Turning a blind eye to repeated cheating

[JamSandwich0]

Does anyone ignore partner indescretions for a happy peaceful life?

Pretending you don't know what's going on and enjoying your life together regardless.

Shouldn't you at least speak to him to ensure he keeps his mistress off your phone / establishes some boundaries?
If people are calling you then he knows that you know, so...

I couldn't. DP and I only have sex with each other. That is what sets us apart from all the other relationships in our lives. He is mine, I am his. I like feeling like that and so does he. If another person's body was thrown in the mix it would taint that. I choose not to live with a tainted relationship. It just isn't the same.

I don't think it's normal or common 🤷🏼‍♀️

You got married and had kids really young op. Are you from a religious community? You say you have a job, what would life be like without your cheating dh? If you are genuinely happy abs not bothered about his cheating that’s fine but I don’t think you are.

Wow!! Some women will tolerate any scumbag treatment from a "man" for the sake of maintaining a fantasy lifestyle in their "head", which is far from the true picture of their husband's perception about the reality of their marriage.

These "type of women" in such superficial marriages will go to the extent of making excuses for their husband's behaviour, to rationalise and validate their decision to remain in the marriage. Similar to the OP, they'll conjure up excuses such as:

• it's just ONS with no emotional attachment where as he is affectionate with me
• he doesn't want a divorce because he loves me but uses other women for sex only

He has no respect for you and most probably sees you as a weak fool.
Your bar is set very low on the self-esteem and self-respect spectrum.
Are you secretly entertained by his pretentious behaviour? or maybe you enjoy being used.

Enough of my rambling, each to their own...whatever makes you happy!

@Begrateful

Wow!! Some women will tolerate any scumbag treatment from a "man" for the sake of maintaining a fantasy lifestyle in their "head", which is far from the true picture of their husband's perception about the reality of their marriage.

These "type of women" in such superficial marriages will go to the extent of making excuses for their husband's behaviour, to rationalise and validate their decision to remain in the marriage. Similar to the OP, they'll conjure up excuses such as:

• it's just ONS with no emotional attachment where as he is affectionate with me
• he doesn't want a divorce because he loves me but uses other women for sex only

He has no respect for you and most probably sees you as a weak fool.
Your bar is set very low on the self-esteem and self-respect spectrum.
Are you secretly entertained by his pretentious behaviour? or maybe you enjoy being used.

Enough of my rambling, each to their own...whatever makes you happy!

Agree with all of this. I've just picked up this thread, read it, and cannot believe what I have read. More tripe than on a fishmonger's stall.

I have nothing but contempt for women who tolerate this sort of rubbish and make excuses. I saw my aunt do it with flings and then an affair that was revealed after four years. She said "Oh I knew you were seeing someone. I didn't think it was Jane, though, I suspected it was Julie." That. Completely speechless. No kicking him out, had him back when the other woman and him didn't work.

Women, you, we, are worth more. And those of you with children, they certainly are. I would rather be on my own forever in a one-bedroomed house with goldfish and a 10 year old car and holidays in Skegness than in a large house with all the trappings and a cheat who doesn't respect me. It's all empty.