Tell him he is a dumb shit. He abandoned his family...he is no father......he doesn't get to call the shots. You can show him my messages if you want to make him realise that most people would be in agreement with your side.
I wouldn't let my child anywhere near that unstable twat (punching car windows? What a stupid dick) and that 17 year old hobag.
No intelligent person would look at a piece of shit like her who is only 17, working a loser job and screwing some idiot older man causing his children to suffer and NOT think she is unfit to be around young children. She wouldn't get within 10 feet of my kids...not even as a babysitter.... Not even as an assistant babysitter to their main babysitter.
It is dangerous to bring kids around new partners to soon. And believe me those kids will suffer the rest of their lives even if he tries to play loving dad once in awhile on his days off when he can pry himself away from her.
I know lot of family law soliciters and have a judge for a father. I know how they view selfish twats like your ex-partner and it ain't pretty.
They will not take his shit and cave to his demands. They understand better than anyone how idiots like him fuck up children and cause society a whole bunch of huge social problems.
He screwed up not you. You have been a model parent. If he wanted to break up that is cool...but the way he went about it shows some extreme character flaws. EXTREME. They look at stuff like this.
Don't worry about the courts. Document everything and don't worry. They won't take any of his shit. They're not stupid. Tell him he better find a mentally disabled judge if he wants to get an ounce of respect from the court system.
It is a proven fact that break-ups like this one harm children. He has gone about this horribly. If he wanted to go and move on that is fine but he handled the whole thing like total shithead with no concern for his babies. It is a documented proven fact that bringing kids around new partners right away after a traumatic break up like this is incredibly incredibly damaging. This kind of damage can be permanent. Everyone knows this except that dumbass and his hobag. All they care about is using your child as a doll and playing happy families.
Of course he should get visitation but if he does not go about this in a correct manner that is best for the children the court system will have his sorry ass for lunch.
You can print this baby out and show it to him. He can deal with me instead of shouting at a pregnant woman for trying to do what is best for her kids.
To Ex-Partner
Listen Up You Tosser: She doesn't want you back and she doesn't want to stop you from seeing the kids or ruin your life or any such stupid thing!!
She just wants to minimize any further psychological damage that you may cause to her babies!! You hear me?? You idiot. My pet budgie could have figured that one out even if you and hobag can't. Selfishness must kill brain cells.
IF he wanted to move on that is fine but he could have handled it like an adult and not screwed everything up so badly.
It is wonderful that he wants to see your daughter but he needs to go about it the right way or he is toast in the courts.
Bringing her his hobag girlfriend is NOT the right way to go about things.
The guy is a walking wreck. I wouldn't trust him to take care of a hamster. Hopefully he will come out of it, go back to his old self and behave himself when he visits your children. You can be apart and be civil.
Yeah I did have a nice birthday by the way. Thanks.
You guys could also try relate or mediation. Not to save your relationship because neither of you want that BUT they may help him modify his behaviour so that he is a better father. They may help you cope with your feelings as well. Counselling is never a bad thing.
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