Dating Thread 226: Springing into Spring

[Dancerinthemoonlight]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

@Trippingslippingx1 Apparently worked as a model, works in finance, lots of attractive exes and drives a BMW with a personalised number plate - but somehow rents a one bedroom flat in one of the worst areas in the city

Most people who have worked as models, have beautiful exes don't brag about it, they just get on with life and are coy about it.
Sounds like he was a liar and if you met you'd find this out for yourself so maybe that's why he didn't meet.

I hate braggy people and people who brag about money - red flag for me.

[quote SortingItOut]**@Trippingslippingx1* Apparently worked as a model, works in finance, lots of attractive exes and drives a BMW with a personalised number plate - but somehow rents a one bedroom flat in one of the worst areas in the city*

Most people who have worked as models, have beautiful exes don't brag about it, they just get on with life and are coy about it.
Sounds like he was a liar and if you met you'd find this out for yourself so maybe that's why he didn't meet.

I hate braggy people and people who brag about money - red flag for me.[/quote]
He got very defensive when I said I was a career woman
He was like ‘its not attractive, just to let you know, men dont like it so stop telling guys that when you meet them’ 😂😂😂😂

Okkkk

[quote SortingItOut]**@Trippingslippingx1* Apparently worked as a model, works in finance, lots of attractive exes and drives a BMW with a personalised number plate - but somehow rents a one bedroom flat in one of the worst areas in the city*

Most people who have worked as models, have beautiful exes don't brag about it, they just get on with life and are coy about it.
Sounds like he was a liar and if you met you'd find this out for yourself so maybe that's why he didn't meet.

I hate braggy people and people who brag about money - red flag for me.[/quote]
I dont think hes a liar i think some of its true but he seems very image obsessed - was showing me his flat last night and he has pictures of himself on the wall 😂😂 where he graduated etc and no one else

@Trippingslippingx1 Is there a reason you ignored so many red flags?

Telling a woman to keep quiet about being career driven is a huge red flag.
He doesn't want a woman doing better than him?

[quote SortingItOut]@HowlongWillThisTakeNow I assume she came (literally 😃) without the horsey smell this time.

@Trippingslippingx1 video calls every night and you've only just met😱
Far too fast too soon. What's wrong with building up a connection slowly?
Have you brought up the date? When was it last brought up?
Seems odd neither of you have mentioned it[/quote]
Oh yes she came alright ! , there was even a polite enquiry about round 2, which I had to politely, decline, man of my age , etc. etc,

Messages have been exchanged, suddenly feeling rather upbeat today
Thanks for everyone’s support and insights, so far so good 😊
Looks like I may be off to the races 🔜

[quote SortingItOut]@Trippingslippingx1 Is there a reason you ignored so many red flags?

Telling a woman to keep quiet about being career driven is a huge red flag.
He doesn't want a woman doing better than him?[/quote]
Ive only spoken to him four times. No I dont think he wants a woman doing better than him it seems like. Anyway hes deleted and unmatched anyway

@Trippingslippingx1 This was just on my facebook feed...very apt

Try again...

@Trippingslippingx1
Sorry, He’s just a Bullshitter. Avoid

[quote SortingItOut]@Trippingslippingx1 This was just on my facebook feed...very apt[/quote]
What was?

@SortingItOut

Try again...

I guess so and you always have to wonder these guys with personalised number plates etc.

Anyway he was a bit of a mix up of things - last night he seemed open to a meeting thing weekend but now I have reflected on the phone calls its probably best we dont meet

@SortingItOut

Try again...

He is utterly obsessed with appearances. He was picking out all my face flaws 😂😂😂 Hes a typical LVM negger

@Trippingslippingx1 He is utterly obsessed with appearances. He was picking out all my face flaws

WTF 😱
Why did you not end the call immediately?
Sounds like he gets an ego boost from negging.

In regard to personalised number plates, I had one for years that my husband brought me, I had it on normal cars, I'm not flashy and never told anyone.
I appreciate some people have one to show off but a lot don't.

[quote SortingItOut]**@Trippingslippingx1* He is utterly obsessed with appearances. He was picking out all my face flaws*

WTF 😱
Why did you not end the call immediately?
Sounds like he gets an ego boost from negging.

In regard to personalised number plates, I had one for years that my husband brought me, I had it on normal cars, I'm not flashy and never told anyone.
I appreciate some people have one to show off but a lot don't.[/quote]
His is definately to show off - very very personalised number plate and told me how much it cost. He also has a personalised phone number - never ever heard of that one, which apparently a famous ex who worked for phonelines got him. I thought it was a company phone number. It was 07- and then all the same number 😂😂😂 he said it cost a fortune

I think I have met a real life tinder swindler!!!

[quote SortingItOut]**@Trippingslippingx1* He is utterly obsessed with appearances. He was picking out all my face flaws*

WTF 😱
Why did you not end the call immediately?
Sounds like he gets an ego boost from negging.

In regard to personalised number plates, I had one for years that my husband brought me, I had it on normal cars, I'm not flashy and never told anyone.
I appreciate some people have one to show off but a lot don't.[/quote]
He is on a fancy car as well posted over instagram. Not the same as a normal personalised number plate on a normal car.

I got called a shit head this morning!! I’m not even joking, my mouth just kind of hit the floor when I read his text! It said -
Hey shit head, Yh that will be good. Of course, if you play your cards right 😉

It wasn’t anything sexual and just a little joke but why start with shit head? Why call a woman that you haven’t even met yet?
We was supposed to meet Thursday but he cancelled last minute too although that could have been genuine, but shit head!!!

Blocked and deleted.
I hate OLD, I’ve also been ghosted this week 🤣
It’s not doing great!

@HeDidWhattt

I got called a shit head this morning!! I’m not even joking, my mouth just kind of hit the floor when I read his text! It said - Hey shit head, Yh that will be good. Of course, if you play your cards right 😉

It wasn’t anything sexual and just a little joke but why start with shit head? Why call a woman that you haven’t even met yet?
We was supposed to meet Thursday but he cancelled last minute too although that could have been genuine, but shit head!!!

Blocked and deleted.
I hate OLD, I’ve also been ghosted this week 🤣
It’s not doing great!

I was ghosted last week and the week before.

Him calling you shit head is just to test the waters - its shark test - the fact you blocked and deleted means he moves onto a weaker victim.

My guy posted above only got weird last phone call of the week - i assumed to see if I would contact him and fuel his ego today to go on a date even though he negged me. I was fully aware of what he was doing. Xx

This is honestly the worst I have ever seen online dating - A few years ago you could get 5-6 dates and conversations a week but now honestly its hopeless. They are all so flakey and weird

They are all so flakey and weird
And you have not even met me !

Ms H is off doing Horse stuff today, so I’m going to dick about with my bike for a bit,..
she is now mentioning the possibility of round 2 tomorrow…

@HeDidWhattt

I got called a shit head this morning!! I’m not even joking, my mouth just kind of hit the floor when I read his text! It said - Hey shit head, Yh that will be good. Of course, if you play your cards right 😉

It wasn’t anything sexual and just a little joke but why start with shit head? Why call a woman that you haven’t even met yet?
We was supposed to meet Thursday but he cancelled last minute too although that could have been genuine, but shit head!!!

Blocked and deleted.
I hate OLD, I’ve also been ghosted this week 🤣
It’s not doing great!

Honestly and its the ‘if you play your cards right’ for me. Boak. I had one message me this after a hookup last year me messaging if he was free and I was just about boaked. Like we are doing them a favour. Honestly 😂😂Seriously prostitutes and escorts get treated better by these men.

@HowlongWillThisTakeNow

They are all so flakey and weird And you have not even met me !

Ms H is off doing Horse stuff today, so I’m going to dick about with my bike for a bit,..
she is now mentioning the possibility of round 2 tomorrow…

You are the exception 😂❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

@Trippingslippingx1

This is honestly the worst I have ever seen online dating - A few years ago you could get 5-6 dates and conversations a week but now honestly its hopeless. They are all so flakey and weird

Totally agree. I've been ghosted twice this week and actually stood up last week! That's never happened before :(

@HeDidWhattt

I got called a shit head this morning!! I’m not even joking, my mouth just kind of hit the floor when I read his text! It said - Hey shit head, Yh that will be good. Of course, if you play your cards right 😉

It wasn’t anything sexual and just a little joke but why start with shit head? Why call a woman that you haven’t even met yet?
We was supposed to meet Thursday but he cancelled last minute too although that could have been genuine, but shit head!!!

Blocked and deleted.
I hate OLD, I’ve also been ghosted this week 🤣
It’s not doing great!

That’s blokey kinda banter, the sort of thing you would say to someone you know, if you said it to a stranger the response would likely be a smack in the face.

So sorry to hear about the crappy behaviour being received. Honestly @Trippingslippingx1 thank your lucky stars that one’s gone! Block that number!

Gosh sounds like with the exception of 🐎🐎🐎🤣 some shocking experiences
Dating models
Shit head

I need to pluck up some courage this end
But it’s a beautiful day so maybe yoga and gardening instead