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Dating someone shorter than you?

193 replies

oopsmoment · 13/02/2022 15:01

All my ex's have mostly been 5'11 to over 6ft (I'm 5'8) I've just started dating someone and he's reasonable looking but he's only about my height, maybe slightly shorter. If I wear boots with slight heels I'm definitely taller than him.
Would this give you the ick? Or not bother you?
Any of you have DPs/DHs shorter than you?
Thank you.

OP posts:
Wiredforsound · 13/02/2022 23:35

Height doesn’t bother me one way or another. If they are funny, have strength of character, and are pretty switched on, then why would I care what height they were?

user1481840227 · 13/02/2022 23:44

@Katie2017

Height doesn't bother me at all. Can't believe people make such a big deal of a couple of inches anyway. Being a fairly tall woman myself (5'8) I've never even expected a tall guy to be interested as they usually end up with the petite girls. They don't seem to mind the massive height difference of a foot or more so why would a bloke being your height or an inch or two shorter be a big deal?
That's kind of strange and flawed logic!

You say tall men usually end up with petite girls and that they "don't seem to mind the massive height difference of a foot or more"

Have you not considered that maybe they actually enjoy the difference in height and look for it and that it's not something that they are just putting up with?

The petite women you mentioned might not go out with a man who is shorter than them and the men you mentioned might not go out with a woman who is taller than them!! Just because a couple enjoy a height difference one way (generally the man being taller) doesn't mean they are open to it the other way.

Hdhr8jsj · 13/02/2022 23:49

All my LTR have been with men who are either the same height or shorter than me (5'10). Current DP is 5'7 and bloody lovely. Never bothered me (or them).

MysticCT · 13/02/2022 23:50

I'm only 4'10, so I think we would probably look a bit silly. My DH is 5'7, so not really tall but tall enough to reach things in the supermarket for me.

dipdye · 13/02/2022 23:52

I'm 5'5 so, no. Had a potential date once and his hands were smaller than mine!

Urgh no

HowlongWillThisTakeNow · 14/02/2022 00:00

I’m 6ft, so to prefer women kinda 5’6 and taller really.

roolz · 14/02/2022 00:01

Katie, I'm afraid 5'8 isn't tall, it's a few inches above average. Garr it grinds my gears, sorry. If that's tall, the rest of us above that must be giants then. It's a pretty standard height

Sorry for being pedantic🙈

roolz · 14/02/2022 00:03

It's shorter than the average man, you'll have no trouble, unlike some of us who are forced to be with shorter men through genuine shortage of men taller than usGrin

Katie2017 · 14/02/2022 00:06

*roolz lol that's why I said "fairly tall", it's above average. If I was 5'10 plus I would've said I was tall and omitted the "fairly"!

TooExtraImmatureCheddar · 14/02/2022 00:09

I’m only 5’2” - don’t think I’ve ever met a man shorter than me! Very few, anyway. DH is 5’11”.

I wonder whether men have height preferences? I suppose they must but I rarely hear guys mention height.

RedCandyApple · 14/02/2022 00:12

I think men do have height preferences I think men in general prefer petite women

SpaceRaiders · 14/02/2022 00:12

I’m 5’9, my last date was about 5.3. I turned up wearing 5 inch heels, I completely towered over him. Three dates later I called it off, the height difference was too weird!

PamelaDoov · 14/02/2022 00:31

I’m tall and dated someone shorter than me for best part of a year when I was younger. It made me feel like a sexy Amazon.

Katie2017 · 14/02/2022 00:34

@user1481840227 I know men being taller is standard, but a bloke being twice the size of his gf is going to draw more stares and comments than a bloke being a couple inches shorter than his gf. I know couples enjoy and actively look for that kind of height difference, they are going to get comments about it most likely though, jokes and stuff. That's if we're worrying about what other people think-which seems to be the case with a short man/tall(ish!) woman scenario if she's worried about going out and wearing heels and being taller and what that would look like?

QuarterFord · 14/02/2022 00:56

Personally, I wouldn't date anyone smaller. As a pp said, it's also the idea of smaller hands that wouldn't appeal. Also athletic build would appeal as it might mean we had exercise and active hobbies in common.

I'm 5'6, so 5'7 in 'flats' and more in heels. So probably at least 5'9. Though my ex husband is 6'2, which didn't bother me but he used to tease me about being small. I suppose, comparatively speaking, I was, but I'm still above average height for a woman so found that irritating. Isn't 5ft 4 the average?

tallgirlhello · 14/02/2022 06:54

I think women, more than men, are concerned about height. Not all men want petite women - a lot of them like leggy women.

HowlongWillThisTakeNow · 14/02/2022 07:14

@RedCandyApple

I think men do have height preferences I think men in general prefer petite women
I don’t think this is true at all, I think height is something men don’t think about in same way, personally I like more curvy women, but height is one attribute of any person.
GlamorousHeifer · 14/02/2022 08:05

I'm 5.9 (or 5.10 depending on who measures me Hmm) I don't mind if they are the same height as long as they are a 'sturdy' build.
I'm not slim myself so a more athletic build next to me does look odd.
Luckily for me dh is about 6.1!

QuarterFord · 14/02/2022 08:19

@RedCandyApple

I think men do have height preferences I think men in general prefer petite women
Ah, but it's all relative. My 6ft 2 husband thought I was petite at 5ft 6. Whereas I'd class it as under the national average height, so under 5'4.
ravenmum · 14/02/2022 08:30

@roolz

Katie, I'm afraid 5'8 isn't tall, it's a few inches above average. Garr it grinds my gears, sorry. If that's tall, the rest of us above that must be giants then. It's a pretty standard height

Sorry for being pedantic🙈

The average height for a British woman my age (52) is about 5'4. At 5'9 I'm 5 inches above average. ourworldindata.org/grapher/average-height-of-women?tab=chart&region=Europe&country=~GBR I live in Germany, where the average for my age is 5'5½, but even here, people my age consider me tall. My daughter is 5'11 and is also considered to be tall. I can be shorter than her, but still tall. It's possible!
DillonPanthersTexas · 14/02/2022 08:34

An awful lot of women's dating profiles explicitly state a minimum height requirement. My short friend found it very depressing.

Momijin · 14/02/2022 08:35

Wouldn't bother me at all.

Gooseysgirl · 14/02/2022 08:37

No I wouldn't... BUT I'm only 5ft myself. Married to a 6ft bloke - comes in handy when I need something from the top shelf in the cupboard and can't be arsed with a step ladder. And he's quite a nice person too 😆

roolz · 14/02/2022 08:44

I'm sorry I have to die on this hill
It's still a few inches, shorter than the average man, nobody is eyeing a woman of 5'8 (it's fairly standard height), nor would you need to really buy extra long clothes

You don't have to be exactly 5'4, it's a range that is average. Subjective, but still a range. If the mean salary is £30k and you earn £31k technically it's above average but you wouldn't say your a high earner 🤷🏻‍♀️

Itwasntmeright · 14/02/2022 08:48

I don’t know why straight people have such a hangup over height, it’s ridiculous.

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