Dating thread 223; Fresh starts and love hearts

[ButterflyOfShay]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

@gelatodipistacchio that does sound really tedious.

I’m sick of being constantly disappointed! I was chatting to someone who seemed really nice and interesting- he suggested we meet up sometime next week - I replied to say that I’d really like that and said when I’d be free - and have heard nothing more! It was a couple of days ago now, seems odd? If he isn’t going to pursue it it seems such a waste of time to even suggest meeting up. I seem to be encountering a lot of time wasters and it’s quite confusing

@Gettingonwithit12 this happened to me with my first foray into OLD. The guy suggested a walk the next day then ghosted. It was so bizarre. I came across him when swiping recently and gave him a hard left

WHYYY?

It really is so bizarre! I don’t see what can have changed in the short window between him asking and me saying yes perhaps he just likes the ego boost of someone agreeing to meet him but has no intention of actually going through with it?
A bit like the other one who requested my number to arrange a date and then I never heard from him again!
I’m learning not get my hopes up anymore

@gelatodipistacchio

Here it is! Probably not prudent to post but idgaf.

Hey how about a few totally random questions to get to know a little of the inner Gelato...

What is your favourite area of London?

What is your favourite piece of clothing?

What item would you rescue from your home first apart from humans and pets, if it was on fire?

What is your biggest vice; chocolate/ice cream, shoes, lingerie, gadgets or make up?

What adult has a favourite piece of clothing? And since when was lingerie a vice, it's a necessity.

Sadly, those two things make me think he's trying to see how "sexy" you are.

Ask him - if you were an animal what animal would you be and why? What colour best describes you?

Both equally meaningless!

@VanGoghsDog agree. And actually his whole list is kind of sexist.

I'm really worried that all men are inherently sexist and don't want a relationship of equals.

Lingerie
Hahahahaha
What a dick

What does he think we have drawers of exquisite fuxkinf lace underwear we put on every day

That said , maybe you all do? nd it’s just me !!!!

[quote gelatodipistacchio]@VanGoghsDog agree. And actually his whole list is kind of sexist.

I'm really worried that all men are inherently sexist and don't want a relationship of equals. [/quote]
I'm afraid I can't reassure you.....

@Thisisworsethananticpated

Lingerie Hahahahaha What a dick

What does he think we have drawers of exquisite fuxkinf lace underwear we put on every day

That said , maybe you all do? nd it’s just me !!!!

Even if you did, how is it a "vice"?

He's actually looking for kinks.

I had quite a friendly chat with disappointing date and I told him off for taking me to a shitty pub
I feel better now

I’m also having a very arousing kink conversation with w South American on hinge
Yet
Again
I’m getting off on messages not the real thing 🙈
If I ever say a real cock I’d probably faint

@gelatodipistacchio - I had a guy send me a list of similar questions and I stupidly answered them. He read them and unmatched me!

I'm afraid I can't reassure you.....

Your on tinder right ? That’s the french foreign legion of dating apps though

@Gettingonwithit12 - It is weird how they ask about a date but then disappear. I've given my number out and they've never bothered to get in touch.

@Daydreamscometrue hahaha oh no... probably for the best as he sounds like a dick

Daydreamscometrue

I had someone who asked what my favourite meal out would be
And like a Wally I replied
He also unmatched me 🤷‍♀️

@Daydreamscometrue sorry to hear it’s happened to you as well, but I am relieved it’s not just me! I can’t work out what I’m doing wrong, but perhaps it’s their weird issues and not mine? I feel like giving up a bit.

@gelatodipistacchio

Here it is! Probably not prudent to post but idgaf.

Hey how about a few totally random questions to get to know a little of the inner Gelato...

What is your favourite area of London?

What is your favourite piece of clothing?

What item would you rescue from your home first apart from humans and pets, if it was on fire?

What is your biggest vice; chocolate/ice cream, shoes, lingerie, gadgets or make up?

Well, it’s shoes, lingerie and makeup for me ! Obvs.

Jeez what a lame brain, no woman has ever asked me how much I spend on 🏍 gear or pants 🩲

@curmudgeonly007 I'm trying to think what the sexist/stereotypical version would be for a lady to a man. Perhaps angling to find out your income and willingness to spend on her?

@Thisisworsethananticpated

I'm afraid I can't reassure you.....

Your on tinder right ? That’s the french foreign legion of dating apps though

Nothing to do with Tinder, I'm on three apps anyway.

Just a comment on men generally.

@VanGoghsDog the patriarchy, innit

[quote gelatodipistacchio]@VanGoghsDog the patriarchy, innit[/quote]
Exactly.

Even the most enlightened of men have some odd ideas about women.

One of the things I liked about MrWG was I never got even a slight feeling that he looked down on women. Quite the opposite.

I know that some guys I chatted to in the past were asked about DIY skills ! And my close male friend who has been on and off the apps for a while said he often feels drilled by some of the women he chats with about the old chestnuts of height, car, job/income and house. I know he feels many women seem to have a fairly extensive set of expectations about these things. I’m sure we all apply them subconsciously to a certain degree but they wouldn’t have been at the forefront of my getting to know you chats. I guess we have assembled ourselves here on this thread because we are friendly, chatty and interested in people. It’s been said before I think we may be the exception and not the rule with OLDaters

[quote gelatodipistacchio]@curmudgeonly007 I'm trying to think what the sexist/stereotypical version would be for a lady to a man. Perhaps angling to find out your income and willingness to spend on her?[/quote]
2 women have asked about my job / income
1 asked if had ED or not
1 asked how big my penis was

I do talk about work because that's what I spend most of my time doing and I'm interested in people's jobs. I dint ask about cat, house or money. But they'd need a car to see me as I live in a village and I'm not picking people up!
And I'd expect them to have some sort of home. But I didn't ask about it.

I've not asked about DIY though.

I don't ask about car either, I might ask about a cat.

One guy told me all about his "eight inches", I asked if he was talking about his feet.

I've never asked about income. I can't imagine asking about ED, but I might be losing patience now so maybe I should start!

@Stepcount

I know that some guys I chatted to in the past were asked about DIY skills ! And my close male friend who has been on and off the apps for a while said he often feels drilled by some of the women he chats with about the old chestnuts of height, car, job/income and house. I know he feels many women seem to have a fairly extensive set of expectations about these things. I’m sure we all apply them subconsciously to a certain degree but they wouldn’t have been at the forefront of my getting to know you chats. I guess we have assembled ourselves here on this thread because we are friendly, chatty and interested in people. It’s been said before I think we may be the exception and not the rule with OLDaters

Yes, car/ income/ DIY skills / height/ “size”, yes have all been asked,

TBH ( and this may offend some people on this thread ), women seem to think is okay to ask pretty much anything they like - and expect an answer, And I’ve been blocked for asking less, so again no offence, but I’m pretty easy going and tell almost anyone anything, but some of questions I’ve been asked are pretty rubbish..

So here we go
52, Kuga, 6ft, / 7’ £55k, not got ED (yet) diy skills okay, no to skiing, or diving, yes to dogs, no to cats, no to swinging, no to being a “daddy” (sex thing), no to opera, yes to theatre, no the mile high club, yes to pubs, no to clubs, no to horses (sorry)

That’s about it