Dating Thread 226: Springing into Spring

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The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

@Procrastinator85

Hi all!

Can I join? I am jumping into the dating game again after many years out of it for various reasons. Went on a first date yesterday. We just met for a quick coffee. We had a decent chat and I quite liked him - I sent him a message when I got home saying I had had a nice time and he replied that he had too, but no suggestion of meeting up again.

So onwards and upwards!

Can you not suggest another meeting?

@Stayingstrongish re kids: yes, i think that is a pretty big potential issue

@Thisisworsethananticpated i am also touched by this. To be honest, the main reason I am worried about any of these things is that I decided the first time we spoke on video chat that I wanted him to be my boyfriend. I realise that this is unreasonable and weird, and I am trying to keep my feet on the ground.

gelatodipistacchio
Ahhh ! Looks it easy to say don’t worry
We all get like this !!! Hence this thread existing
I like the sound of him tbh

@gelatodipistacchio I think he sounds really nice!! 💗💗

@gelatodipistacchio I think he sounds really nice!! 💗💗

Whoops sorry for the double postage, on a train dodgy connection.

Im pining for Mr Turk, not seen him for a week 🥺 wonder where he’s been

@Thisisworsethananticpated that’s cute you went for a bike ride together! Nice to do some riding outside the bedroom eh 😉😅

Nice to do some riding outside the bedroom eh

@Thisisworsethananticpated i second what Shay said, which she expressed hilariously.

honestly, I think that I have only felt like this about once in my life. In that case, it was horrible timing and I suspect that the man and I both still think about each other. I'm basically convinced that we will end up in a serious relationship. But perhaps I will come crawling back here in a few weeks or months with a different perspective. I think that he's just so nice and genuine and kind. He also seems to be quite taken with me.

I think I need to stop gushing now

It’s ok @gelatodipistacchio like @Thisisworsethananticpated said this thread is exactly for these sorts of thoughts and feelings and isn’t it nice to have somewhere to air and share them 😊 even if we are potential nut jobs… hehe x

Just on Hinge. There's this guy who has just answered ... to all his questions. What is that about? 😳😂🤣

Somebody liked me this morning but it was one of those 'just ask' types, which I do admit I don't like.

I suggested to Mr History that we get another drink on Wednesday, and he's hopefully going to let me know today, which is good news.

I feel a bit guilty that I'm not talking to other people. I was talking to my mum about it earlier, and she said that you can't force it. I just don't want to feel like that I'm putting all my hopes on Mr History at this early stage.

Honestly i walked past the coffee shop on the way to the station and noticed there was his ashtray and a single cigarette butt in it on his usual table and it made ne think waaaaa not seen you for a week and maybe i just missed you. 🤯🤯😁

@ButterflyOfShay YES! On that note, I am sorry for your near misses with Mr Turk

ButterflyOfShay
Ahhh ! This week baby
And a smile at him please

gelatodipistacchio

Sometimes you know , or feel right about someone
Trusting gut does both ways

Give it a go
He really does sound very open and nice
And If it fucks up we are here to mop up your tears

Balkan has electric bike and I was trying very hard to keep up for two hours
I ache today
He’s a moody fucker sometimes (a lot ) but I’ve never had sex this hot 🥵 so yeah 😂

ICrunchCrispsNotNumbers

I had some very sweet dates with a chap who had the dreaded ‘no drama’ comment on his
Profile . He was a total sweetheart but I didn’t fancy him

Whereas current iron had ‘be direct’ and I
Am direct , super direct
And he didn’t like it !!!

So I take with a pinch of salt sometimes x

@Thisisworsethananticpated

ICrunchCrispsNotNumbers

I had some very sweet dates with a chap who had the dreaded ‘no drama’ comment on his
Profile . He was a total sweetheart but I didn’t fancy him

Whereas current iron had ‘be direct’ and I
Am direct , super direct
And he didn’t like it !!!

So I take with a pinch of salt sometimes x

@Thisisworsethananticpated very good point! I'll keep that in mind 🙂

@ICrunchCrispsNotNumbers i think I understand your unease, but it sounds like your concern about not having more irons is causing you quite a lot of stress. Maybe so much that it's not worth the headache? Also, maybe part of the reason no one is grabbing you is because of MrHistory?

[quote gelatodipistacchio]@ICrunchCrispsNotNumbers i think I understand your unease, but it sounds like your concern about not having more irons is causing you quite a lot of stress. Maybe so much that it's not worth the headache? Also, maybe part of the reason no one is grabbing you is because of MrHistory?[/quote]
@gelatodipistacchio I needed to hear this. thank you. Maybe I just need to see how it goes with him first? I do tend to worry and stress about things a lot, which I'm working on. 🙂

@gelatodipistacchio not unreasonable or weird at all that you wanted him as bf from first chat. When you know, you know!

[quote ButterflyOfShay]@Thisisworsethananticpated that’s cute you went for a bike ride together! Nice to do some riding outside the bedroom eh 😉😅[/quote]
I swear it’s women are more dirty minded than men.

But very funny 😆 😆

I’m terrible @HowlongWillThisTakeNow. I was defo a cheeky builder in a previous life 🤣🤣 don’t really belong in an office environment…. 🤪

@Thisisworsethananticpated

ButterflyOfShay Ahhh ! This week baby And a smile at him please

Swear on me cats life @Thisisworsethananticpated I am going to smile, or say hi this week…. Not seeing him for a week has made me a bit crazy and now I’m just going to go for it (subtly!) really hope I have some exciting news to update this week 😆😆

[quote Stayingstrongish]@gelatodipistacchio not unreasonable or weird at all that you wanted him as bf from first chat. When you know, you know![/quote]
I completely believe in things at first sight and 3 times it’s happened to me, got it with Turk too but its taking longer to establish contact!! Probably cos I’m way more reserved than I was when I was younger 🙂

@ButterflyOfShay
You will have to ask him if he has a canoe in his pocket, or is he just please to see you.

Good luck @ButterflyOfShay. ❤️

I've asked Mr History if he wants to go for dinner on Wednesday. He's read my message but hasn't replied yet. Fingers crossed he will later. 🙂