Dating thread 225: Roses are red, violets are blue

[ButterflyOfShay]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

Thanks @Bangheadhere40 we actually met after a week talking and within hours was just brilliant but you know. I'll live and learn.
I'm not going to get a cathartic chat out of him so instead I'm doing my own catharsis today and I'm getting a tattoo this afternoon.

It's about things being unfinished yet still beautiful and only lasting for a season. That way I can remind myself to be grateful for what was and ok that sometimes it doesn't last long because everyone brings a lesson for us to learn.

Does anyone have any plans for the weekend other than clearing up the mess in their gardens?!

I've just cancelled a gig with some friends as DD isn't feeling great - that plus the wind mean that I don't really think it's a great idea after all!

I'm feeling very out of touch with the thread lately, despite reading everyone's updates and inwardly cheering/commiserating/empathising. I think everyone here posts such brilliant advice and offers such great insight and support that my services are not required. Maybe when I drag myself back on the apps I'll be more in the right frame of mind for my favourite thread.

I hope everyone survived the storm. I have yet to see whether DSs' weekend football plans come to fruition or whether I should just bake and get fat. Both may happen.

And if anyone needs a house sitter 10-13 August or longer, give me a shout.

Plans for the weekend: spend Saturday evening/Sunday morning at DF’s house. He’s 88 and such good company, I’m really looking forward to it. I have no storm damage to house or garden as I spent yesterday afternoon pottering about, securing stuff.

It’s one excitement after another chez moi!

@WeWantTheFinestWines

I'm feeling very out of touch with the thread lately, despite reading everyone's updates and inwardly cheering/commiserating/empathising. I think everyone here posts such brilliant advice and offers such great insight and support that my services are not required. Maybe when I drag myself back on the apps I'll be more in the right frame of mind for my favourite thread.

I hope everyone survived the storm. I have yet to see whether DSs' weekend football plans come to fruition or whether I should just bake and get fat. Both may happen.

And if anyone needs a house sitter 10-13 August or longer, give me a shout.

Stay in touch 😊

I feel the same about the thread. I posted and got great advice early days. Now I'm not sure what I can add but I love to keep up with everyone 💖

@Badbaddog

Plans for the weekend: spend Saturday evening/Sunday morning at DF’s house. He’s 88 and such good company, I’m really looking forward to it. I have no storm damage to house or garden as I spent yesterday afternoon pottering about, securing stuff.

It’s one excitement after another chez moi!

Sounds like a perfect weekend 💖

Weekend plans? I'm on call Saturday evening, and then go into a week's annual leave. I'll see my family, go to London to see an opera or two...

Messages have gone quiet. Typical.

I've had no work to do today. So, I've done pretty much nothing all day.
No damage from the wind.

I've ordered a take away which I rarely do.

Meeting a friend tomorrow for walk and coffee, then normal walking club walk Sunday. Swimming pool is shut due to power cuts, so couldn't even go and do that!

Few very slow online chats, nothing worth wasting brain power on!

Weekend plans? Meeting a friend for lunch tomorrow, I have a big walk planned if weather improves....and I'm meeting my iron, I'll call him Mr. Holiday. I'm excited and looking forward to seeing him.....but trying not to get ahead of myself!!

Got a third date with Mr Red next week. Have not bothered connecting with anyone else over the apps as I find that I can’t be arsed with the chitchat if I have someone else on the go. Probably not the best strategy but I actually find flicking through dating profiles a bit depressing (a lot of these guys seem to have very high expectations but offer very little themselves!). I’m hoping to dtd with Red this week so will dehair and exfoliate this weekend in preparation

@Knutface Enjoy your date with Mr.Red

I'll be mostly trying to stay warm as Eunice has managed to kill my central heating plus most of the appliances. The kettle still works though!

@Knutface

Got a third date with Mr Red next week. Have not bothered connecting with anyone else over the apps as I find that I can’t be arsed with the chitchat if I have someone else on the go. Probably not the best strategy but I actually find flicking through dating profiles a bit depressing (a lot of these guys seem to have very high expectations but offer very little themselves!). I’m hoping to dtd with Red this week so will dehair and exfoliate this weekend in preparation

Enjoy all the anticipation and the date 💖

@BelladiMamma

I'll be mostly trying to stay warm as Eunice has managed to kill my central heating plus most of the appliances. The kettle still works though!

Oh that’s grim! How soon will you be able to get it fixed?

@Badbaddog the whole area has it, so I have to assume that the power company is working on it ...

Thought I'd stop by and say hi. Like @BelladiMamma and @WeWantTheFinestWines I don't feel I can contribute much these days. Not dating, not actively looking and crap with advice 🤣, but there are some good looking guys in the gym and every Tuesday I see this guy who I met just as my marriage ended and his relationship ended, it was obvious that we liked each other but weren't in the right place(he had lovely kind eyes). Sadly mid PT session isn't really the time to speak to him.

I just sent Mr Cricket a picture of a toilet block saying" I saw this and thought of you" 🙈🤣, it sounds a bit George Michael-esq, but it does have a tree through the roof as well and is also where we go for coffee so it really does have a significant meaning and not just any old toilet block.

What do people think about men dying their hair a little bit.

@HowlongWillThisTakeNow

What do people think about men dying their hair a little bit.

Very hypocritical of me as I dye my hair - but I don't like it. Sorry. However I would say - do whatever works for you. Don't be swayed by others' opinions.

@Isitreallyme0077 @WeWantTheFinestWines we can hold a little farewell party 🎉 as the thread reaches 900 posts or so!

@HowlongWillThisTakeNow it doesn’t bother me, women do it all the time and no one bats and eyelid I don’t know why it’s a different rule for men

@HowlongWillThisTakeNow If you do it, do it correctly, nothing worse than men dying their hair black and then allowing regrowth of grey or black dye being blue once on your head or dying it the wrong colour - you need to match your eyebrows, stubble/beard to your hair colour.

you need to match your eyebrows, stubble/beard to your hair colour

Many beards don't match naturally, coming out ginger irrespective of hair colour.

Thanks
I started going grey prematurely so have some ( a decade’s worth) of experience with this.
Just thinking about needing a bit more pepper with my salt …

[quote BelladiMamma]**@Isitreallyme0077* @WeWantTheFinestWines* we can hold a little farewell party 🎉 as the thread reaches 900 posts or so![/quote]
I don't want to leave! Once I get back to dating, as I must (unlike you 😊) I'll be back in a dating mindspace and hopefully able to contribute in some sort of meaningful way.

@HowlongWillThisTakeNow

Thanks I started going grey prematurely so have some ( a decade’s worth) of experience with this. Just thinking about needing a bit more pepper with my salt …

I would say embrace the grey. Once you start dying, you have to keep on dying. And people will know. Which is fine as long as you're happy for people to know. Rightly or wrongly, hair colour has always been a fashion statement for women, and not dying it is almost rarer than doing it. There is no hair dying equality for men though. Although I'm sure that depends on the circles you move in.