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Dating Thread 226: Springing into Spring

995 replies

Dancerinthemoonlight · 14/03/2022 12:19

The Rules:

  1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
  2. Develop a thick skin.
  3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
  4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
  5. Trust your gut instinct.
  6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
  7. Know your worth.
  8. If it's not fun, stop.
  9. Loo update is mandatory.
10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

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Stepcount · 01/04/2022 09:06

@ICrunchCrispsNotNumbers, sorry I’m a bit late to comment on your date but it’s wonderful to hear you sounding philosophical and upbeat. You seem in a good place with lots of things 🤗

Thisisworsethananticpated · 01/04/2022 11:45

Ciao everyone
I’ve just dropped my kids off in italy
I met a nice woman in coach who’s just split with her boyfriend and decided to have a two week holiday alone
I advised her to try Italian tinder !
35 is a crappy age to be single again as you have that whole fertility tick tock stress

It’s raining here which is rare for italy
Happy Friday and weekend y’all

I’m looking forward to seeing Balkan in London and also a bit nervous as this will be more relationship like than hook up as he will come to mine

Thisisworsethananticpated · 01/04/2022 11:47

Gelato enjoy that smitten feeling
It’s so flipping nice after a split to get that again

Newpjamas · 01/04/2022 12:58

Hi can i join this thread please new to dating had 3 dates so far all went well i just posted about him mentioning anger issues when he was younger i think it just came up in conversation about something else

HowlongWillThisTakeNow · 01/04/2022 20:02

@Newpjamas
Great job, sounds like you are killing it

gelatodipistacchio · 01/04/2022 20:53

@Thisisworsethananticpated oh, holiday from the kids! Nice.

@Stepcount yes, I'm sure you're right.

That said, I have had an absolutely nightmarish day of it, and Mr S has been texting me throughout and showing concern as if he's already my boyfriend. Not sure whether I should find this weird, but I am finding it very pleasant actually

BearFacedCheekGrylls · 01/04/2022 21:37

I have asked Mr Movies for a drink but he’s gone quieter since we moved to WhatsApp. And not responded to my drink suggestion.

There’s a few others I’m chatting too but no one’s asking me out and there’s no one I’m excited enough to ask.

Newpjamas · 01/04/2022 21:59

Thanks @HowlongWillThisTakeNow well it was 3 with the same guy lol

Thisisworsethananticpated · 02/04/2022 06:24

gelatodipistacchio
I have mainly spent my kid free time buying useless crack and on hold to airline who cancelled me
Ah you are having the boyfriend experience
It’s super cute
And also weird I know

I just want to get home now
Italy when not hot - involves walking for hours and trying to not get run over

Thisisworsethananticpated · 02/04/2022 06:27

Newpjamas
My sons is asd (anger !) and the other whilst adorable also has some anger issues too

It’s a fuxking blast I tell ya !

I’m not minimising anger for any gender
But I hope mine will get through this and come out the other side

So young anger doesn’t mean a red flag 🚩 for
Me

ButterflyOfShay · 02/04/2022 06:43

@Thisisworsethananticpated sounds like a good adventure! Hope you get home ok. When do the kids come back? Do you have to go back and get them?

Stayingstrongish · 02/04/2022 07:12

@Thisisworsethananticpated what part of Italy are you in? I remember Rome being like that.

Newpjamas · 02/04/2022 07:22

Thanks @Thisisworsethananticpated

HowlongWillThisTakeNow · 02/04/2022 08:16

@BearFacedCheekGrylls
Ah, WhatsApp, the app to be loved and hated with equal measure at the same time,
Social life, love it,
Dating life, hate it.
Hope Mr Movie steps up for you..
I would LOVE IT if Ms H did something like that, still waiting for her to take the initiative

HowlongWillThisTakeNow · 02/04/2022 08:21

@Newpjamas
Same guy is good, all going okay hopefully?

@gelatodipistacchio
enjoy your break

@Thisisworsethananticpated
Enjoy ( I think), are you dropping off your kids Italy ? ( is that where the father is ? ),
And I guess your buying crap not crack!

ICrunchCrispsNotNumbers · 02/04/2022 15:18

[quote Stepcount]@ICrunchCrispsNotNumbers, sorry I’m a bit late to comment on your date but it’s wonderful to hear you sounding philosophical and upbeat. You seem in a good place with lots of things 🤗[/quote]
@Stepcount thank you. 😊 I feel so much better 🤗😘

Thisisworsethananticpated · 02/04/2022 15:55

ButterflyOfShay
Yes , that trip was a ball ache and back in 2 weeks
How are you !

HowlongWillThisTakeNow
Yeah he moved back to the most remote place in Europe
And yes , I bought some amazingly esotoric cack

Sicily ! Gelato

I’m kid free ! God I love flying alone

Knutface · 02/04/2022 16:05

@Newpjamas I think you need more details tbh. I dated a guy that admitted to anger issues when younger, he then admitted that he split with ex due to dv (by him). In your case he might just mean that he lost his temper as a teenager and got into a few fights, that’s obviously not the same.

ICrunchCrispsNotNumbers · 03/04/2022 01:15

@Newpjamas I agree with @Knutface. You need to have a frank talk with him and find out more, then you can decide if you want to progress things with him ❤️

ownedbygreyhounds · 03/04/2022 07:04

I have been on 2 dates with a guy who is kind and lovely and made me laugh lots. But there was just no sexual chemistry 😬... I mean we looked into each others eyes over coffee and smiled lots, and there was a warm fuzzy feeling which was completely mutual. However I didn't want to tear his clothes off, and although we hugged goodbye at the end there was not a peck on the lips let alone tongues!
In my previous relationships there has always been that "let's just f**k and talk later" kind of feeling. But this feels different and I am not sure. Anyway words of wisdom much appreciated. PS I am late 40's and was married for 20 years before I left him after a midlife crisis/breakdown.

Thisisworsethananticpated · 03/04/2022 07:24

ownedbygreyhounds

Chemistry is strange
My current iron I didn’t fancy him on first date but really liked him
Second date clothes were ripped
Now it’s very sexual but I don’t see the niceness so much !!!!

Maybe have one more data and see ?

Thisisworsethananticpated · 03/04/2022 07:31

BearFacedCheekGrylls

I hate WhatsApp
And also love
It’s a strange app in that it’s instant , addictive and has that bloody ‘last seen’ technology

SortingItOut · 03/04/2022 08:36

@Thisisworsethananticpated Why not turn off the last seen?
You could even turn off blue ticks😱

I love Whatsapp, its so instant and it can be whatever you want it to be

Stayingstrongish · 03/04/2022 08:36

@ownedbygreyhounds maybe try a proper kiss first before dismissing chemistry. Sometimes I find it doesn’t hit you till you kiss. And he sounds great other than that

Thisisworsethananticpated · 03/04/2022 08:51

SortingItOut

You can’t turn off the blue ticks

That’s a crime !!!! Me ex obsession did that and it drive me mad !!!!