants your money..

how old are you OP ? Have you thought of meeting someone your own age through a shared interest/hobby group?

LadyPropane · 17/03/2022 05:33

Ah, I'm so sorry OP. What a shitty thing to happen when you thought you'd met someone great.

As PPs have said, be VERY careful from here. There will be all sorts of reasons why she needs money from you in the coming weeks. Don't be taken in by her.

UserError012345 · 17/03/2022 05:48

Do. Not. Hand. Over. Any. Money.

Squeezyhug · 17/03/2022 06:25

@Oppy
“I’m not naive, jaded or unaware of genuine intimacy. Quite the opposite. And I’m not saying he should be automatically fine with my opinion, I was suggesting an option which makes sense to me. Plenty of men happily pay for sex and company and always have done, I imagine some women do too. I don’t understand why some of you are getting exercised by it.“

Because OP doesn’t want to pay for sex and you’ve gone off on a tangent about it.
You’re entitled to your opinion but I think you’ve missed the point here.
The point is he wants a meaningful relationship not some arrangement with a person selling sex.

Imperfectp3rf3ction · 17/03/2022 06:26

One side I'm going to defend her if she us from a different cultures she genuinely may not know better, on the other hand I strongly recommend finding out more about her culture asap!! I wouldn't pay for her purely based on this but perhaps have a chat about long term.

MingeofDeath · 17/03/2022 06:28

Has she mentioned her mother/father/cousin family pet being unwell? They will get worse and need expensive medical treatment. Don't give her a penny OP she is taking you for a ride. As PP have said there are plenty decent women out there.

Houstonjane · 17/03/2022 06:40

A huge red flag, please do not give this woman rent money or any money. Run in the opposite direction as fast as you can. She is testing how gullible you are, I guarantee things will get worse. I speak from similar experiences.

Monzeitia · 17/03/2022 06:42

My guess is that she is from Philippines or Thailand as it quite common for the ladies to find a sugar daddy from abroad and the expectation is for the man to pay for things, I’m from Europe with a lot of friends in different European countries, we don’t ask men to pay for our rent’s, bills and no way after a couple of months

PlumpAndDeliciousFatcat · 17/03/2022 06:43

Now you’ve said no you are unlikely to hear from her again.

You are likely to be one of several. If you were foolish enough to have sex with her without a condom then you need to book a check-up at the GUM clinic.

Ncjustforyou · 17/03/2022 07:00

I think we might’ve frightened him off…

Frauhubert · 17/03/2022 07:03

Comparing her to a prostitute is insulting to prostitutes. They provide a service at least.

TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross · 17/03/2022 07:13

@PyongyangKipperbang

The worst thing is is that she will not see any of that money if you do send it, the vast majority will go to the bastards who are forcing her to do this.
Some people will go through bizarre mental gymnastics to avoid admitting that sometimes women are able to be manipulative and devious all by themselves…
Original poster
gfwantsmoney · 17/03/2022 07:14

Wow. So many opinions. Thanks all for your input and different points of view. I didn't get any text from her and I won't contact her. I believe it's over. Just to clarify a few points. She lives in South East England, not in another country. Not sure why some posters are assuming that she lives in another country. I live like 100 miles away from her. She is from East Europe. She is in her late 30s. Whenever we met, we had a good time. The usual dinner, drinks, intimacy. She didn't try to avoid intimacy or see me less on the contrary. I have a very busy schedule so not able to see her more.

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Original poster
gfwantsmoney · 17/03/2022 07:14

@Thoosa

How did you meet a girlfriend in another country while travel is still awkward? International dating site? Those are gold digger hunting grounds. Red bunting everywhere.
She lives in the UK. She is from another country.
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longwayoff · 17/03/2022 07:16

Oh for crying out loud. She is a scammer and you are one of many suckers. For future reference, so is anyone else with the same proposition. In the meantime though, I am also very beautiful and would like someone to give me £500 a month. Ta.

Original poster
gfwantsmoney · 17/03/2022 07:17

@notangelinajolie

So you have met a woman who is a bit younger than you. You have seen her 6 times. She lives in a different country and wants you to send her £500 a month. Um, let me think ..
She lives in the UK. She doesn't want me to send her money to another country. She wanted help with her rent. Probably cash in hand next time we meet.
OP posts:
DrSbaitso · 17/03/2022 07:22

I don't think it's a scam as she's being honest and not promising anything she won't be delivering, but obviously you don't have to go along with it.

How much younger is she?

Benjispruce5 · 17/03/2022 07:22

Run.

Terfydactyl · 17/03/2022 07:22

@Closetbeanmuncher

No-one can be this naive surely???
No and I'm sure this was posted for a different reason entirely, but the responses were not the right ones.
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