Dating thread 223; Fresh starts and love hearts

[ButterflyOfShay]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

@ibelieveinmirrorballs
I think it’s good idea really, they get hot, sweaty, injured, get in the way.
Having them on the outside is such a design flaw, that’s such a committee style decision, no practical thought process what so ever

Detachable would be a real step forward, every man should be issued with a brush steel or carved wooden box to keep them in when not in use.

[quote BelladiMamma]@VanGoghsDog your fitness routine sounds really good. I'm trying to do something similar to replace the 3 hours of daily exercise I used to take when I had the horse. I've put on almost a stone since I stopped riding.

I'm really missing the horse. And already thinking of buying another one. I need my head examined - literally! - as I'm still getting headaches and dizzy spells from the accident.

Oh well 🤷‍♂️ [/quote]
I don't think half an hour swimming three times a week is that great to be honest. My only aim is to be a bit more active, keep mobile at my grand old age.

@VanGoghsDog you eat really well. I've taken to making 1kg chicken curry which lasts us 3 days, then 1kg mince to make a cottage pie for 3 days. I vary this each week. Snackwise, I removed them all from the shopping as I felt it had become a real habit rather than what I actually wanted.

I’ll sometimes say things like ‘if we’re still together and you’re not bored of me by then’ to Mr Beard as don’t want to sound presumptuous/full of myself.

I always say stuff like this in relationships. Or "well, you're stuck with me now".

[quote Eesha]@VanGoghsDog you eat really well. I've taken to making 1kg chicken curry which lasts us 3 days, then 1kg mince to make a cottage pie for 3 days. I vary this each week. Snackwise, I removed them all from the shopping as I felt it had become a real habit rather than what I actually wanted.[/quote]
I don't eat mince really, which limits my ability to make bulky cheap dishes. I'll have it now and then.

I've nothing against it except I limit red meat to once a week (so if I make a mince thing I end up putting three portions in the freezer), and I'm not keen on mushed up meat and funny textures in my mouth (ASD).
I do make vegetarian dishes as well - lentil daal is a favourite.

Last week I got some sausages out of the freezer (another thing I buy in packs and freeze half of, and I'm not that keen on them anyway - see "funny textures") and had with mashed sweet potato and carrot and the last of the Brussels sprouts.

Maybe I'll root around and corale all the sausages and make a sausage casserole, that will get rid of them! I could do it in the slow cooker tomorrow.

@VanGoghsDog I think it sortof is half joking, half defence really. I know in my case I almost want reassuring that actually we will be together long term. I'm going to try and avoid too many jokes

@ReturnBunk and @BelladiMamma thank you for thinking of me with regards to the opera, unfortunately if its on the Monday I can't go as I have Brownies.

[quote Isitreallyme12777]**@ReturnBunk* and @BelladiMamma* thank you for thinking of me with regards to the opera, unfortunately if its on the Monday I can't go as I have Brownies.[/quote]
You won’t believe how much this has made me laugh, sounds like it’s straight from a sketch show.

“sorry miss, I can’t go to the opera if its on the Monday as I have Brownies.”
😂😂😂

@VanGoghsDog have you tried minced turkey? Might open up some meals for you, I use it pretty much in the same way as minced beef or lamb and it's widely available.
Also trying to watch what I eat & shift some weight. Trying to factor in some exercise but my injury is agony just now.
Looking forward to a weekend with Mr D, full of cold so we'll have to see what his bedside manner is like!

[quote Heartbeats0708]@VanGoghsDog have you tried minced turkey? Might open up some meals for you, I use it pretty much in the same way as minced beef or lamb and it's widely available.
Also trying to watch what I eat & shift some weight. Trying to factor in some exercise but my injury is agony just now.
Looking forward to a weekend with Mr D, full of cold so we'll have to see what his bedside manner is like![/quote]
I use minced chicken, turkey and pork at times. But they're all a bit dry and tasteless, plus they still suffer from the texture issue of mushed up meat that I'm not keen on. But, yes, I do use them now and then.

I really recommend the personal trainer route @VanGoghsDog, I go two to three times a week for HIIT and I really love it - first time I’ve ever really enjoyed exercise aside from skiiing, sex and dogwalking 😂

@curmudgeonly007 I'm glad it amused you 🤣

[quote Isitreallyme12777]@curmudgeonly007 I'm glad it amused you 🤣[/quote]
It's also a really cute reason not to be able to come 🥰

I thought @Isitreallyme12777 was staying at home to eat ...

@HairyArsedMan

I thought *@Isitreallyme12777* was staying at home to eat ...

To be fair, that's my usual reason for not leaving the house!

@Thisisworsethananticpated

gelatodipistacchio We ‘split up’ on new year day (overseas) It was driving me totally insane and wasn’t good for my mental health I came off this thread as I was embarrassed by it !!!! I got total limerence for that dude

Hence my ‘got to get under one to get over one ‘ approach

It’s helping , my obsession with him is down a good 60%

I had one of these… we were chatting for ages and kept nearly meeting up but never quite made it.. Mr JD.. I miss that iron!!

@curmudgeonly007

, it’s weird, on paper you really seem like a good match.

I met the lady in a Costa, looking out the window I could almost see the tumbleweeds blowing by like an old cowboy film.
Oh well, she bought me a Bakewell tart, you have to take the little victories sometimes.

Bakewell tarts are amazing! Shame the date wasn’t as tasty 😞

[quote Isitreallyme12777]@curmudgeonly007 I'm glad it amused you 🤣[/quote]
It reminded my of a Monty Python sketch..

Cannot possibly say which one..

@TedMullins

It is really interesting. I’ve also had experiences where someone seemed great on paper but then I met them and there was no spark at all. I don’t expect or build up anything in my head til there’s been an IRL meeting.

I’m the opposite of slow burn though - I’ve never had a friend I didn’t fancy who I then grew to fancy over time. Everyone I’ve dated I’ve fancied at the first meeting. I have friends who have had the slow burn and really encouraged me to give someone a go if they ticked boxes but I didn’t immediately fancy them, so last year I did just that. Lovely guy - similar outlook on life, ideologically matched, funny, reliable, generous - and six months in I was repulsed by the thought of him touching me. The attraction didn’t grow whatsoever. He was probably one of the nicest people I’ve ever dated, if a little dull, but the fact I hadn’t immediately fancied him just seemed to grow and grow until I felt I actively disliked him. So I’m sticking with my approach of having to feel a physical attraction on the first date, because I’m sure that if I don’t I won’t develop one. That’s just how it works for me.

Im exactly like that. I’ve always known instantly and it’s never been a grower situation for me.

@HairyArsedMan

I thought *@Isitreallyme12777* was staying at home to eat ...

Oh my god did you make those?? I want one!!

@ibelieveinmirrorballs it sounds like the comms with mr mixtape have stepped up a bit so hope you feel a bit less anxious now? Sounds nice 💕

@HairyArsedMan

I thought *@Isitreallyme12777* was staying at home to eat ...

Maybe there are some 'magic' ones in there 😜

And ... welcome back @HairyArsedMan

Don't be embarrassed about missing old irons who you weren't even in a relationship with. I was completely obsessed with Mr Straight, even now if I think about him I feel extremely anxious....it's such a weird feeling for someone you don't really know to have such a hold of you. Makes you think you are going crazy...me anyway.

I've noticed it's normally the first short relationship that never got off the ground after a longer / abusive on finished. That's the common theme I see 🙂

I also need to fancy them at first, it makes me more nervous if I do but I need to push through it or I end up with someone nice but I always feel something is missing.

And butterfly is that you Shayelle?