Dating thread 223; Fresh starts and love hearts

[ButterflyOfShay]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

I’m also curious about the meet up! Always up for meeting new people in London

@TedMullins

I’m also curious about the meet up! Always up for meeting new people in London

DM me or Bunk or anyone else who's said they're coming as we are all admins of the group

Aww @BelladiMamma I'm flattered you miss me. I'm coming to the meet up hopefully!

Little update from me.

Was hoping to see Mr Cricket this week but that's not looking promising as he is covering two different airports due to sickness and is only back for a couple of days at a time. We've been talking about catching up for weeks now, but it just doesn't seem to fit around our free times and his uber busy work schedule. I suppose at least he has kept to his word and hasn't disappeared, and we message a couple of times a week. It feels really odd though, and like the lines of our friendship have always been a bit blurred with the amount of contact we have and have had in the past (this truly hit home this weekend when I saw a friend who I hadn't seem for 7 months and haven't messaged much in that time, Mr Cricket and I message more and see each other more than I do with most of my friends). I suppose it is unchartered territory we are navigating right now, and we need to work out how we do it.

@Isitreallyme12777

Aww *@BelladiMamma* I'm flattered you miss me. I'm coming to the meet up hopefully!

Little update from me.

Was hoping to see Mr Cricket this week but that's not looking promising as he is covering two different airports due to sickness and is only back for a couple of days at a time. We've been talking about catching up for weeks now, but it just doesn't seem to fit around our free times and his uber busy work schedule. I suppose at least he has kept to his word and hasn't disappeared, and we message a couple of times a week. It feels really odd though, and like the lines of our friendship have always been a bit blurred with the amount of contact we have and have had in the past (this truly hit home this weekend when I saw a friend who I hadn't seem for 7 months and haven't messaged much in that time, Mr Cricket and I message more and see each other more than I do with most of my friends). I suppose it is unchartered territory we are navigating right now, and we need to work out how we do it.

Hiiiii 👋🏻

Good to hear from you. It's weird when people drop off the thread it's like friends you lose touch with 🥰

Have missed you too, @Isitreallyme12777. I hope you can make it to the thread meet, it'll be fab to see you ❤️

Ooh a little update from me too - I just had a lunchtime coffee date with a charming classical musician. He seemed nice, unpretentious and straightforward, I didn’t get fuckboy vibes. Too early to make any definitive assessments about him obviously, but I think we may meet again!

@TedMullins

Ooh a little update from me too - I just had a lunchtime coffee date with a charming classical musician. He seemed nice, unpretentious and straightforward, I didn’t get fuckboy vibes. Too early to make any definitive assessments about him obviously, but I think we may meet again!

Sounds great, @TedMullins ❤️

I had some good news this morning about my MH assessment- it's been brought forward to next Wednesday. 👍🏻

@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards that’s great news, hope they can help you x

@TedMullins sounds nice, I love someone who's creative / a bit different from the norm

@Isitreallyme12777 just thinking about your update. Do you feel that you know what you want from him and what your boundaries are? Having a clear idea of what you want and what you're willing to accept is a great place to start.

@BelladiMamma yes I do, I've been clear with him since it happened that I want our friendship to be okay and that is what my main aim is. Although I had a moment earlier where I was a bit overly sensitive and needy, where I did ask him if we were okay and now I feel a bit of an idiot for asking (if we weren't he would have said on friday when meeting up was mentioned),it's just he didn't reply to my message about coffee tomorrow and I went straight into overthinking mode. It's been a tough time, he knows part of what is going on (my uncle has terminal cancer and has 6 months to live) the other stuff(my ex has lung cancer) is very recent and I'm still trying to get my head around it.

[quote Stayingstrongish]@OnwardsEverStridingOnwards that’s great news, hope they can help you x[/quote]
@Stayingstrongish thank you. I'm happy they've moved me up the list. Would be having to wait until April otherwise ❤️

I just had a date ! Sadly the hot chemistry from the texts and video call didn’t translate to real life
Hey ho !

Can’t make an tortilla without breaking any huevos

Isitreallyme12777
Yikes i read your ex has lung cancer
That’s heavy
Remind me have you got kids together ?

@Thisisworsethananticpated

I just had a date ! Sadly the hot chemistry from the texts and video call didn’t translate to real life Hey ho !

Can’t make an tortilla without breaking any huevos

It’s fascinating how there is something about attraction/compatibility that we can only understand with face to face contact, and even an exciting video call is sometimes no indicator of how things will go. What was missing this time do you think?

@Thisisworsethananticpated no, no children thankfully. I don't feel anything and I feel really bad. I said to a friend I'm a cold hearted bitch (she disagreed) but maybe it's because it hasn't quite sunk in yet. It's not like I don't care for him because I still do, but my first thought was, is he lying.

@ButterflyOfShay

On a separate note who’s intending to come to the meet up? *@VanGoghsDog* *@ibelieveinmirrorballs* *@WeWantTheFinestWines* hope you all are? Be great to meet you 🙂

I don’t think I can make it as I have my DC that weekend - I hope you all have a fab time 🤩

ibelieveinmirrorballs
I don’t know ! He was nice
We chatted nicely
But no flirting sexy chemistry
And he didn’t fancy me either
You know you can tell ?

Oh and one minor complaint , I travelled to meet him . Which I didn’t mind . But he didn’t even choose a nice pub to go to , that annoyed me

So home by 8
Thank god I cycled to station and got some air and exercise out of it !!!!

isitreallyme12777

I’m so relieved you don’t have kids
That’s a major stress avoided for you , big time
Not your problem

TedMullins

Well I’m glad someone had a good date 😂

Glad to see @Naimee87 and @Isitreallyme12777 back!
Wow Naimee, that was a long time apart from the Magnet, nice that you've had a reunion!
Sorry to hear that news Isit, it's a lot to take in and I don't think you come across as cold hearted in the slightest. Tread carefully with Cricket, boundaries boundaries boundaries 💪

@ButterflyOfShay I am! ❤️

Glad most of us can get to the meet up, @BelladiMamma and @Eesha youre both in aren't you and @Stepcount? Hope so!
Where’s @ReturnOfTheBunk!
Hey @Naimee87 xx a CURSE on that shitty psycho teacher 😡
Sorry your date was a flop @Thisisworsethananticpated what a shame but at least you go out and saw for yourself.

[quote BelladiMamma]@gelatodipistacchio just from the way you describe him I don't think you're that excited. A video call is to screen people so maybe this has been a good thing as you've realised you're not suited. However, if you just want to get out there and back on the dating horse you could meet him for coffee?

@Stepcount I miss old posters too! @catinthehat and @Naimee87 and @Isitreallyme1277 and @HairyArsedMan and @kerkyra. Where are they now? And don't worry I'll warn everyone that I'm leaving too. The only thing is, if I left, I'd want to leave the door open to return so I wouldn't want a leaving party or presents or anything 😆 🎁 💜 💝

@VanGoghsDog has talking to the mutual friend given you any sort of closure? It's a really poor show from him. I'd totally be like you, wishing and hoping but also I'd completely lose my respect for him[/quote]
I don’t think i’ll ever leave. I’ll probably still be single 85 yrs old in a care home posting on the dating thread on mumsnet 🤣🤣

@Thisisworsethananticpated

TedMullins

Well I’m glad someone had a good date 😂

Oh don’t worry I’ve had plenty of dreadful ones. Had a shocker at the weekend - much uglier than pictures, talked about Bitcoin for an hour, I said I didn’t feel it and didn’t want to meet again and he text me when I got home asking for a shag! Off to blockity blocksville