Dating Thread 226: Springing into Spring

[Dancerinthemoonlight]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

Stepcoubt is right. It is rude to keep people hanging.

@Stepcount
Thanks, yes have a reply about Easter Sat, ( came this morning) so that’s booked in.

@SortingItOut
Yes I can see Ms H going in the Mr K direction with regards to commitments

@BearFacedCheekGrylls it does tend to me more often than not.

I suppose I should go with the flow over the summer and see how things unfold
Thanks all

@BearFacedCheekGrylls

I’ve always fancied learning to ride a motorcycle.

Go for it, great fun, and you will meet lots of men (not that it’s a reason)

BearFacedCheekGrylls

No many of us do this
I’m also sure
My iron checks my status too
It’s a modern curse and really unhealthy

WhatsApp is the smoking of dating

HowlongWillThisTakeNow

I think you (and I for that matter) need a meeting to discuss said items

To be fair she might like you and genuinely want a once a week thing

But needs discussion ?

I couldn’t commit to a serious relationship right now
I have one sen school refuser
One rather traumatised younger child
A full time job
3 psych appts a week
And an elderly parent

So casual is where it’s at right now
Hence why I target men who also have the same commitments who want sex and friendship mainly

God it’s hard work isn’t it

@Thisisworsethananticpated that does sound like a lot to work around. But as you say there will be guys in similar situations who want same kind of thing. Just has to be right for both sides

@Thisisworsethananticpated

@Thisisworsethananticpated
Wowser, sounds full on.

@BearFacedCheekGrylls i get like this too. Personally, I dislike being on call for someone all the time unless it's a really established relationship, but if you have been texting consistently, then I can see why the sudden silence would be upsetting

You're on a roll today, @Thisisworsethananticpated

I'm the same with messaging. I get twitchy too! But I'm attached to my phone and understand some people aren't. But you can't get a good flowing conversation if there is ages between each message. I just want to get the messaging over and done with and then meet!

I really need to cut the non stop WhatsApp’s with Balkan
It’s driving us both mad !
Starts with good morning
Then quickly moves into misunderstanding (his side ) or a minor huff (my side)
Why do we do this to ourselves

So, I’ve been looking at the apps for a bit with few matches. I notice a lot of the profiles seem to be exactly the same

“Mum who’s kids are my life looking for a big spoon. I like going out, staying in and travel, but I won’t message first. There are too many liars on here so no fakes please”

Then a couple of selfies, one with kids, one with a dog.

Hi all,

I've got dinner with Mr History tonight. We're going back to the place we met last week, to try their food 😊

I actually feel a bit sorry for him at the moment. There was only one other person in his department at his work but they left, so he's having to take up all the workload until after the Easter break. I don't want to take up his time too much.

It's going well so far though. 😀

That aside, I've been swiping a bit here and there, but haven't had any success yet. ❤️

@FloydPepper

So, I’ve been looking at the apps for a bit with few matches. I notice a lot of the profiles seem to be exactly the same

“Mum who’s kids are my life looking for a big spoon. I like going out, staying in and travel, but I won’t message first. There are too many liars on here so no fakes please”

Then a couple of selfies, one with kids, one with a dog.

@FloydPepper hit the nail on the head there 😂😂

Re messaging.

I used to talk to my ex every day. Talking to Mr Gambit was sketchy as he only talked when he wanted, (because he was so busy and everything) 😉

Mr History isn't big on messaging at all. And I actually prefer it that way. I find it sooo refreshing to not have to be pressured to message with someone constantly.

ICrunchCrispsNotNumbers

Don’t worry abiut his being busy
Sex and dating isn’t work
It’s FUN
Well it’s supposed to be

I mean, I’m sure a lot of mens profiles must look the same too. I’ve tried to avoid having a pic of me at the gym, or in front of my car, or with a fish. I don’t say I’m looking for my princess, or my little spoon, or use text speak.

@Thisisworsethananticpated

ICrunchCrispsNotNumbers

Don’t worry abiut his being busy
Sex and dating isn’t work
It’s FUN
Well it’s supposed to be

@Thisisworsethananticpated I'm not worried. 🙂 I like that he has a life away from dating. I try and not worry so much about the long term side of things now. I do fancy him but it's still early days so I'm just enjoying having his company at the moment. ❤️

Floyd looking for a big spoon? That's just vommy. My kids are my world? No shit! Like going out and staying in - says everyone in the world. Not many originals out there - just a collection of cliches, by the sounds of it 😐

@WeWantTheFinestWines

Floyd looking for a big spoon? That's just vommy. My kids are my world? No shit! Like going out and staying in - says everyone in the world. Not many originals out there - just a collection of cliches, by the sounds of it 😐

I know it’s hard to write something, and hands up, mine is sparse, but I was genuinely surprised how many “little spoons” were out there!

“Looking for a big spoon”, why do they have a very cup of tea that needs stirring, or maybe a long spoon to get to the bottom of one those tall ice cream sundae glasses ?

Or is “big spoon” a euphemism for penis that I’m not aware off ?

look at the size of my spoon, he say gently casually stirring a coffee 🥄

“Big Spoon” WTF does that mean 🤡

Excuses all the typos, really tired today

@HowlongWillThisTakeNow

“Looking for a big spoon”, why do they have a very cup of tea that needs stirring, or maybe a long spoon to get to the bottom of one those tall ice cream sundae glasses ?

Or is “big spoon” a euphemism for penis that I’m not aware off ?

look at the size of my spoon, he say gently casually stirring a coffee 🥄

“Big Spoon” WTF does that mean 🤡

Cuddling in bed, or “spooning”