i don`t think i can take this much longer

[mummyofaprincess]

People might know my story from my other thread on here,

I found out my partner was cheating on me via a message on his phone form OW.

He left me, DD (3) and my 6 month bump.

Well i wanted to try he never even gave us chance he looked me in my eyes and said he loved her and wanted her, hes 26 shes 17.

He had brought her back to our place, he admitted this about 2 weeks ago now.

Well now ive found pictures of them together and its really cut me up, i cant believe it.

He looks so happy

How could he do this to me, we was together 7 years.

If it wasnt for my dcs then i dont know what i would do, i really hate myself, i keep asking myself why me?, it doesnt help that she`s younger and much better looking, thinner got a job with my xp etc

Why would she want my xp when she can have the pick of the croud?

Will this get any easier, its only been just over 5 weeks but i`ve come along way since then, but this has made me step back like 10 thousand steps

Believe me I could have gone on and one with that one and made it ten lines long.

Military school /teen boot camp in Texas would straighten her little arse out I'm telling ya!! We should send some brochures to her mum.

Let's see how cute and fun she feels after an army haircut and US Marine Sargeant JimBob Psycho hauling her ass out of bed at 0400 in the morning to scrub 18 toilets sparkling clean with nothing but her toothbrush everyday for a year.

I threaten my kids with this all the time but now they know I'm kidding. They just roll their eyes and salute me when I say it.

HE'S A COCK!

Moap, Embrace the new life you are bringing into the world, and love every minute. Dont waste the precious few weeks when your little un arrives on him.

I repeat he's a COCK!

I wished i never asked him now, i really should have known better!

I cant believe that he wouldnt want to be there, its as if he had alked about this with her, as he answered straight away and with that bit about "we aint in a relationship anymore" Thats something i dont think he would say, though i might be wrong!

His loss at the end of the day, he`s the one that will have to answer to LO when he or she asks why he was there for DDs birth but would rather have waited outside when he or she was born!

Well he cant say i didn`t ask him!

normajean thank you

AMR thats a good idea, pitty they haven`t got them over here, people like him and her need teaching a lesson!

MoaP - you don't want him there at your CS believe me. You will want someone to give you sympathy for the pain, join in with your anxiety, and spend hours just looking at your newborn (I think it's a boy by the way...just a feeling lol) and I don't think that will be him. He will (at the best of times) stalk about looking for someone to pay attention to him, cause you untold heartache and misery and then disappear as soon as the lo is dry.
Ask your mum/friend/anyone to be with you at your unbelievably special time, anyone. Don't let him spoil it, cos he will.
Just leave him with dd on the day. That will be enough responsibilty.

hi sparkybabe

I wont even let him have DD i will ask my dad to watch her and i think i will as my step mom to be there with me, she has given me so much support since xp did this to us.

Its like you say he will leave as soon as LO was born anyway, and yeah i think i would regret it to be honest!

What was i thinking???

He only comes here to see DD for a couple of hours so its not like hes going to stay in hospital with me and LO all day, gosh i think ive lost my brain!!!

I think from now on i need to stop talking about LO to him as he doesnt want to know so i need to stop wasteing my breath, if he wants to see his children then hes welcome, if not then so be it!

I`m not going to force him to be a better dad he needs to learn to do that himself.

MOAP, please stop wasting your energy on this sorry excuse for a "man".

You are going to need it all for your lovely DD and the beautiful new life inside of you.

HE is going to miss out on the most wonderful experience of seeing his child come in to the world, he will regret it everyday for the rest of his life and it will haunt him on his deathbed too.

YOU may not feel it now, but you will become a stronger person for all the pain you have been given, and your children will know they have a wonderful mother who loves them beyond all else.

As for madamskank she will get hers, and I hope when it comes to her its bad.

Whoever said that you are better off with your stepmum and dad around at the birth was right.

XP and whorebag will just ruin the whole thing for you.

This should be a beautiful day for you and you should be surrounded by nice people, not toxic ones.

It will be fine!!

your poor soul. time is a great healer and its so true. I know how you must feel as have a similar problem and too expecting baby in may. and all the books say pregnant womens fear is of their dp leaving them... then it goes and happens! Be strong, you have something he doesnt, your kids.

Kimi your right i hope he does regret it for the rest of his life!!

He`s the one who will have to look his child in the eyes and explain to them when there old enough to understand!

Thanks AMR

babylove hi and thanks

Tell the CSA as soon as possible after the birth to chase him for every penny you are owed.

Then tell him you are going to divorce him for adultery and he'll have to pay for everything whereas you'll get legal aid.

Hit him where it'll hit them both the most - his wallet. She will hate it that he can't spend all his money on her.

I'm with mutha on this hit him (and slutbucket) where it will cause hem the most unhappiness

we are not married but i will tell the csa straight away

Not married, shame on you

You have had a lucky escape if you ask me (which you did not but I thought I would say so any way)

Married of not, he is a father too two children and he needs to meets his financial responsibilities to his family even if he is not man enough to meet his other obligations to them.

Hoeface will hate seeing him part with his pennies on anyone but her.

MOAP he's really excelled himself this time. If that's how he's acting its probably best if he does stay away from the birth.
How is he ever going to bond with his new baby with an attitude like that? Remind him that come April he will have TWO children, who he will have to treat exactly the same. He can't have one without the other and he'll have to work twice as hard with the baby - you can't form a relationship with a baby based on two hours a week.
He made your baby too, and he can't just decide now that he doesn't want him/her.
Sorry - I'm coming across all bossy now but I'm so so furious for you. How very fucking dare he

ginnedup your not coming across bossy at all, this is really worrying me, but this could also be her telling him what he can and can`t do, because before he left he went to all the appointments and even loved feeling the first kick, if he thinks he is taking DD out and not LO then he can think again, these DCs are both his!

I totally agree with you guys. I didn't want to say anything before but I am afraid he will continue a relationship with his DD while ignoring LO. That will cause LO lots of confusion and hurt in his life. Kids think that they are the ones who did something wrong when they get rejected.

I don't want to come across as bossy but make sure he understands that the two kids are a double deal and get loved and treated equally. Shitforbrains can't have a relationship with one child and be cold to the other one. I hope he wisens up a bit. You have to have hope.

He seems to not understand that other people are human beings with rights. It's like he is a sociopath or something.

just when I thought this bucket of slime couldnt get any worse he shows he can the tosser.

You know what MOAP being at the birth is a priveledge one he gave up when he did what he did. I would not even consider allowing him to be there to ruin what is a fantastic and intimate experience it is very much his loss.

definately contact the csa and hit the selfish arse wipes where it hurts financially, have you told the csa you are due to give birth soon?

It is still very early days and you are very vulnerable at the moment but as everyone keeps saying you are the one who will move on and be better off, it must be hard to believe at the moment but you will, you will have your dc and more importantly their love and respect and hopefully in the not to distant future someone who will treat you the way you deserve, I dont think he will have that ever

I agree with the others about his relationship with lo he has to realise he will soon have two children who must be treated equally and fairly no taking your dd out and leaving baby no way!!!

I will not let him treat LO differently at all!!! I mean that!!

If he does then he will not see the DCs for that reason and that reason only, these are both his children and he has to live with that, we made this baby together so he needs to get over himself.

CSA dont know yet that im due another, but when LO is born they will!!!

I hate the sight of this man!

I can`t believe he can just shut off from LO in a flash

MOAP, I split up from my partner when I was pregnant and he was not at the birth of my DD, although slighty different as my choice. What I wanted to say was that as you know nothing compares with the birth of your child, with or without him it will be an amazing experience, and the strength and indepence you will feel, cannot be described, I promise you.

After going through labour by yourself you feel an extreme pride and you know within yourself if you can do that you can do anything. It may be that your ex DP will show little interest at first, after all babies to little but sleep in the first months, but after a few months, the first smiles, the outstretched arms, the giggles (all of which he will witness when he comes to see DD)will turn him green with envy when he realises non of LO affections are for him.

He may be an idiot, but the fact that he comes to see DD, even for a little while(remember some men abandon their kids altogether)and wanted to be involved in the birth in someway, even if only outside the room, shows that he does love BOTH children, he is just not thinking with his head at the moment.

What I an trying to say that even though it hurts like hell, what goes around comes around, in time he will realise. All your struggles will be worth it, focus on the end goals, their graduation days, weddings, holding your first granchild, who will the LOs be thanking then, it will be you, mum. As for him he'll be there, but in the background, part of the crowd, the sad old git in the corner with the slaggy wife, contemplating where did it all go wrong.

F* him!!

Thank you helpwanted

How are things going for you MOAP? Just wanted to check in and say hello as I haven't be around so much this week.

Hope you and your DD are well.

Did I reaed right that you are needing a CS? I hope that goes ok.

Thinking of you, DD and your LO.

Hi Janos

I am having a c/s yeah but only becuase i had complications with DD so i have chose to have it planned this time instead of ending up with another emergency one.

Things are better for me today thank you , what about you? x

I'm good thanks MOAP and glad you're having a good day!

Planned CS sounds like a good idea and will be nicer for you and your new LO. is your stepmum going to be at the birth? She sounds great from everything you've said TBH.

I haven`t spoken to her yet, but i hope she says yes