Amazing first date but then he sent me this message.

[Milomonster]

I met a lovely guy on Hinge, and had the most wonderful date. It ended with us saying we’d like to meet again. There were a few messages back and forth afterwards, and then he sent me this. My friends are divided on what he means. I think it’s the start of breadcrumbing.

“So I need to be completely open with you and I hope we can align our schedules but this will probably require a bit of patience so I apologise in advance. I typically have a very busy schedule, with kids, work can often very demanding time wise, varied friends and I tend to be an active individual. I’m sure you do to, which I think is great. Now I personally don’t see this as a bad thing but people have struggled with it in the past so I think it’s only fair to tell you. My good friends tease me about it. It’s just who I am, life is full of adventure. Now I’m happy to be patient, we’ll definitely find windows of opportunity.”

"it seems selfish to rob the world of the benefit of your engagement and creativity by wanting to spend time with you" sent with a straight face.

@BitOutOfPractice PMSL at my office desk at Billy Busy Big Balls. This has been one funny thread!

I’m going to channel more stone cold confidence but be nice at the same time.

@Zilla1

"it seems selfish to rob the world of the benefit of your engagement and creativity by wanting to spend time with you" sent with a straight face.

Oh definitely this.

Geller is the soon to be PITA ex of a lovely woman Polly. She had twins with him and what sounds like a decade of torture.

He had her trying to manage on little money when it turned out he had huge savings siphoned away.

Absolute scum.
Shite in bed.
A complete boring blow hole.
A truly shit father.

She's delirious to be rid of him.

@billy1966 sounds like my ex. That another story…
I’ll check it out the thread. Thanks for explaining it.

@Easterbunnyiswindowshopping

Did' to' just have one o? Ltb for that.

Me too!

Definitely check it out.

She rights really well and there are about 4 threads in all.

A great read, about a lovely young woman who finally had the scales fall from her eyes, about her disgusting husband.

She was his third wife!!

Writes!🙄

@StuckInPollyannaMode is the poster

Read 'He's just not that into you' by Greg Behrendt. In fact I think every single woman should.

He goes cycling/plays golf every second of his spare time. You will be secondary to everything else he does. He'd be dumped if that was me.

@Milomonster

What is reference to Gellar?

It's actually a reference to the character Ross Geller, in "Friends", I think. Polly's STBEH has been christened "Geller" for reasons I don't quite understand! @bill1966 has explained the rest very succinctly, given I think StuckInPollyannaMode is on about her 6th or 7th thread about Geller!

I think it's fine for him to say up front that he doesn't do that clingy needy thing where people text 24/7 and cry if there's no answer.

Now you know; you can either drop him, or see how it works out.

Tell him to feck off dickhead. Who the hell sends this type of message. He is trying to sound all superior but really he is saying I just want a shag and no time for anything else. Text him sorry who is this? Do not see this dick head again just for that pompous message alone. Love yourself more. Glad have decided to stay single as reading all the crap on here would put anyone off for good. Who does he think he is?? Tom Hardy!!!!!!

What a twat. Clearly after an occasional shag, on his terms, in his 'busy schedule'. Urgh!

Women only date/match very good looking men from Online Dating apps/sites..

Chances are this very handsome bloke can afford to be self absorbed

Very funny thread and great comments..

@davidwebb

Women only date/match very good looking men from Online Dating apps/sites..

Chances are this very handsome bloke can afford to be self absorbed

Huh?

That’s only if the “very good looking men” select them too.

I think if you were in any doubt before then his second message in answer to your reply tells you what you need to know. You said he was looking for something casual and he didn't deny it, so there you are.

@davidwebb I’ve dated men who were massively punching well above their weight both physically and intellectually (I don’t mean to come across as arrogant). The number of handsome men in their 40s on OLD is very small indeed. So, I’ve had to sacrifice looks for other qualities. I do not date only handsome men.

@davidwebb

Women only date/match very good looking men from Online Dating apps/sites..

Chances are this very handsome bloke can afford to be self absorbed

Whereas men on OLD. are only looking for women their own age who want commitment and have great personalities and don't care about looks or how slim she is. Oh, wait a minute...

[quote Milomonster]@davidwebb I’ve dated men who were massively punching well above their weight both physically and intellectually (I don’t mean to come across as arrogant). The number of handsome men in their 40s on OLD is very small indeed. So, I’ve had to sacrifice looks for other qualities. I do not date only handsome men.[/quote]
I do only date good looking men. I'm quite happy single, so I'd rather be single otherwise.

"davidwebb
Women only date/match very good looking men from Online Dating apps/sites..

Chances are this very handsome bloke can afford to be self absorbed
Huh?

That’s only if the “very good looking men” select them too."

True. All the average and below average people, male and female, will be looking for dates too.

@arethereanyleftatall

I do only date good looking men. I'm quite happy single, so I'd rather be single otherwise.

What you mean is you only date men you find attractive. Your idea of good looking and mine may not be be same,

I mean some women think Brad Pitt is sexy.

@TatianaBis
Yes you're right. And, I wouldn't kick Brad out 😜

But even if he’s just after casual sex, their schedules would still have to align?! What an idiot.