Dating thread 223; Fresh starts and love hearts

[ButterflyOfShay]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

@Thisisworsethananticpated

What is ACTUALLY bugging me is that he's taking the piss and will humiliate me. Lulling me into a fall sense of security and will then rip out the rug from under me

Where do you think that comes from? I’m not therapising you , but getting hurt is as very rational fear and we all get it when we pen our hearts

But that wording is very clear , and doesn’t sound like how you have described him
Also humiliate ?
Anyway heavy , be happy 😊 x

Yup! Absolutely see where it's coming from now. Nothing to do with him whatsoever, me making him pay for another's sins again.

God damn trauma stuff. Constant battle of figuring out where I'm bringing stuff vs what's an actual problem. Still trying to get used to a non love bombing situation.

Just going to breathe (and take out all my frustration in the gym 😅😂)

Thank you@StartingAgain6369 and @Stepcount really appreciate your input.

I've no intentions of mentioning or asking about his wife, I figured that's something he should share if/when he wants to at this stage.

We are getting on very well and bouncing off each other, I don't think I've ever found it this easy interacting with an iron so soon. I'm trying to be sensible and not over invest, but I'm excited for our date, which is the first time in a long time I've felt like that about a first date so I'm going to enjoy it while it lasts I'll call him MrMind

Does anyone else get the 'Love your pics' comments.

[quote curmudgeonly007]@VanGoghsDog
Love women on top, which flavour would that be ?[/quote]
Vanilla. Obvs.

@Daydreamscometrue

Does anyone else get the 'Love your pics' comments.

That's pretty standard I think. And dull, in my personal opinion

Yes, I hate that, but I'm tetchy and hate being called lovely, or gorgeous or beautiful...etc by men I've never met.

InABetterPlaceNow
Well don’t be too hard on yourself
Christ the baggage we all have

@Daydreamscometrue

Does anyone else get the 'Love your pics' comments.

Yes, also you look ‘lovely’ Please Don’t tell your male irons they look ‘lovely’

I’ve got 4 irons
Bloody hell 😳
Mr Spanish (favourite)
Mr bosnia (very nice didn’t immediately fancy)
Mr asd (a bit low though )
And mr English , wants sex but only 20 mins away

And mr English , wants sex but only 20 mins away

45 mins all in then. Convenient!

VanGoghsDog

He inviting me for a threesome with a male friend
I’m somewhat shocked 😳
I’m like who’s the friend
My eyes

Ew I might have to block this one
He got all cagey about a walk on the local hill
And now he’s showing my photos to his mates for an orgy
Jesus

And he’s just send loads of porn through 🙈
Of 1 woman 2 man

45 mins all in then. Convenient!

You want to find in iron with DE, you’ll be wanting a refreshments break half way through

DE ?

You want to find in iron with DE, you’ll be wanting a refreshments break half way through

@curmudgeonly007

45 mins all in then. Convenient!

You want to find in iron with DE, you’ll be wanting a refreshments break half way through

We've had this conversation. I've been with a guy with DE. It's very dull!

I mean, as long as you get the climax what's the benefit in taking a long time to get there? Efficiency is everything! :)

Hello! Couldn't sleep so randomly listened to this and just had to share with you guys. All you need to know about dating apps...
www.bbc.co.uk/sounds/play/m000lv6l

@Thisisworsethananticpated
DE = Delayed Ejaculation, sometimes it takes me ages to get there or I just give up, I answered some questions on the thread below

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/sex/4450238-Tips-for-guy-who-takes-a-while-to-ejaculate

Can I join. I've been dating for nearly 2 years now and I'm getting jaded with it all. The last date I had a few weeks ago looked promising but he was not 5'11 at all , infact he was shorter than me and I'm 5'7 . That was a no from me .

@30somethingandstillsingle

Go and enjoy your date with Mr Mind, you're right about not mentioning her, let him lead the conversation on that

I had a friend, he was best man when I got married lost his first wife to breast cancer at 32, she never got mentioned after her passing, he bottled everything up.

I think it will be lots of small steps for you

@Inthesameboatatmo

Hello and welcome

Yes, it was mentioned a few threads back but men and the inability to correctly type in a height is quite common

@VanGoghsDog

And mr English , wants sex but only 20 mins away

45 mins all in then. Convenient!

😂😂

@Thisisworsethananticpated

Ew I might have to block this one He got all cagey about a walk on the local hill And now he’s showing my photos to his mates for an orgy Jesus

Oh my god 😖

[quote curmudgeonly007]@Thisisworsethananticpated
DE = Delayed Ejaculation, sometimes it takes me ages to get there or I just give up, I answered some questions on the thread below

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/sex/4450238-Tips-for-guy-who-takes-a-while-to-ejaculate[/quote]
It's great to read a man's perspective on this - I think it's a bit harsh to say that it's 'dull' to be with someone with DE @VanGoghsDog - surely it's about how it's handled and if between the two partners you can't communicate that you've had enough therein lies the 'dullness'?

I'm not sure I'd label my iron as having DE, although over the course of a weekend with plentiful shagging he will probably 'E' twice maximum and can keep going for absolutely ages... but it's certainly not 'dull'! Performance pressure is awful on both sides and I think it's hard when both of you care about satisfying the other and will therefore worry you might be somehow lacking if you don't orgasm.