i don`t think i can take this much longer

[mummyofaprincess]

People might know my story from my other thread on here,

I found out my partner was cheating on me via a message on his phone form OW.

He left me, DD (3) and my 6 month bump.

Well i wanted to try he never even gave us chance he looked me in my eyes and said he loved her and wanted her, hes 26 shes 17.

He had brought her back to our place, he admitted this about 2 weeks ago now.

Well now ive found pictures of them together and its really cut me up, i cant believe it.

He looks so happy

How could he do this to me, we was together 7 years.

If it wasnt for my dcs then i dont know what i would do, i really hate myself, i keep asking myself why me?, it doesnt help that she`s younger and much better looking, thinner got a job with my xp etc

Why would she want my xp when she can have the pick of the croud?

Will this get any easier, its only been just over 5 weeks but i`ve come along way since then, but this has made me step back like 10 thousand steps

Addicted,

We were not giving her false hope. She does not want his sorry ass back so whether or not his new relationship works out is irrelevant.

But anyway statistics show that relationships who start out on a foundation of lies and sneaking around do not work out..... Especially if both people are very selfish and immature.

That was the whole point of what we are saying.

I have to step in here and think about a grown man being with a young girl.

My DP is 23, his brothers gf is 17 (brother is 19), that's less of an age difference than between MoaP's ex and his 'gf', but to dp, she is a child, albeit a very sweet girl, that we like a lot, but a child, and she is quite normal for her age.

Once you reach adulthood, age differences do not matter as much, but this girl has not reached it yet.

Unfortunately, I don't think MoaP's ex has either, at least not mentally.

hey there VS thanks for your support

Well last night he told me i made him so mad that he had an arguement with her and he punched his window of his car and it smashed so he had all cuts etc up his arm and on his hands.

So theres my maintenance out the window for last week, he said he will give it me double this week as he had to pay £60 for his window.

If he had done what i asked off him (he was off work so could have been here, even though he lied in the first place saying he had plans when he didnt) this wouldnt have happend

He has changed so much he would have never done this before i know that!

Even his parents have said the same, they say hes turned into a bear faced lier and hes moody and obnoxious and he`s not the same person.

When xp and his mom and dad was here today you could tell that they dont get on any more from the way they looked at each other, this isnt what it used to be like he has always got on very well with his parents

well if they are both immature they're suited

Hi smallwhitecat i am going to a solicitor next week as i need to get the money side sorted as he will keep letting me down with it i need to do it not just for myself but for him to realise i`m not going to put up with this.

He came out with a good one aswell about going out to a party tonight ( he quickly said theres going to be drink there already so wont cost me a thing )
I really don`t believe a word he says anymore!

The man i once loved with ALL my heart has turned into a nasty lieing man and i hate him for this

What a twit he isn't only taking his bad behaviour out on you and DD he is taking it out on ho and his car as well.

He ought to punch himself in the face instead of his poor car!!

I love the 'you made me so mad I punched out the car window' Who did that? You? By being a strong woman who's not going to be walked all over? NO!!He did it. It's his responsiblilty! It's his life! You didn't MAKE him do anything!
OOOO I hate it when blokes (or anyone really) blame everyone but themselves)

Well MOAP he has well and truly made his bed hasn't he?

As for punching in the window of his car who the hell's fault is that? I'd laugh if it wasn't so pathetic.

He couldnt wait to tell me his tale and show me his arm and hand (didnt look like he had washed it) and he still had the same jeans on as i saw blood on them.

I felt like laughing and calling him an idiot but i just said nothing, i know what he did wasn`t my fault, he just wanted someone to blame for his fall otu with her!

I know he must have made out to her that im this nasty evil mummy (but i know im not)

I bet he`s full of sorrys to her tonight lol

What a prat!

Hope you are having a great new year MOAP x

Hi Janos i am having a very happy new year thank you

Just had my new years dinner and im very stuffed, My DD is busy laughing with her grandad right now while my step moms busy doing our pudding

XP sent a text just after 12 give DD a new years kiss (pitty he couldn`t do it himself really)

I am waiting on a call from him as hes having DD over night tomorrow im not looking forward to her going but i know i have to for DDs sake, he is her daddy after all.

I know this years going to be very special for me, before long LO will be here and i will get all the best bits all to myself and i don`t have to share LO like i did DD when she was a baby

I hope your new year is going well aswell x x

Sounds like a fantastic day MOAP.

I had a lovely new years eve myself as I got an unexpected invite from a friend, so myself and DS got to stay there AND got our dinner cooked. What a treat!

PLUS I got a lie in [fgrin}

What a great start to the new year!

I bet you was so pleased to be out the house, i stayed at my dad and step moms last night, DD went to bed early and i even kept awake for 12 lol

I got a lie in this morning till 11 which is unheard of if i was at home lol

My dad got DD up and took her down stairs

Well we had mince pies for pudding and i am really stuffed now, so i`m going to put my feet up and stay on here for a while, DD playing lovely with her cars and bricks

Enjoy it!!! Am desperate for some sleep.

Early night for DS I think.

I am so glad you are having a nice time MoaP.

I'm a staff nurse and I'm working nights last night and tonight both 14 hour shifts. So I am getting ready for work now but tomorrow I am off and won't sleep and it is both mine and DH's birthday. I haven't had time to get him a present so maybe he will start a thread on dadsnet complaining about me!!

Have a good one you guys.

Oh blimey good luck AnneMayesR. That's a tough job.

Enjoy your birthday. You kick ass btw, LOVE your posts!

i think DD should be in bed now lol shes wide awake and doesnt look like she`s going to bed any time soon.

Oh well at least she`s making me laugh

AnneMayesR i`m sure he wont be to upset, but maybe you can suprise him somehow

Janos is your DS in bed?

Hey MOAP.

No, my DS doesn't go to bed until half past seven, but he's there now... I think they get so overexcited with Christmas and all the holidays really.

I'm glad he's asleep now as I'm shattered...not too long until I head for bed myself!

Hope you enjoyed those mince pies

Just put DD in bed, its been a long day for her, but i have this feeling i`ll get a lie in in the morning lol

Well xp called to see if he could still have DD tomorrow night, he sounded really happy actually on the phone (grrr!)

I hope he doesnt take her out behind my back as i will never get to know, i know hes DDs father and he has rights but i don`t want DD meeting her yet as DD is confused enough already

I know theres going to come a time when he wants to take DD with him every week and LO for that matter.

I dont think ill let LO go with him for a very long time as he`s showing no interest in LO at all.

DD starts nursery next week and on the same day i have got a midwife appointment and i told him about both but he only show a bit of interest in DD going to nursery.

Maybe i should be thankfull for that, i don`t know.

He is still talking about getting a place very soon so he will want the DCs round his place and really i havent got a leg to dtand on (with DD till LO is old enough to go with him) I know this isnt happening yet and i shouldn`t worry over it till it happens but i do

Its when DD goes to bed when i think about things, and the future for my DCs, i have to let them go with him and i know that, and it does hurt knowing that he will be playing happy familys with our DCs

"Its when DD goes to bed when i think about things, and the future for my DCs, i have to let them go with him and i know that, and it does hurt knowing that he will be playing happy familys with our DCs"

Yeah, I know it is very hard to deal with, very painful, I remember from my own exp..but there's no need to worry yourself thinking about that now when it may not actually happen.

The nights are the hardest time, aren't they, because that's when you are on your own.

my sisters coming tomorrow night so im not alone, i know he cant just have DD in the week starting from next week so this might just be a one off.

I know he wouldn`t want to give up a weekend night for DD as he loves going out!

I try not to worry but its always there in the back of my mind.

His parents have been really supportive though this week and have reasured me that they will do there best to stop him taking DD out tomorrow night (as they can`t actually stop him, which is right really) I just hope DD has a nice time.

His parents have noticed aswell that hes not the same daddy as he was before when he was here yesterday he paid no attention to DD at all and DD didnt even want to kiss him or give him a love before he went

DD has picked up on all this and i find it very sad to be honest.

Sorry rant over again

I think really you are entitled to rant away as much as you like. What an awful thing for your DD.

Sorry but I must get to bed..in advanced stages of sleep derpivation now!

Gald your sis will be there tomorrow..all that support will really help. Take care MOAP and sleep well x

night Janos i hope you have a lovely sleep, i`m off to bed after shameless